Happiness. You can make it happen.

 Lately it seems that nearly everyone I know is having major life challenges. So many people are depressed, anxious, unhappy. When I was in my twenties I went through a very painful time of deep depression….I know how hard it is to pull out of that. I was seeing a shrink and on antidepressant drugs. One night, while at a big party, watching everyone seemingly having a great time, I made a decision. I decided that I would study happy people and I would do whatever it takes to become a happy person. This was the beginning of my path of personal growth.

While it didn’t happen overnight, by reading books, attending workshops, working with a nutritionist (turns out I have hypoglycemia so eating regularly is really important for my stability) and asking happy people lots of questions, I finally found my way to happiness.

We can’t always control our circumstances but we do have a lot of control over how we respond to life. When life gets tough, it helps to remember that that bad times don’t last and often the worst stuff turns into the best stuff. Getting through a difficult day requires that we try to figure out the baby steps we can take to get through the next five minutes. And get through the five minutes after that. For me, sometimes just focusing on one little thing I am grateful for is all I need to do. You can call a friend. Or walk your dog. Or pet your cat. Do something to put you into a state of gratitude and grace.

I have what I call my “toolbox” of methods to shift me from upset to happiness. It includes EFT Tapping, the Institute of Heartmath’s “heart lock-in techniques,” and the Sedona Method. All of these are easy to learn and I have found them to be very effective. (And, if you are severely depressed, please reach out for professional help.) Also, Marci Shimoff’s book, Happy For No Reason is an excellent resource.

I use at least one of these methods on a daily basis and have discovered that it really is possible to choose happiness once you know how to do it. My ultimate goal is to reach Santushta. This is a Sanskrit word which means complete unshakeable contentment, imperturbable happiness.

Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses,


The Drug You Must Give Up to Manifest Love

My wise and brilliant friend, John Assaraf, recently wrote:

“The older I get (and hopefully wiser) I realize that some people are just happiest (or most comfortable) when they are miserable.

I know it’s an oxymoron but it’s true. As I travel the world sharing the lessons and specific strategies for achieving success, I come across so many people who prefer to be right vs change and have what they say they want.

The drug of choice today is “Hopium” where people hope for things to get better and do nothing to help themselves and the inflammation disease that many suffer from is “Excuse-itis” an inflammation of the excuse gland.

Success is about learning how to do the right things, in the right order at the right time… and then …. Just do it!”

I agree with John. I often see the same thing.

Sometimes, without consciously realizing it, we are addicted to suffering, trapped in our misery. Stuck in our story….the story that we just can’t (or don’t deserve) what we most desire.

And, it doesn’t have to be that way.

If you been living on “hopium,” or you need more inspiration and direction to manifest your heart’s biggest desire and if NOW is the right time for you to finally find true love, then don’t miss out on the most celebrated love event of the year!

I’ll be hosting along with the amazing Claire Zammit as we share everything you need to know about finding love, FOR FREE!

Register now to attend The Secrets to Finding True Love Online Event, starting Thursday, September 11th.
A taste of what you’ll discover:
  • How to identify your “love personality type” and understand how it determines who you love, as well as how you attract love to you
  • A simple, quick and effective technique for releasing past emotional trauma and blockages so you are fully available to your Soulmate
  • The secret process that turns your longing into a powerful magnetism for love
  • The do’s and don’ts of making a specific list to manifest the right person
  • The 4 most attractive qualities to men, and how you can authentically embody them.
(We will also have plenty of tips for men seeking love as well!)

To save your seat, you can register free here.
Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses,


First dates, Food & Your Appetite for Love & Life

Dating, whether you love it or loathe it, is an indispensable part of the soulmate manifestation process. Eventually there will be a “first dinner date.”
What, and maybe more importantly “how” you order, will let him or her know if you have a healthy appetite for love and life, as well as whether or not you are high maintenance, and so much more.

On these early dates we want to let our large appetite for life, our enthusiasm for life, really shine through as much as possible. 

For those of you with gluten or other sensitivities (I fall into this category), it might be best just to order something you know is “safe” for you to eat, rather than engage in a big conversation with the server which will lead to a talk about your various ailments. This isn’t the best “first dinner date” conversation to have.

If you are vegan or vegetarian, no problem, as long as you aren’t sitting in judgment if your date orders a steak. I believe that everyone has to decide for them selves which foods best serve their body type. If you are a strident vegan, and you can’t watch anyone eat meat products, that is something to figure out BEFORE you go out on a dinner date. 

For those of you “foodies” out there…be adventurous and let your date know that you love trying new things. Foodies need to find each other!

One other thought: Judging how someone else eats, even if you believe they are harming themselves, is toxic to you not them.

What got me thinking about all of this was a blog I recently read by Katie Oldenburg at www.thefrisky.com on this topic. Here’s what she thinks your first date food order says about you… you decide for yourself!

Anything With Garlic: I have no self-awareness or foresight … or I don’t like you.

Tacos: I’m impulsive and a short-term thinker.

Burger And Fries: I want something delicious because I’m hungry. It’s not glamorous and you may judge me for it, so go ahead.

Buffalo Wings: I’m adventurous and not afraid of getting down and dirty.

Pasta: I’m a romantic. There’s something seductive about a savory plate of pasta, as long as sauce isn’t dripping all over the place.

Steak: I’m dominant and powerful. Anybody who wants to slice into a big filet with a steak knife says “I’m in control” (and maybe that attitude will spill into the bedroom later on).

Chicken: I play it safe. May be perceived as boring.

Pizza: I’m down-to-earth. I’m not too uppity, but I also might not be very adventurous.

Meatloaf: I’m not here to impress you. There’s nothing impressive or sexy about meatloaf, therefore there’s nothing impressive or sexy about this date.

Quesadilla: I’m fun, easy going and playful.

Surf And Turf: I’m fancy, sort of materialistic and don’t care about money, because you’re paying.

Salmon: I like you and consider your feelings. I chose a lean piece of fish that’s not too smelly or hearty, tastes good and is classy.

Chicken Fingers: I am a child trapped in an adult’s body and am unaware that you’re probably judging me.

One last thought. When I was dating, I would generally eat something before going out to dinner, because I didn’t want anyone to see just how ravenous I can become when I get hungry and I am a super sloppy, messy eater. I would generally order something that I liked ”enough” that wouldn’t end up all over me, or them!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Celebrating 16 Blissful Years

This past weekend Brian and I celebrated our 16th wedding anniversary. Wow, does time fly! One of the assumptions I had about marriage was that the longer I knew my partner, eventually I would be a bit bored….so not true! Brian continues to be most loving and fascinating person I have ever met, and we have so much fun together!

In 1998 we had three weddings. This photo was from our “legal” wedding where we had rock star Kenny Loggins who volunteered to be our officiant and wedding singer!

I was reflecting on what it took for me to become a first-time bride at the age of 44, and thinking about all the years I was certain that I would never find “the One.”

I had such a history of bad relationships, bad choices, that even my own mother had lost hope for me.

I’ll never forget the morning I woke up, at age 43, and made the decision to figure out how to manifest a soulmate. I still get excited remembering how my mind went into overdrive thinking about all the various prayers, processes and rituals I had used to manifest a highly successful career, that I would now transform into a soulmate manifestation process.

What I didn’t know then, is that not only would I manifest to most perfect man in the world (for me), but that I would be reach a level of happiness that I never dreamed possible.

For the past ten years I have been teaching this process, to thousands of men and women around the world, and nearly every day I receive an email, phone call, letter or Facebook message from happy couples who have found each other through the Soulmate Secret process.

I never tire of reading these success stories, they just make my heart sing knowing that more people how found the love of their life.

Here’s what I now know for sure: Finding true love is possible for an one at any age, if you are willing to prepare yourself on all levels to become a magnet for love.What you may not know is that you might have some “soulmate blockers.” These are unconscious thoughts, beliefs or energies, that are getting in your way.

If you want to clear them, then I invite you to join me for a free teleseminar, that just might make all the difference in the world for you.

It happens this Thursday on August 14th – don’t miss it!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Make Someone As Happy As You Would Like To Be for Epic Love

Strawberry CoupleWhen manifesting a soulmate, it’s so easy to think about what we want from the relationship, focusing on our needs, hopes, wishes and desires for an epic love life.

But, what if, there were another dimension to the process that can help you speed things up? There are thoughts and energies that contribute to the process, many of which you may not be thinking about. Let me give you just one example:

Many years ago my friend Maxine desired to meet and marry her soulmate.
She decided to pray, and her prayer was very simple, but she said it with deep intention and love. This was her prayer:

“I will create my perfect partner for lifelong love in order to make someone as happy as I would like to be.”

Now this may sound hard to believe, but within one hour she met her soulmate. They have now been blissfully married for twenty happy years.

If you spend a lot of time thinking, hoping, wishing, fantasizing about life with a soulmate and you aren’t making a lot of progress, I invite you to join me for a free teleseminar, that just might make all the difference in the world for you.

It happens on August 14th – don’t miss it! Register Now

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


How To Be The LeBron of LOVE


This morning Brian and I were talking about NBA superstar, LeBron James, and what it took for him to achieve greatness…all the dedicated hours of practice, energy, focus, and most importantly, desire.

I realized that many of the same things apply to manifesting a soulmate, without as much sweat!

Are you ready to get onto the Court of Love and finally win?

Let’s begin with DESIRE.

Ask yourself this question: Why do I desire a soulmate?

Really get in touch with how you most want to feel with him or her.

Loved? Cherished? Adored? Supported?

Blissed out in a partnership with someone who really “gets” you and loves you warts and all?

Take a little time each day to really feel what it feels like to experience this level of love (and use your imagination!).

For those of you who are really BUSY, it’s important to accept that finding love requires you to invest some time. This includes times to do the manifestation steps, the feelingizations, etc. And, this also includes making time to date and going on dates.

So often I hear: “I’ll make time to date when I meet someone.”


That isn’t going to work.

You need to start scheduling time into your calendar now. Nature abhors a vacuum. Create the time in your calendar today to be filled up by dates.

Manifesting love also has a monetary cost involved, an investment. Whether it’s for joining online dating sites, updating your wardrobe, therapy or coaching, create a budget and be prepared to INVEST in your love life.

Last week I watched a TV interview with a 70+ woman who invested $2,000 with a matchmaker, and is now happily married to her new soulmate. The host asked her: “That’s a lot of money…was it worth it?”

“Of course,” she said while glowing and kissing her new guy!

If you spend a lot of time thinking, hoping, wishing, fantasizing about life with a soulmate and you aren’t making a lot of progress, I invite you to join me for my upcoming Soulmate Secret 7 Week Online Course. This is the only time this year this course will be offered. I will take you by the hand, and walk you through the steps in an easy and fun process.

This course goes way beyond my book and includes new processes, new feelingizations, and much more. Plus you will be part of a community of other dedicated love seekers that will support you in your process.

If you are serious about fulfilling your heart’s desire for love and youare willing to make the investment of time, money and energy, sign up NOW for the free teleseminar that happens on August 14th!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Manifesting A Man who LOVES Women

When creating your soulmate wish list of the heart traits and qualities you most want your beloved to possess, one item to keep in mind is this:

A man, who knows how to love a woman.

My experience has been that men, who have a great relationship with their own mother, tend to have skills in this area.

Be sure to think this part through as you continue to manifest the soulmate of your dreams.

Seventeen years ago, when I wrote up my soulmate wish list, this was a key item for me and I even added that my future mother-in-law would be someone that I would enjoy as a friend and family member.

When it comes to mother-in-laws’, I hit the jackpot.

Peggy XmasPeggy Hilliard is a dream come true.

From the moment we met she welcomed me into her family. As I was getting to know Brian, and soon his two older brothers, it was clear that she had reared them to love and respect women….she raised three gentlemen.

A deeply loving, caring and super friendly woman, Peggy is someone you just want to spend time with.

Curious, open and thoughtful, Peggy is a true giver. She loves people and people love her. When you spend time with Peggy you are filled up with her love, warmth and laughter.

As many of you know, Peggy manifested her second soulmate at the age of 80 and spent several years with John before he passed away a few years ago. Now at 88, Peggy, unfortunately has cancer and will soon be making her transition to the other side…where I am certain she will be reunited with both of her soulmates and her many, many friends and family.

True to her Buddha-like nature, she is grateful for her long, happy and fulfilled life. It’s so hard to imagine that I won’t be able to simply pick up the phone and have one of our nice long chats with her.

She will be greatly missed by all of us.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Do You REALLY want a soulmate?

This week I spoke to several women who are driving themselves a bit nutty when it comes to manifesting a soulmate.

On the one hand they say YES, I want to meet my soulmate.

And, then they tell me how slammed they are at work, with overfull schedules and no time for themselves, let alone time to meet and date someone.

This is like trying to drive with one foot on the gas and the other on the brakes.

They are giving the Universe a mixed message.

Here’s what I say:

Stop and seriously think about whether or not NOW is the right time in your life to manifest a soulmate.

If your answer is a definite YES, fabulous!

Now it’s up to you to figure out how to create the time, space, and energy to put your love, attention, and intention into the process.

If the answer is no, then please give yourself a break….

We all put so much pressure on ourselves to try and “have it all, right now.”

And, then we wonder why we are exhausted and frazzled!

So, just for this moment, allow yourself to let go of the idea of finding love and enjoy the life you are leading.  Then, when you are truly open, willing and available to call in the love of your life, you can do it from a place of power and magnetism.

For those of you that are a YES, put a big smile on your face and remember that not only is your soulmate seeking you, you are already connected to them on the unseen dimensions so begin talking to them today.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. For those that are a BIG YES for now, come join me for a workshop – I have two coming up:

Sun Valley Wellness Festival May 23rd, Sun Valley, Idaho


Omega Institute May 30 – June 1, 2014 Rhinebeck, New York.
Register for the Soulmate Secret Workshop here


Is he the ONE for you?

Ever wonder if your relationship is more good than bad? Or, if it’s right for you?

My dear friend Linda Sivertsen, who has a beautiful relationship with her boyfriend of four years, has created the ultimate tool to finally make sense of your love life.

It’s called The Boyfriend Log, and it’s an iphone/ipad app.

If you’re tired of having your sister, girlfriends, or therapist on speed dial and want to finally be able to trust yourself and be your own eyewitness in love, you’re going to love using this first-ever app for tracking the health of your relationship. It allows you to see your romance at a glance, because seeing is believing, and clarity is queen.

What makes this so different than a normal diary? Color coding.

A little back story: When Linda was married and her man showed her CLEAR signs that he wasn’t happy, she would log it in her diary. Until he’d apologize and get back to being loving, at which point she often feel like she was cheating on him, on them, and would erase her diary. Yep. Codependent, anyone? When he left her for another woman after 19 years, Linda decided that she’d never again stay so attached to a story that she’d erase reality. She vowed that when she got a new boyfriend, she’d FORCE herself to keep a diary every single day.

Sure enough, those first few months of entries were dreamy. But over time, the entries began to change. Some days were beautiful, others awful. Was there more good than bad? She couldn’t tell. She suspected there were patterns, but couldn’t decipher them. Until she thought to color-code her days. Whoa. Then the patterns became crystal clear. In living color.

And, it works the other way, too. Maybe your relationship’s a lot more stable and loving than you’ve been giving it credit for. Maybe you’ve gotten lazy in love and could use a reminder of the little things you used to do, back when your love was new and exciting? If you want romance, you can’t just expect your partner to bring it if you’re not.

I was so excited when Linda and I met for lunch a few months ago and she showed me the prototype. I couldn’t believe how simple and yet revolutionary it was. You can’t change something you can’t see and this is, finally, a way to know what you want and what you need. It puts the power, literally, in the palm of your hand.

Was today Romantic, Happy, Flat, Sad, or Angry? What about last week, or the month before that? Through daily reflection and a personalized, color-coded calendar, The Boyfriend Log illuminates positive and negative patterns and makes having a meaningful relationship-or moving on-easier.

One of my favorite sayings of Linda’s is that in every relationship there are in fact 3 relationships going on: The one you’re having, the one your man is having, and the real one. It’s easy to see why we get so confused. Women, above all, want connection, and often-as Linda did-whitewash reality to try and keep the love alive. But this isn’t just for ladies.

Couples are using The Boyfriend Log to track each other, and meeting once a week to compare notes. Think of the empowering possibilities in your own life and relationships.

And, with unlimited logs, you can track as many people in your life as you’d like-even yourself!

In short, the BFL is a relationship-changing tool. A beautiful, fun, healing, awareness technology like nothing else out I’ve ever seen.

The visuals are stunning. The app is gorgeous ($1.99), and I believe that the new question on everyone’s lips will be:

What color is your relationship?

Get your own copy today here:

The FUN video that shows how The Boyfriend Log also SAVES relationships:

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Soulmate Bucket List – new!

Walking hand-in-hand along the banks of the river Seine in Paris, long, slow kisses in the shadow of the Eiffel Tower, romantic candle-lit dinners in cozy french cafes, visiting the magnificent cathedrals and art museums… these were all items on the soulmate bucket list I created long before I manifested Brian.

Last week we finally made it to Paris….nearly 17 years after we met.

Was it worth waiting for?  Absolutely.

The experience was even better than anything I ever dreamed of.

Paris, the city of light and love, just oozes romance.

Lovers gather on the Lock Bridge, a special place where you bring a lock and key.  After you write your names on the lock, you attach the lock to the links on the bridge and then throw the key into the river, promising that your hearts are “locked” together forever.

Creating a soulmate wish list, listing the heart traits and qualitiesyou desire your beloved to possess, is a big part of the manifestation process. This new, Soulmate Bucket List, is a companion piece where you envision future activities that you will do together someday.  Begin dreaming into existence the “bucket list” experiences you will share with your soulmate.

I would love to know what is on your list.  Please post at www.soulmatesecret.com/blog

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


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