Getting Clean with Iyanla Van Zant

Iyanla Van Zant glided into the room chanting words of love and truth on a blanket of beautiful music. The crowd of more than a thousand welcomed her with a standing ovation and the fun began at the Chicago Celebrate Your Life event a few weeks ago.

IyanlaThis was my first time hearing her at a live event and she knocked my socks off. She is as funny as Jerry Seinfeld, as deep and soulfully wise as Jean Houston and as mesmerizing as Marianne Williamson.

What a treat to be in her presence!

She talked a lot about the hard work of building trust in order to build the faith necessary to manifest our good. She stressed the importance of learning to trust your self and learning to trust God.

She calls God her “Sugar Daddy!” (I love that)

Iyanla implored us to forgive ourselves for thinking we have ever done anything wrong and, in spite of bad or poor choices and decisions in the past, we must remember that we have survived.

She explained that “trust is a knowing and faith is a demonstration of what you know.”

Iyanla also shared about losing her beautiful daughter to colon cancer more than twelve years ago. In moments of grief, her daughter, who she calls an “angel of light,” sent her messages to release the “physicality” and told her “I am right here.”

She explained how the pain of losing a child never goes away but it does get easier and you can and must allow yourself to be happy.

Iyanla came to understand the meaning and purpose of the early departure of her daughter’s physical body and chose to honor her by continuing her work with essential oils, combining them with herbs that are designed to facilitate healing and restore balance to the body, mind and spirit.

She advocates cleaning and clearing how we think, what we feel, and what we believe, do, and expect by using these amazing products that are made with African black soap.

I’ve been using them and can tell you they are awesome. We all get “slimed” on a daily basis by our own thoughts and beliefs as well as being in the energy of others. With these products you can clear these energies and infuse yourself with the ability to attract goodness into your life. Check them out at www.MasterPeaceBodyWash.com

You can get your own dose of Iyanla later this year when her show, Iyanla, Fix My Life! premieres on Oprah’s OWN network September 19th.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Celebrating 17 Years of Marriage

Arielle & BrianSeventeen years ago, on June 22, I married my soulmate, Brian, in a beautiful, magical Hindu ceremony officiated by the hugging saint, Amma.

What I didn’t know on that auspicious day could fill a book!

Leading up to the wedding, I had never given any thought as to what I kind of wife and partner I would be to him.

Having written and manifested my extensive “soulmate wish list,” I had high expectations of what was in it for me, but never really thought about what was in it for him.

Early on in our marriage I made a horrifying discovery about myself: I had no partnership skills!

Having run a business for many years, I knew how to be the “boss” but was clueless about how to be a great partner.

Fortunately, Brian spent a good part of his life playing team sports and working in collaborative business partnerships. He modeled how to “play well with others.” Over the years I’ve learned from him and became better at surfing the relationship waves.

A few of the most important things I’ve discovered are these:

  • Love and gratitude. Every day I am grateful for his love and I make sure he knows it. We all receive love differently and one of the books that made a difference for me is Gary Chapman’s, The Five Love Languages.
  • Kindness and respecting your partner are absolutely essential. I’ve learned that we will never agree on everything and respecting our differences is critical.
  • Trust. This one took me awhile but eventually I came to truly understand and know that Brian always has my best interest at heart. (and his intuition is amazing!)
  • Creative solutions are best. We decided early on to make our big decisions not based on what does Arielle want or what does Brian want, but rather what is best for the relationship. It’s amazing how looking from this perspective gives an instant solution.

This is just the tip of the iceberg. My next book (coming out the end of the year) has everything I’ve learned as a “student of love” in it.

Brian is my hero. I call him my love chakra on legs. He radiates love and kindness and when I grow up, I want to be more like him and I am excited and grateful about the next 17 years!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Mantra to Manifest Love

Can you chant a mantra to manifest love? According to my friend, expert Lissa Coffey, the answer is a big yes. Below she explains exactly how to do it:

In the ancient Vedic texts, it is explained that everything is made up of sound. Sound, or vibration, is the purest form of energy. And there is no doubt that sound can affect us profoundly. Our words carry weight. We are moved by poetry, and hurt by unkind comments. The music we listen to can uplift us or give us a headache. Thunder makes us shudder. The voice of a loved one provides reassurance.

imagesMantra” translated from Sanskrit means “instrument of the mind.” Mantras are sounds made up of sacred sanskrit syllables, which when used together help to harness spiritual energy. Chanting mantras, or even merely reciting them, gives us access to our creative spirit, and brings harmony in our mind and body.

Mantras are used for various purposes, and there are many different mantras depending on exactly what you want to learn or manifest. And I have discovered a special mantra, from ancient India, that is specifically designed to help you attract a wonderful partner into your life.

In any endeavor, the results that we achieve are the result of the quality of our intentions. We need to begin our practice of using the mantra with a clear understanding of exactly what it is that we are going for. What do we want?

In the West, we tend to base our criteria for relationships on superficial values. For example, just speaking generally, men seem to want women who look good, and women seem to want men with money. Sure, we could look down the list of qualities we want in a mate and find a sense of humor, a love of family, and all those good things. But are we really defining what would satisfy the soul? The Vedic texts have a different way of placing value on a relationship, one that is meant to help us grow spiritually as individuals and as couples.

Using a mantra helps to both awaken, and to bring into balance, the Shiva and Shakti within us. At the same time, the mantra strengthens our power of attraction, it makes us like a magnet, people are drawn to us! This is another reason why we need to have a clear understanding of what we want. Our intention can’t merely be for “some rich guy” or “some beautiful girl.” When we are seeking our life partner, we are seeking someone who will respect and honor our energies, someone who will give their energy for our good in return. And we are seeking truth. From truth comes all those other great things that make a relationship last, including trust. So it is important to be clear not only in the words we say, but in the thoughts we think as well.

Here is the mantra to use when a woman seeks a man:

Sat Patim Dehi

This is pronounced: Saht Pah-teem Day-hee.

Translated this means: “Please bring me a man of truth and goodness.”

Understand that this is goodness in the highest form. Being a good person in every way.

Here is the mantra to use when a man seeks a woman:

Patneem Manoramam Dehi

This is pronounced: Paht-neem Mah-nor-a-mahm Day-hee.

It translates to “Please bring me a woman of truth and beauty.”

Understand that this is beauty in the highest sense. Beauty meaning inner beauty and goodness.

What determines the effectiveness of the mantra the most is how much devotion and concentration is behind it. Like everything else in life, we’ll get out of it what we put into it. If you are serious about your search, and have strong intention, you will want to put effort into this task.

While you can repeat your mantra anywhere, anytime of day, it is nice to set some special time aside just for the ritual of the mantra. Before beginning your practice, wash your hands, as this symbolizes purity. Imagine that the impurities of your mind are being washed away. Find a comfortable place where you can be quiet and undisturbed for awhile. If it will help you get in the mood, you may choose to sit facing the east, to light a candle, and/or to sit in a cross-legged position. Close your eyes, and concentrate on each syllable of the mantra. Mantras may be repeated either silently or out loud. Continue repeating the mantra over and over again. The repetition will bring you a deep sense of peace and joy. When you feel you are done, sit quietly for a moment, and give thanks to the Siddhas, the sages of Ancient India, for their wisdom and generosity in passing these mantras on for us to use. Then slowly open your eyes, take a few breaths, and go on with your usual activity.

It’s also a good idea to write your mantra on a piece of paper, and keep it on your bathroom mirror, so you see it in the morning. You can keep it on your refrigerator door, on the dashboard of your car, or tape it to the side of your computer monitor. This helps to keep the thought foremost in your mind.

Keep your eyes open, and your heart open – opportunities will arise and you want to be ready!

Be sure to check out Lissa’s new e-course, Dosha Mates. It’s all about Ayurveda and Relationships. You can use her Dosha system to find your perfect Dosha Match, or to enhance your current Match to be the most loving and satisfying it can be.

Find out more about Dosha Mates here!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. SINGLE and don’t want to be? Join me for the Soulmate Secret Weekend Workshop, at Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, July 10-12th. This workshop goes beyond the book, and includes new transformative feelingizations and a fire-ritual to kick start your love life into high gear! This stunning, holistic, rural retreat center is two hours north of NYC. Get more info here!

What’s In The Way of Love?

When it comes to having more LOVE in your life, total clarity on how you desire to feel is the first step.

For those of you who are hyper focused on the “form” your love comes in, I am inviting you to shift into the “feeling space” and for just now, let go of your wish list regarding the physical form (on all levels) you think you need. (The Divine may have something in mind for you that is beyond your ability to conceive of right now.)

Here’s a little exercise to try every morning for the next week that will assist you in having and feeling more love in your life.

When you begin to wake up, before you even open your eyes, imagine that your life is filled with more love than you ever thought possible.

Using your imagination, begin to sense all the loving people in your life from soulmates to friends to family to pets (and don’t forget yourself!)

imagesIn this moment, how are you feeling?

Loved? Happy? Safe? Serene? Excited? Relieved? Filled with gratitude? Content?

Allow yourself to experience the depth of your positive emotions for all the love connections in your life.

In your mind, whisper to each of them words of love, appreciation and gratitude for all the ways they enrich your life.

You do not need to know how or when this reality came to be, just feel the deliciousness of their divine presence and breathe them in.

Thank them for the gift of sharing a life with you.

Tell them that you now know and trust that they are always with you.

Beam your love to each of them.

Put a big smile on your face, swallow the smile and let it land in every organ of your body, and when you are ready, gently open your eyes and begin your day.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Join me for the Soulmate Secret Weekend Workshop, at Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, July 10-12th. This workshop goes beyond the book, and includes new transformative feelingizations and a fire-ritual to kick start your love life into high gear! This stunning, holistic, rural retreat center is two hours north of NYC.  More info here!

Top 10 Ways To Have Fun This Summer

Summer funMy favorite season has arrived – Summer!

 

I love that the sun is out till past 8pm, and we can enjoy the warm breezes, and all the yummy, juicy fruit that is in season.

 

To make the most of this special time, I do extra long range planning to create memorable, special summer events that will be fun for all.

 

1) What’s summer without a picnic? Select your favorite spot in nature and plan a gourmet picnic with some of your favorite peeps and fave foods. This summer there are four Full Moons and three New Moons. The Full Moons are on June 2, July 2, July 31 and Aug. 29 and the New Moons are June 16, July 16 and August 14. Pick one of these dates to create a special manifestation ceremony and invite friends to participate in the ritual and the picnic.

 

2) Check the entertainment section of your local paper and find an outdoor concert to go to. We have tickets for the San Diego Pops by the Bay in August to see Esperanza Spaulding…can’t wait! (And with many outdoor concerts, if you can’t afford the tickets, you can always go nearby and still enjoy the music.)

 

Jumping on the beach3) Plan a beach or lake day with one person that you love talking to. Every summer my friend Margaret and I meet at La Jolla Shores Beach for our annual beach day. It’s a 20-year tradition and gives us lots of time to catch up.

 

4) 4th of July is a natural for a fun and creative gathering. Plan early and make it a night to remember with friends and family.

 

5) Make watermelon sorbet. I found a simple recipe on the internet last summer….super delicious and very easy to put together.

 

6) Finally read that one novel you’ve been thinking about. It doesn’t have to be a literary heavyweight book, just something that will bring you joy. I love mysteries and chick lit. Just finished Girl On A Train – it’s a 10!

 

7) Do at least one thing that will give you a BIG adrenalin rush. Things like a crazy, scary rollercoaster ride, bungee jumping, try the trapeze, go hang gliding, the big slide at the water park, or climb the wall at the gym!

 

8) Speaking of scary – get up close and intimate with someone (whether it’s a blind date or your mate of 30 years) by answering the 36 Questions by Dr. Arthur Aron (You can get the questions via google).

 

9) Host a movie night at your place – make it a potluck dinner and pick a genre. I love stupid funny movies like Legally Blond and Beverly Hills Chihuahua (which is surprisingly good!)

 

10) Find an ice cream truck or old fashioned ice cream parlor (take a friend or two) and eat your favorite treat from your childhood while sharing memories of your summer breaks as a kid.

 

Summer is going pass by in a flash so remember, if you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always gotten, so to make this summer different and special, make a plan today!

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 

Arielle

When Life Sucks

Whether you’ve lost your job,

Been dumped by a lover,

Had a family member or friend (or you) get seriously ill,

Or someone has died…

There are days, even months or years, when life sucks.

Surviving these times with grace isn’t easy, but it is possible.

When this happens to me, the first thing I do is allow myself to feel as upset and miserable as I do.

Trying to suppress my true feelings, ignore them, or pretend they aren’t there is just a set up for more bad feelings.

Next, I share my feelings with someone I really trust. Someone who won’t automatically try to “fix” me but has enough emotional intelligence just to sit and listen and hold the space for me. Someone who can be with me in all my misery. (These are rare people, choose wisely.)

 

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Then I go into research mode and look for solutions that might make the situation better or more tolerable. And, if I find solutions, I don’t try to do everything at once but rather take baby steps.

And, I also take time to chill out and give myself a break by eliminating responsibilities that can wait while I sort things out.

I take time to remember that even though things suck right now, it won’t always be this way. In fact, most of the best things that have ever happened to me were initiated or a result of the worst things that have ever happened. (Really!)

Most importantly, I make a daily gratitude list of all the good in my life.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Opposite of the Bucket List

We all know what a bucket list is – those lifelong dreams of things we want to experience or acquire…things we imagine are going to fulfill or exceed our expectations.

Several months ago I shared with you when I fulfilled one of my bucket list items of seeing Stevie Wonder live in concert. It was awesome, amazing, dazzling, spectacular ….everything I hoped it would be.

Bucket lists are a good thing.

I have now discovered what the opposite of a bucket list is.

Turns out that every January 1st my New Year’s Resolution list has the same items on it…year after year. Things such as:

    • Learn to speak Italian. (I can almost read an Italian menu but that’s about it)
    • Do weight training three times a week. (if I get to Pilates once a week it’s a miracle)
    • Go snow skiing.  (I haven’t been on ski’s since 1993)
    • Scuba dive the Red Sea (I haven’t been diving since 1996)
    • Cook a traditional Thanksgiving Dinner from scratch. (I’ve never cooked a turkey)
    • Take up ballroom dancing and learn the Samba. (I no longer even watch Dancing With The Stars)

I have finally realized that I will most likely never do any of these. Leaving them on my “To Do” list takes up energetic bandwidth. I have finally moved ALL these items to a new list – my F*#k It List.

Poof. Gone.  Vanished.

No more wishing, hoping, fantasizing.

The truth is, none of these are a high priority and I want to free up my mind and spirit to enjoy the things I truly have a passion for.

Now it’s time to go take a nap!

Puppy nap

 

 

 

 

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Spiritual Benefits of Shopping and Tithing

We go shopping for all kinds of reasons:

  • The fridge is empty and we need bread, milk and eggs.
  • We’re craving chocolate or cheesecake.
  • We need new shoes and a little black dress.

We shop for necessity, for fun, excitement and for all kinds of reasons. I am not a big shopper. These days I would rather be getting rid of stuff rather than acquiring new stuff, except when it’s something to which I can attribute meaning or purpose.

I’ve discovered we can shop for spiritual expansion.

Here’s how I do it:

When I accomplish something really big, something I have worked long and hard for, I buy myself what I call a “push present.” I recently completed writing my tenth book and bought myself a beautiful new ring that I wear nearly everyday.

ringsHow’s does this expand me spiritually?

The ring is a physical, constant reminder and proof of my abundance and prosperity that comes from the part of me that is connected to the Divine. And, every time I look at this ring it makes me smile and remember that I have accomplished something that I am really proud of.

When I buy myself a push present I also “tithe” the same amount I spend to someone or something that provides me with spiritual sustenance. This creates even more fulfillment with me.

What is expanding you spiritually these days?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

What Do Men Want?

What do men want? That’s a big question and one that I have been researching for years. In fact, when my next book comes out next January, I will be unveiling my take on this topic as well.

I recently came across Kate, who has great information and a story about what men want. If you are looking to gain insight into the mind of a man, this is worth checking out.

Below is the start of her wisdom and if you want more, you can click on the link at the end for a video that goes deeper. (…and in full disclosure, she does have a $37 product to sell with the full scoop of what she has to teach on this topic.)

Kate says:

Having a man close to you is a wonderful feeling…

  • The warmth of his embrace…
  • The smell of his skin…
  • The safety and comfort when you’re near him…

And one of the most frustrating things a woman can feel is the suspicion that you might have accidentally pushed him away…

That you may have even scared a good man off for good.

Well, the truth is this (WARNING – I’m not going to sugar-coat this): The reason he doesn’t want you or desire you is simply because you never made him feel like you really “GET” him.

imagesYou Gotta Show Him You GET Him!

Let me explain…

Most women think it’s enough to make herself look appealing by fixing her hair, makeup, and clothes. The usual “peacocking” stuff that captures his eye. The thought goes that, if you make yourself LOOK good enough, he’ll desire you and fall in love with you. But this is backwards. And it feels “desperate” to men.

YES, you absolutely do need to be appealing to the eye (and that does NOT mean you need to look like a supermodel or have backbreaking boobs.) There is no question that this will initiate interest. HOWEVER… What he REALLY needs to feel is that you UNDERSTAND him as a MAN…. And you’d be VERY surprised how easy it is to send a guy the wrong signal and make him think you don’t get him AT ALL.

For example: A lot of women pretend to understand a man in order to pry open his heart. But it backfires on her when she doesn’t do it the right way. Like when she pretends to be interested in his hobbies or sports or television shows, but it’s just her faking “good behavior.” You know, that “getting to know you” pretending that both men and women sometimes do.

QUICK SECRET: Men And Women Have Developed a Keen Radar For BS!

Most human conversations (these days, anyway) tend to have the feel of: “Mmm hmmm. Mmm hmmm. Just waiting for my turn to speak.”

To be fair, we all get a little nervous on dates. And we want to yak it up and make a good impression. But sometimes we gotta drop the whole “Facebook culture” thing and not need to broadcast ourselves or our lives.  SO when a woman pretends (even if she’s really sure she’s putting up a good act of interest), an alarm goes off in his head when he figures it out (and believe me, he DOES) – and then slams the door to his love on you.

It can happen on the first date – or the umpteenth… There’s no statute of limitations here. You have to show him that you not only understand MEN – but the unique things about HIM as a man.

  • Do you know WHY men brag? (Hint: This presentation will explain that whole “egotistical braggart” thing some guys do.)
  • Do you know what the sign of a man’s interest is that you’re probably missing? (Yup, it’s the presentation, too…)
  • Do you know how to make him feel like a man, and not just a possible meal ticket? (That’s a real concern for a lot of guys.)

So, we men know when a woman “GETS” us – and is on our team – and when it’s just a trick to get us to dig her. But if you show him the “Secret Signal” he’s looking for – he instantly melts for you. If you show him this Signal, you can have just about any man spellbound – IRRESISTIBLY desiring you. (It’s almost like cheating.) Oh, and if you think that the “Secret Signal” men are looking for is SEX – that’s NOT it!

TIP: the “worst” mistake you can make is to sleep with him too quickly just because you think he might “move on” if you don’t…

Let me explain…

I just got off the phone with Rebecca – a client, who’s now a close friend of mine. After losing her husband to another woman, at the age of 39, well – she’s falling back in love, and talking about a new baby. Now, if you had seen Rebecca just 3 months ago at the mall, where they had an argument so loud and scary that the police had to escort them out (no joke)… You would NEVER have thought this was possible. But she pulled it off… I gotta hand it to her.

You see, what Rebecca discovered was the ONE thing that men desire most of all from women. And if you think it’s that same three letter word that starts with S and ends with X….NOPE. Not that at all.

Again, so many women assume that this is what men want, and ALL they want. It’s such a well-known and accepted fact about men that it must be true… right?

Actually, no.

SECRET TIP: What Do Men Want?

I’ll give you a little hint about what he needs – It’s called APPRECIATION. Men THRIVE on appreciation. In fact, he wants to feel this more than he wants to feel love from you.

Why? Because it’s one of the signals that tells him he’s doing things RIGHT. It’s the ONE way he knows he’s making you happy, when you appreciate him. Appreciation is the male form of LOVE!  It’s also one of the reasons he falls in love in the first place. But, inevitably, the appreciation starts to wane. And then the distance creeps in….He seems distant or hard to reach.

OR – if you’re just going out on a first date with him, but things fizzle – and you never hear from him again. What happened? Chances are, you missed showing him THIS secret signal.

Here – let me show you how to stop this from ever happening again…

If you’d like to know what this Secret Signal is that makes men desire you uncontrollably, I’d like you to watch this new video presentation. And you’ll also discover something incredibly exciting – a NEW way for you to unlock the secrets of the male mind. Don’t let something interrupt you – Go Here NOW!

FYI, the video is about a half hour and you can start and stop it whenever you wish.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Got Faith?

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about faith and trust….and asking myself, how much of it do I really have? And, what does it take to have 100% faith and trust that my life is unfolding exactly as it should?

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As someone who has had ongoing success implementing the Law of Attraction, I sometimes wonder if my desires arise because part of me already knows what is coming, or…do I influence what is coming because I create the conditions for it to arise?

Maybe it’s a little of both!

Here’s the part I know for sure: once I drop my desire into the Universal soup, it’s time to surrender and trust that what I have asked for IS ALREADY MINE.   So, wherever you are in your manifesting process….don’t forget this piece of the pie.

Mother Nature knows how to do her job.  You wouldn’t go pulling on the leaves of your tomato plant at 3:00am saying to it “grow faster, grow faster” now would you?

Here are a few of my favorite quotes on this topic:

“Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe.”
-Saint Augustine

“Faith is believing that the outcome will be what it should be, no matter what it is.”
-Colette Baron-Reid

“Faith is an oasis in the heart which will never be reached by the caravan of thinking.”
-Khalil Gibran

“Faith is the bird that feels the light when the dawn is still dark.”
-Tagore

Practicing “faith” takes a bit of discipline…we need to stay aware of our thoughts and beliefs and not let our monkey mind get the best of us. As a constant reminder, I’ve recently put a post it note on my computer that says “Got Faith?”  Yay!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Single and don’t want to be?  If so, please join me at the Omega Institute, Rhinebeck, NEW YORK – July 10-12th for The Soulmate Secret workshop that will give your love life a power boost! This stunning, rural retreat center, two hours north of NYC, is the ideal environment to go deep and the work  shop goes beyond the book and includes new transformative feelingizations and a fire-ritual to kick start your love life into high gear! Register here!



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