Got Faith?

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about faith and trust….and asking myself, how much of it do I really have? And, what does it take to have 100% faith and trust that my life is unfolding exactly as it should?

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As someone who has had ongoing success implementing the Law of Attraction, I sometimes wonder if my desires arise because part of me already knows what is coming, or…do I influence what is coming because I create the conditions for it to arise?

Maybe it’s a little of both!

Here’s the part I know for sure: once I drop my desire into the Universal soup, it’s time to surrender and trust that what I have asked for IS ALREADY MINE.   So, wherever you are in your manifesting process….don’t forget this piece of the pie.

Mother Nature knows how to do her job.  You wouldn’t go pulling on the leaves of your tomato plant at 3:00am saying to it “grow faster, grow faster” now would you?

Here are a few of my favorite quotes on this topic:

“Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe.”
-Saint Augustine

“Faith is believing that the outcome will be what it should be, no matter what it is.”
-Colette Baron-Reid

“Faith is an oasis in the heart which will never be reached by the caravan of thinking.”
-Khalil Gibran

“Faith is the bird that feels the light when the dawn is still dark.”
-Tagore

Practicing “faith” takes a bit of discipline…we need to stay aware of our thoughts and beliefs and not let our monkey mind get the best of us. As a constant reminder, I’ve recently put a post it note on my computer that says “Got Faith?”  Yay!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Single and don’t want to be?  If so, please join me at the Omega Institute, Rhinebeck, NEW YORK – July 10-12th for The Soulmate Secret workshop that will give your love life a power boost! This stunning, rural retreat center, two hours north of NYC, is the ideal environment to go deep and the work  shop goes beyond the book and includes new transformative feelingizations and a fire-ritual to kick start your love life into high gear! Register here!

Life Is Short, Stop Waiting for “Someday”

Now that I am in the “final third” of my life, I totally get the “life is short” thing.

It’s really true. Life is short, and it goes by really, really fast.

Lifeis ShortLately I have been thinking about “if I knew then what I know now,” all the things I would have done differently.

I spent most of my life thinking that acquiring things and reaching goals were most important. The old, “I will be happy when” scenario.

What’s really true (at least for me) is that the biggest moments of joy and satisfaction have all come from experiences, not stuff.

I often would stretch or push myself to buy things – a new car, more clothes but when it came to experiences, somehow those didn’t seem as important.

Today I find that having great seats to an awesome concert or play or traveling to exotic places is where I most want to focus my attention. The memories of these experiences fill me up in ways that a new pair of shoes never will.

Here are a few questions to think about:

  • What are the experiences that will fill you up?
  • What is stopping you from doing them now?
  • Are you willing to make at least one of these experiences a priority for 2015?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. If spending 8 days in Bali exploring the sacred sites, temples, meeting with Shamans and Healers and being with me & Brian is something that appeals to you, please join us. More info here: www.heartlabtours.com

Two Minute LOVE fix!

A few weeks ago I was watching Grey’s Anatomy on TV and learned the most awesome thing!

Here was the scene: Dr. Amelia Shepard was standing in the surgical suite, about to perform a groundbreaking 17-hour brain surgery on a colleague.  She was scared out of her mind because if anything went wrong, her friend would die on the table.

Wonder Woman smallWhen her assistant arrived, she told her to stand with her feet shoulder width apart, hands on hips, chest and chin up in “wonder woman” pose for two minutes. Both women assumed the “wonder woman” position and by doing this simple act it gave them both the courage they needed to tackle the surgery. And, of course as great TV goes, it worked!

I began to wonder if this “wonder woman” pose was for real, so I did some research.  Turns out it is based in fact!  You can instantly re-claim your power and confidence by standing in “wonder woman” pose for just two minutes. Social psychologist, Ann Cuddy, has proven this works!  (check out her TED talk)

The next time you have to have a “difficult” conversation with a loved one or someone at work, try this….I think you will find that it’s easier to be more loving and compassionate when you aren’t filled with fear, dread or getting defensive.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Guys, this will also work for you!

Let Your Heart Heal Your Negative Thinking

When I was growing up in Hollywood, Florida we used to go to an arcade on the beach, next to the Band Shell, that was filled with all kinds of fun things to do, including my favorite, pinball machines. I loved watching the small silver ball bouncing around, creating pings and dings, and whenever I managed to hit the lever fast enough, I could send the ball shooting back into the game.

Playing pinball was an odd combination of fun, fear, excitement and stress.

Over the years, I have noticed that my mind is a lot of like a pinball machine. A fear-filled thought pops up….I try the lever to push it away; sometimes I am successful, but often it lands in a hole and I am suddenly “losing.”

The fear becomes worry and anxiety and sometimes, even obsession.

I am definitely not having fun.

When I stop to examine these negative thoughts, most of the time I realize that they are projections of what “could” happen, not what is actually happening in the moment.

Worrying and stressing out is not useful in any way.

One day I decided to stop torturing myself and figure out a way to transform my fearful thinking…or what the 12-step folks call “stinking thinking.”

Painting by www.sharronkatz.com

Today I have an “emotional, spiritual toolkit” that I access nearly daily when gripped by thoughts or feelings that are disturbing.

One of my favorite techniques is called a “Heart Lock-in” and it comes from the visionaries at Heartmath. Their research offers compelling evidence that the heart possesses its own intelligence and has great influence over how the body’s many systems align themselves. Heartmath scientists have found that when we focus on the area around the heart, while remembering and re-experiencing feelings such as love, appreciation or gratitude, the positive results can immediately be measured in our heart rhythms or so-called heart rate variability. They call this “heart coherence,” a highly desirable state that improves our emotional, physical and spiritual well-being.

Rather than try to “talk” myself out of having the disturbing thoughts, I change my focus completely with a “heart lock-in” and it only takes about five minutes.

Here’s how: Make sure you are in a quiet, comfortable space. Close your eyes and breathe slowly.  Shift your attention away from your mind and focus on the area around your heart.  I use my imagination and see myself breathing in and out through my own heart.

Then I call up a memory of feelings of gratitude or appreciation. I re-experience these feelings as if they were happening right now in present moment awareness.

After a minute of re-experiencing this, I let it go and call up a memory of a time when I felt love.  Any kind of love.  And I imagine it’s happening in the present moment.

I gently send these feelings of love to myself, I allow these feelings to wash over me like an ocean wave.

Finally, I take three more deep breaths, and then open my eyes.  Voila, no more negative thoughts!

With practice, a Heart Lock-In provides physical, mental and spiritual regeneration and resiliency. The next time you find yourself stuck in negativity,  manage your emotions by shifting your focus to love, appreciation and gratitude.

If you wish to learn more about heart coherence and the techniques and products of Heartmath you can visit www.heartmath.com

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Be A Love Generator

My dear friend David Wagner, discovered his life’s purpose while at work one day as a hairdresser. One of his regular clients came in unexpectedly for a blow out. David decided to give her an extra long head massage. As he shampooed her hair and lovingly massaged her scalp, he was, as usual, friendly and kind during their time together.

A few days letter he received a surprising letter from the woman. She wrote that she had come in for a blow out because her plan was to commit suicide and she wanted to look good at her funeral. But, because of David’s attention and love, rather than follow through with her plan, she decided life was worth living and she checked herself into the hospital and sought help.

DW Grammy JuneIn that moment, David had an epiphany. He realized that he was more than a hairdresser, more than a boss to 400 employees at his many Juut Salonspas in Minnesota…..he saw that he was in fact a “Daymaker.”

He now knew his purpose in life was to make someone’s day, to spread love, to be a love generator.

It’s a simple concept with a powerful effect.

If we all commit to be “Daymakers” in our lives, and the lives we touch, the world will quickly become a more loving place.

Below are some of David’s tips on how to be a Daymaker in all areas of life.

Make Your Lover’s Day

  • Write a love letter and send it in the mail. It costs 44 cents.
  • Send your mate’s parents flowers on your mate’s birthday.
  • Rent a tandem bicycle for the weekend.
  • Offer to take over something your mate usually does (like cook dinner).
  • Break out the best china this week, especially with kids. It will create a special night for everyone.
  • Ladies, send him flowers at work today. How rare is it for a guy to get flowers? Very rare! They love it!!

Make A Co-Worker’s Day

  • Offer to pick up lunch for someone you know is swamped.
  • If you have an SUV, offer to pick up others on a snowy day.
  • Pass the bouquet. Give someone special a bouquet and have them pass it on to someone else the following day. It’s a week of Daymaking with one bouquet!
  • Create a Daymaker of the Year award at work.
  • Write a thank you note to the boss. It’s lonely at the top. Everyone needs to know they’re appreciated for their work.
  • Acknowledge promotions; send a card to the employee’s home.
  • Grab coffee for your coworker on the way in!

Make A Stranger’s Day

  • Put a quarter in a gumball machine and walk away.
  • Let people merge in traffic today.
  • Carry thank you notes with you. Write them out to waiters and waitresses. It will surprise them more than a big tip.
  • Plug a parking meter that’s expired.
  • Help a stranger take their luggage off the carousel at the airport.
  • Buy a bike for your local children’s shelter.
  • Buy gift certificates to a car wash and leave them on the windshield of random cars.
  • Buy gift certificates to an ice cream shop and give them out on a hot day.

Make Your Own Day

  • Tonight make your home a spa. Use your favorite soothing music, scented candles, bath salts/oils, calming tea, and favorite robe. Unplug the phone, put the kids to sleep and enjoy two hours of bliss.
  • Buy fresh flowers on your way home tonight.
  • Call someone just to say, “I love you and I’m glad you are in my life.”
  • Watch the sunset.
  • Turn off your cell phone ringer during dinner.
  • Be an optimist today. Look on the bright side of everything that comes your way. Repeat it tomorrow.

To join David and the tens of thousands of Daymakers around the world, please visit: www.daymakermovement.com

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. In the photo above, David is being a Daymaker for his wife Charlie’s Grandmother, June. She will be 99 next month!

Can You Make Someone Fall in Love with You?

People often ask me how to use the Law of Attraction to bring back an ex lover or convince someone new to love them.  I do not believe this is the best use of the Law of Attraction and I am not even sure if it would work.  I don’t believe in impeding on someone else’s free will or destiny.

Couple cupsHowever, I recently came across some fascinating research that seems to have an excellent track record in having people fall in love and also having couples re-ignite their level of intimacy.

In a study published in April 1997 by State University of New York psychology professor Arthur Aron, a team of researchers discovered a method for creating closeness between two strangers. In laboratory setting, the team asked participants to use a catalogue of thirty-six increasingly personal questions and to then conduct an exercise of silently looking into each other’s eyes for four minutes.  The idea was to discover three common traits along with a series of other trust-building measures to quickly create trust and intimacy, the cornerstones of any lasting relationship.

In an article in the New York Times, University of British Columbia in Vancouver writing instructor Mandy Len Catron recounts her experience of re-enacting the experiment with a university colleague.  The intensity of the exercise was overwhelming. After several hours of conversation with her male colleague, she revealed that love is indeed an action. To their surprise, the test worked and they fell in love.

You can get the list of 36 questions here.

When you do this, remember, the most important part of the exercise is this:  after answering all the questions, you and your partner gaze into each other’s eyes, in total silence for four minutes.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,   

Arielle

Let’s meet in person!

It’s wonderful that we can connect online every week, but I would really like to meet you in person!

PINK-Hi-Res-headshot-touched-upIf you would like to spend some time with me, I have four upcoming, life-changing LIVE in-person events. Two events (in Chicago and Bali) are for both couples and singles, and the other two events are for singles that are ready to manifest the love of their life! If you are ready to be inspired to manifest real magic, please join me at one of these locations:

London – One Day Only: The Soulmate Secret Workshop – Saturday, June 6th
This will be a fun and fast-paced intensive one-day workshop to manifest the love of your life. Topics include:

    • Clarify your needs, intentions and desires to bring in a loving partner.How to meet your love “before first sight!”
    • Open your heart through the power of feelingizations – the secret sauce to manifesting successfully.
    • Transformational rituals and other energetic shifting processes that will empower you to create and attract the partner of your dreams.
    • Register here!

Chicago, Celebrate Your Life Conference – June 12-15th
This is amazing weekend event with some of the biggest stars in the personal growth world including: Iyanla Van Zant, Neale Donald Walsch, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Michael Beckwith, James Redfield, Carolyn Myss, Panache Desai, James Twyman, and many others. I will be presenting two 90-minute presentations on June 13th & 14th: The Soulmate Secret and also Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships.  Register here!

Omega Institute, Rhinebeck NEW YORK – July 10-12th
The Soulmate Secret Weekend Workshop
This stunning rural retreat center, two hours north of NYC, is the ideal environment to go deep with the secrets to manifesting the love of your life. This workshop goes beyond the book and includes new transformative feelingizations and a fire-ritual to kick start your love life into high gear!  Register here!

Bali, Indonesia –  August 29 – September 6, 2015
Join Brian and I for a transformational and fun journey: The Manifest Your Biggest Unmet Dream (even if you don’t know what it is) Magical Mystery Tour of Bali. This beautiful and spiritual island allows you to effortlessly “remove” all kinds of energies and beliefs that hold you back from fulfilling your biggest dreams, purpose or destiny. Each day you will experience one – two hour sessions to remove “what’s in the way” and lead you to “what’s next.” Plus there are daily excursions with us to sacred places to deepen the experience via Temples, Waterfalls, Rituals with healers and shamans, Jungle Walks, River Rafting, Yoga, Meditation, healthy food and much more. It’s for singles and couples, seekers, who are ready to discover what’s next for them.  Click here for details!

Looking forward to meeting you soon!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

When Being Right Is SO Wrong!

I am a recovered “need to be right” person.

I grew up in an era and a home where “being right” was highly valued.

From my first days in school, I saw that raising your hand and having the “right” answer meant you were smart.

At home “being right” meant being loved for being smart.

I was brainwashed into believing that when I was “right” I was good enough to be loved.  Quite the ego boost!

Wow, was I wrong.

As I grew up and matured, I found out there is something so much more important than being “right.”

Art by www.sharronkatz.com
Art by www.sharronkatz.com

It’s being “loved.”

I discovered that when I was committed to being “right” it always meant making someone else “wrong.”

So many of us like to assume a rigid stance and “dig in our heels” to fight for our point of view, and prove how “right” we are (often about some pretty stupid stuff).

The cost of needing to be right is hurting, harassing or humiliating the ones we claim to love the most.

Over the years, I have finally learned to manage my mind and my mouth.

I’ve learned that most of the time it’s not necessary to “correct” anyone on what I think is right or wrong unless it’s really pertinent to someone’s well-being.

Now, when I am smart enough to “catch” myself, and I am about to blurt out something in order to be “right,” I slap some imaginary masking tape over my mouth and choose love instead.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Magic of A Bucket List

The Magic of A Bucket List

About one year ago Brian and I were talking about the best concerts we have ever been to. I realized that I had never seen one of my all time favorite singers perform live….the amazing Stevie Wonder! In that moment, I declared that going to a Stevie Wonder concert was the #1 item on my bucket list. Six months later, I was reading the Los Angeles Times and came across a story for his upcoming concerts. We immediately bought 3rd row center seats.

What a night that was.

Best concert I’ve ever seen.

It exceeded all my dreams of seeing Stevie Wonder live in concert.

Having a bucket list is different from daily or yearly goals. It fulfills a big dream and creates an experience and warm memories that will last a lifetime.

Bri & Ari Bali gardenFor many years, visiting Bali was on my bucket list. I had heard about it, seen photos, and of course read about it in Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Eat, Pray, Love.

Three years we ago we went for the first time. Not only is Bali the most beautiful place I’ve ever been, spending time there provided me with unexpected and magical things I never anticipated.

Bali is a very spiritual island in Indonesia that is made up of Hindu’s who pray every day. These are happy, smiling, friendly people who seem to exist to make others happy. The weather is tropical, the food delicious, and the terrain and sites are like eye-candy.

I had expected the trip to be a fun and relaxing vacation, but I was blown away by how just BEING in Bali transformed me.

Energetically, this is a very special place.

The lack of density, the gentleness, the soothing energy and vibes, healthy food, and inherent mysticism of Bali took me to a deep, profound, healing and relaxing space. Prior to arriving there, I knew that I was stressed out, but what I didn’t know was how emotionally, physical and mentally depleted I was.

Bali wdancersBali changed my life.

Being there allowed me to “remove” all kinds of energies and beliefs that were holding me back and transformed my life for the better. Which led to unexpected amounts of creativity, better health and prosperity.

“Creating a transformative workshop in Bali” went to #1 on my bucket list.

Guess what happened next? I received an invitation from two women who have spent the last 20 years producing sacred journeys and workshops in Bali (asking to meet with us about the possibility of creating a workshop there). After learning about their successful experiences and meeting them, seeing and feeling the love they bring to their events, Brian and I agreed to do this!

We have named it: Manifest Your Biggest Unmet Dream (even if you don’t know what it is) Magical Mystery Tour of Bali.

We’d love for you to join us August 29 – September 6, 2015.

We will also be hosting a teleconference to share more details on March 12th at 5pmPT /8pmET. Sign up here for the call.

Or, if you are ready to just say YES TO BALI, go here: www.heartlabtours.com.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Are you really in love? (plus find LOVE on Facebook)

Did you get your heart broken in high school or college?

Or, did you break someone’s heart?

Are you single now?

Are they?

Fascinating new research shows that if you reconnect with someone from your past that you were once in love with and both of you are now single, there is a 70% chance that you can reconnect and have a happy life together!

Helen Fisher heartOne of my favorite TV shows, CBS Sunday Morning, recently did a segment on this topic, featuring Dr. Helen Fisher, and highlighted several couples that found each other again, including one woman who reunited with her Ex via Facebook. In spite of the fact that one of them dumped the other in the long ago past, these couples reconnected and are now happily married.

What happened?

According to Dr. Fisher, anthropologist, love expert, and Rutgers University professor, the brain chemistry and circuitry that first had them fall in love was “re-ignited.”

Why? Because chances are you will still find each other attractive, and you share important history together. There is a built in comfort level:  You already know each other…family, friends, and all kinds of background info. If you re-connect, you could have your brain chemistry triggered and voila, romance re-blossoms!

Dr. Fisher and her research partner, Dr. Lucy Brown, have a new website, where you can learn much more about love and they offer a fantastic quiz where you can discover if you really are “in love.”  They call it a Love Calculator and it measures the Passionate Love Scale. Try it now at www.theAnatomyofLove.com.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle



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