Manifesting A Man who LOVES Women

When creating your soulmate wish list of the heart traits and qualities you most want your beloved to possess, one item to keep in mind is this:

A man, who knows how to love a woman.

My experience has been that men, who have a great relationship with their own mother, tend to have skills in this area.

Be sure to think this part through as you continue to manifest the soulmate of your dreams.

Seventeen years ago, when I wrote up my soulmate wish list, this was a key item for me and I even added that my future mother-in-law would be someone that I would enjoy as a friend and family member.

When it comes to mother-in-laws’, I hit the jackpot.

Peggy XmasPeggy Hilliard is a dream come true.

From the moment we met she welcomed me into her family. As I was getting to know Brian, and soon his two older brothers, it was clear that she had reared them to love and respect women….she raised three gentlemen.

A deeply loving, caring and super friendly woman, Peggy is someone you just want to spend time with.

Curious, open and thoughtful, Peggy is a true giver. She loves people and people love her. When you spend time with Peggy you are filled up with her love, warmth and laughter.

As many of you know, Peggy manifested her second soulmate at the age of 80 and spent several years with John before he passed away a few years ago. Now at 88, Peggy, unfortunately has cancer and will soon be making her transition to the other side…where I am certain she will be reunited with both of her soulmates and her many, many friends and family.

True to her Buddha-like nature, she is grateful for her long, happy and fulfilled life. It’s so hard to imagine that I won’t be able to simply pick up the phone and have one of our nice long chats with her.

She will be greatly missed by all of us.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Do You REALLY want a soulmate?

This week I spoke to several women who are driving themselves a bit nutty when it comes to manifesting a soulmate.

On the one hand they say YES, I want to meet my soulmate.

And, then they tell me how slammed they are at work, with overfull schedules and no time for themselves, let alone time to meet and date someone.

This is like trying to drive with one foot on the gas and the other on the brakes.

They are giving the Universe a mixed message.

Here’s what I say:

Stop and seriously think about whether or not NOW is the right time in your life to manifest a soulmate.

If your answer is a definite YES, fabulous!

Now it’s up to you to figure out how to create the time, space, and energy to put your love, attention, and intention into the process.

If the answer is no, then please give yourself a break….

We all put so much pressure on ourselves to try and “have it all, right now.”

And, then we wonder why we are exhausted and frazzled!

So, just for this moment, allow yourself to let go of the idea of finding love and enjoy the life you are leading.  Then, when you are truly open, willing and available to call in the love of your life, you can do it from a place of power and magnetism.

For those of you that are a YES, put a big smile on your face and remember that not only is your soulmate seeking you, you are already connected to them on the unseen dimensions so begin talking to them today.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. For those that are a BIG YES for now, come join me for a workshop – I have two coming up:

Sun Valley Wellness Festival May 23rd, Sun Valley, Idaho  


Omega Institute May 30 – June 1, 2014 Rhinebeck, New York.
Register for the Soulmate Secret Workshop here


Is he the ONE for you?

Ever wonder if your relationship is more good than bad? Or, if it’s right for you?

My dear friend Linda Sivertsen, who has a beautiful relationship with her boyfriend of four years, has created the ultimate tool to finally make sense of your love life.

It’s called The Boyfriend Log, and it’s an iphone/ipad app.

If you’re tired of having your sister, girlfriends, or therapist on speed dial and want to finally be able to trust yourself and be your own eyewitness in love, you’re going to love using this first-ever app for tracking the health of your relationship. It allows you to see your romance at a glance, because seeing is believing, and clarity is queen.

What makes this so different than a normal diary? Color coding.

A little back story: When Linda was married and her man showed her CLEAR signs that he wasn’t happy, she would log it in her diary. Until he’d apologize and get back to being loving, at which point she often feel like she was cheating on him, on them, and would erase her diary. Yep. Codependent, anyone? When he left her for another woman after 19 years, Linda decided that she’d never again stay so attached to a story that she’d erase reality. She vowed that when she got a new boyfriend, she’d FORCE herself to keep a diary every single day.

Sure enough, those first few months of entries were dreamy. But over time, the entries began to change. Some days were beautiful, others awful. Was there more good than bad? She couldn’t tell. She suspected there were patterns, but couldn’t decipher them. Until she thought to color-code her days. Whoa. Then the patterns became crystal clear. In living color.

And, it works the other way, too. Maybe your relationship’s a lot more stable and loving than you’ve been giving it credit for. Maybe you’ve gotten lazy in love and could use a reminder of the little things you used to do, back when your love was new and exciting? If you want romance, you can’t just expect your partner to bring it if you’re not.

I was so excited when Linda and I met for lunch a few months ago and she showed me the prototype. I couldn’t believe how simple and yet revolutionary it was. You can’t change something you can’t see and this is, finally, a way to know what you want and what you need. It puts the power, literally, in the palm of your hand.

Was today Romantic, Happy, Flat, Sad, or Angry? What about last week, or the month before that? Through daily reflection and a personalized, color-coded calendar, The Boyfriend Log illuminates positive and negative patterns and makes having a meaningful relationship-or moving on-easier.

One of my favorite sayings of Linda’s is that in every relationship there are in fact 3 relationships going on: The one you’re having, the one your man is having, and the real one. It’s easy to see why we get so confused. Women, above all, want connection, and often-as Linda did-whitewash reality to try and keep the love alive. But this isn’t just for ladies.

Couples are using The Boyfriend Log to track each other, and meeting once a week to compare notes. Think of the empowering possibilities in your own life and relationships.

And, with unlimited logs, you can track as many people in your life as you’d like-even yourself!

In short, the BFL is a relationship-changing tool. A beautiful, fun, healing, awareness technology like nothing else out I’ve ever seen.

The visuals are stunning. The app is gorgeous ($1.99), and I believe that the new question on everyone’s lips will be:

What color is your relationship?

Get your own copy today here:

The FUN video that shows how The Boyfriend Log also SAVES relationships:

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Soulmate Bucket List – new!

Walking hand-in-hand along the banks of the river Seine in Paris, long, slow kisses in the shadow of the Eiffel Tower, romantic candle-lit dinners in cozy french cafes, visiting the magnificent cathedrals and art museums… these were all items on the soulmate bucket list I created long before I manifested Brian.

Last week we finally made it to Paris….nearly 17 years after we met.

Was it worth waiting for?  Absolutely.

The experience was even better than anything I ever dreamed of.

Paris, the city of light and love, just oozes romance.

Lovers gather on the Lock Bridge, a special place where you bring a lock and key.  After you write your names on the lock, you attach the lock to the links on the bridge and then throw the key into the river, promising that your hearts are “locked” together forever.

Creating a soulmate wish list, listing the heart traits and qualitiesyou desire your beloved to possess, is a big part of the manifestation process. This new, Soulmate Bucket List, is a companion piece where you envision future activities that you will do together someday.  Begin dreaming into existence the “bucket list” experiences you will share with your soulmate.

I would love to know what is on your list.  Please post at

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Your Way or God’s Way?

katzkiss1-1When it comes to manifesting a soulmate the single most important thing to have total clarity on is how you desire to feel when you are with your beloved.

For those of you who are hyper focused on the “form” of the coming relationship, I am inviting you to shift into the “feeling space” and for just now, let go of your wish list regarding the physical form (on all levels) you think you need.  (the Divine may have something in mind for you that is beyond your ability to conceive of right now)

Here’s a little exercise to try every morning for the next week that will assist you in having laser-like clarity on this:

When you begin to wake up, before you even open your eyes, imagine that your beloved in lying in bed, sleeping quietly and peacefully.

You can sense the warmth and weight of their presence but they are not touching you.

In this moment, how are you feeling?  Loved? Happy? Safe? Serene? Excited? Relieved? Filled with gratitude? Content?

Allow yourself to experience the depth of your positive emotions for your love connection with your soulmate.

In your mind, whisper to them words of love, appreciation and gratitude for all the ways they enrich your life.

You do not to know how or when this reality came to be.

It’s not important to know their height, weight, income level or job description, just feel the deliciousness of their divine presence and breathe it in.

Thank them for the gift of sharing a life with you.

Tell them that you now know and trust that they are on the way to you.

Put a big smile on your face, swallow the smile and let it land in every organ of your body, and when you are ready, gently open your eyes and begin your day.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. The beautiful painting of the lovers is by  The original hangs in my office!


Tired of Being Single? Time to Unlock Your Heart!

Other worldsSMALLMy friend and healer, Dr. Bradley Nelson, is an internationally recognized expert in energy medicine and is the author of The Emotion Code. I’ve asked him to share with you today some very enlightening and important information about healing and unlocking your heart:

Ancient peoples believed that the heart was the seat of the soul and the source of love and romance. What if they were correct? Could your heart possibly be more than just a pump? Were the ancient ones right about this? And if they were, what might it have to do with your ability to find your soulmate?

New research has revealed that your heart is your most powerful organ, generating a magnetic field up to 12 feet in diameter that surrounds your body. It’s actually been proven in the laboratory that if you focus feelings of love and affection on another, your heartbeats will rapidly synchronize, and your heartbeat will become measurable in their brainwaves!

It’s rapidly becoming an accepted fact that our intense emotional experiences can leave us with “baggage.” I have discovered that this emotional baggage actually consists of discrete energies that disrupt our bodies, contributing to pain and disease of all types and varieties, as well as depression, phobias, panic attacks, eating disorders and all sorts of self-sabotage. But where your emotional baggage may really be short-circuiting your life is your heart.

The human heart is a second brain that stores our deepest affinities and our most precious memories. One of the most important discoveries in the field of energy medicine is that the heart will often try to protect itself from emotional injury and heartache by forming an invisible wall of energy around itself, a “Heart-Wall,” made from the energy of our trapped emotions. Listen to the experience of a woman named Elizabeth from Massachusetts:

After having my heart-wall cleared by a certified Emotion Code practitioner, I am just amazed with the results! It took about 5 sessions to completely remove all the trapped emotions (and completely clear the heart-wall). I have struggled with depression and anxiety all my life and after my heart-wall was removed, these two issues I’ve dealt with for over 20 years have virtually disappeared! I also find I am much more open and feel an overall sense of well-being that I have not felt in a very long time. I also find that other people (including total strangers) are talking to me and opening up to me – almost like I am projecting a whole different, more approachable energy. I wish more people knew about the Emotion Code and would give it a try – it will be life changing, I can promise that much.- Elizabeth,  Massachusetts

Can you think back to a time in your life when you felt like your heart was going to break? When you felt so grief-stricken or hurt that you didn’t think you could stand it? Do you remember the physical sensation that you felt during that experience? You may have felt as if an elephant were sitting on your chest, or that you couldn’t breathe. Unfortunately, I think these feelings that we often refer to as “heartache” or “heartbreak” are quite universal, as there seem to be words that describe these physical sensations in every language around the world.

When you are experiencing deep grief, hurt or loss, it can actually be an assault on the deepest part of your being, on your heart. These feelings of heartbreak can be so uncomfortable, so foreign and so difficult to deal with, that they often result in the formation of that energetic “wall,” designed to protect your heart from these profoundly negative emotions.

Is a wall around your heart contributing to physical illness or disease for you? Is your Heart-Wall hampering your ability to give and receive love? Is it interfering with your ability to feel good emotions, or contributing to your feelings of isolation? Is it creating depression, anxiety or self-sabotage for you? Is that wall of energy around your heart interfering with your ability to find your soulmate?

If you are at all frustrated with your love life, your social life, your health issues, or the level of financial abundance that you’ve been able to attain, a Heart-Wall may be a big piece of the puzzle for you. We have found through our testing that approximately 93% of people suffer from this phenomenon, so you are not alone. Isn’t it time to tear down that wall around your own heart, and start living the life you have always known you could live?

I encourage you to check out Dr. Nelson’s free videos and learn to release your own emotional baggage at And, to find an Emotion Code Practitioner, visit www.

Wishing you love AND courage,


Have the COURAGE to love

Courage PB FLAT COVER IMAGECourage is the key to having a fantastically intimate and loving relationship. It is a muscle that must be constantly exercised in order for it to show up in all of your actions and communications.

It takes courage to get into a relationship, to fall in love, and to commit to another human being. It takes even more courage to stay in that relationship, to do the work necessary to constantly create more intimacy, more respect, more compassion and more love.

I once met a woman on an airplane who was about to celebrate her 50th wedding anniversary. I was in awe and asked her what she thought was the key to celebrating 50 years. She said it was courage — the courage to stay on the merry-go-round even when there are opportunities every time it goes around for you to get off, the courage to make the choice to see through new eyes.

It takes courage to be wrong and allow your partner to be right even if you know you’re right.   And it takes courage, which is another form of trust and faith, to believe that you can reinvent both yourself and your relationship over and over again.

Two years go my angelic sister, Debbie Ford, wrote a groundbreaking book called Courage: Igniting Self-Confidence, today the book is now out in paperback.

In this book:

Debbie introduces you to a new kind of courage. Instead of thinking about courage as something that you do, your life and your choices will be infused with courage.

She will guide you through a divine process to release emotional baggage and step into the delightful vibration of emotional freedom.

You’ll learn to see the perfection in your life and be able to distinguish between higher will and your will. You will be inspired to surrender to the greatest power of all.

You will be able to forgive someone who may appear unrelated to the area of love and relationships but is really blocking you in achieving your heart’s desires. Then you will learn to love yourself in new ways that will affect every area of your life.

You will be guided to allow a new inspired vision to guide you, not a vision based in the past or even yesterday but a new vision that will propel you to love, listen and act in a deeper, more profound way.

And maybe most importantly, in Courage, you will be present to your supreme beauty — all that you are, all that you can be — and you will reclaim the qualities that will take you to the next evolution of yourself.

Love and courage are one and the same because courage asks us to open up to our compassionate heart and the divine warrior within who is ready to take on even the most difficult task of healing the heart and living in love.

I completely agree with Debbie… CLICK HERE to get your copy today.

Wishing you love AND courage,


Asking For What You Want Is Never Easy

aol-2013-300x250Earlier this year I sent out a survey to all of you asking what your most pressing relationship issues are.  I really wanted to discover the biggest “need to know” items.  The overwhelming #1 response was communication skills!

Somehow most of us never learned effective ways to ask for what we most want and need.

So, as I was creating and planning this years Art of Love Series, we decided the theme would be:

Crucial Conversations 
On Love, Money, Sex, Communication, Parenting and
everything you need for the relationship of your dreams.

I’ve pulled together the most extraordinary list of love and relationship experts so that every inch of this topic is covered in extreme detail, and, you can get all of this awesome information for FREE!  It all begins on April 1 and runs for 9 amazing days.

My experts include:

John Gray, Deepak Chopra, Dr. Jenn Berman, Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks, Lisa Nichols, Harville Hendrix & Helen La Kelly Hunt, Panache Desai, Nick Ortner, Alison Armstrong, Mary Morrissey, Neale Donald Walsch, Gabrielle Bernstein, Claire Zammit, Craig Hamilton, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Dr. Ken Druck, Carol Allen, SARK, Evan Marc Katz, Dr. Tammy Nelson, Reid Mihalko, Marci Shimoff, Dr. Laura Markham, Jennifer McLean, Rick Hanson, Eben Pagan and Annie Lalla, Dawson Church, Ocean Robbins, and so many others.

These love experts will be sharing the latest insights about how to have a more connected, satisfying relationship-and deeper love-than you ever thought possible.  If you are ready to get the best and latest information on how to have a GREAT relationship, join me for The Art of Love!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S.  Please join me at the beautiful and serene Omega Institute for my FUN and INTERACTIVE  Soulmate Secret workshop (that will take you way beyond the book), where I will share with you techniques to control your own romantic destiny.

It’s the weekend of May 30 – June 1, 2014 Rhinebeck, New York  

Register for the Soulmate Secret Workshop here

Why Men Marry

red heart starsResearcher John Molloy interviewed 3,000 couples as they exited marriage license bureaus, and what he learned is was amazing.  Here are just a few of the fascinating facts about “why men marry.”

Men are attracted by the physical but marry character.  68% of men said they chose their wives because they were classy, positive, energetic, enthusiastic and upbeat.  Only 20% said they chose them because they were gorgeous and sexy.

Most men decide within 10 minutes of meeting a woman if she is appropriate for marriage or just a casual affair.

Over 80% of men bragged that their gal was someone he would be proud to introduce to friends and family.

Only 7 out of 2,000 men said the woman of their dreams was dressed in a sexy outfit when they met.  Men prefer you in “appropriate” clothing that says “I m wife material.”  (This doesn’t mean you can’t look your best and like the real you – it means don’t be dress in a way that says “come seduce me now.”)

Other interesting tips from Molloy:

The primary reason men drop women during the first month or two is that the women come on too strong, too soon.

Never speak of marriage, children or your future together for the first 6 dates. (Men don’t think of themselves as ‘dating” until at least 4-6 dates. (women assume they are dating much quicker.)

Now for some good news:  If after 3 months of dating he often plops on your couch to watch TV, and at times takes you for granted, this is a hallmark of most serious relationships. Don’t see it as a deal killer.

Women who insist on being treated well are two times as likely to end up marrying their man. Men don’t like doormats.

Women who go out twice a week, even just to dine with other women or do volunteer work, are three times as likely to marry than those who don’t go out! (Going out 3x a week boosts your chances even further).

This is just the tip of the iceberg of John Molloy’s research.  His book, Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others: The Fascinating Research That Can Land You the Husband of Your Dreams, shares tons more info.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S.  Please join me at the beautiful and serene Omega Institute for my FUN and INTERACTIVE  Soulmate Secret workshop (that will take you way beyond the book), where I will share with you techniques to control your own romantic destiny.

It’s the weekend of May 30 – June 1, 2014 Rhinebeck, New York.  

Register for the Soulmate Secret Workshop here

It’s Okay to Love Your Ex

Couple RedIt’s okay to love your Ex.

In fact, it’s probably impossible to stop loving the ones we’ve loved and cared for.  However, you do need to stop obsessing about then and finally accept that they are long gone, not coming back, and it’s time to forgive and let go.

To stop obsessing requires discipline.

It’s like breaking a bad habit.

If you find yourself obsessing, decide that you will give yourself only 5 minutes each day to think about them – set a time each day and for that 5 minutes get out your journal and write down all of your thoughts about them.  Then, when you catch yourself thinking, dreaming, or yearning for them, remind yourself that it’s not time yet to think about them.

Discipline yourself to only think about them for the allotted 5 minutes each day.

Next, find a little corner of your heart to place your love for them in and when you catch yourself thinking about them, remember to put them back into that little place and focus on the heart traits and delicious qualities of your soon-to-be met NEW soulmate.

Decide that whatever destiny or karma you once had with your Ex is now complete and give yourself the gift of moving on to some one that deserves you.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • What are the traits and qualities my heart most desires in a soulmate?
  • How do I want feel when I am with them?
  • What will our life together be like?

Becoming laser clear about who this person is, what they’re like, and MOST IMPORTANTLY what you will FEEL like when you’re with them, is essential to your success in manifesting your soulmate.

Once you figure this out, and actually integrate this into the core of your being, you will be well on your way to new love.

Don’t spend a minute wishing you had done any of this sooner, if you could have, you would have.

And, remember to leave room for divine timing and also be grateful that you are now open and available for the love you’ve always desired.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


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