Are you really in love? (plus find LOVE on Facebook)

Did you get your heart broken in high school or college?

Or, did you break someone’s heart?

Are you single now?

Are they?

Fascinating new research shows that if you reconnect with someone from your past that you were once in love with and both of you are now single, there is a 70% chance that you can reconnect and have a happy life together!

Helen Fisher heartOne of my favorite TV shows, CBS Sunday Morning, recently did a segment on this topic, featuring Dr. Helen Fisher, and highlighted several couples that found each other again, including one woman who reunited with her Ex via Facebook. In spite of the fact that one of them dumped the other in the long ago past, these couples reconnected and are now happily married.

What happened?

According to Dr. Fisher, anthropologist, love expert, and Rutgers University professor, the brain chemistry and circuitry that first had them fall in love was “re-ignited.”

Why? Because chances are you will still find each other attractive, and you share important history together. There is a built in comfort level:  You already know each other…family, friends, and all kinds of background info. If you re-connect, you could have your brain chemistry triggered and voila, romance re-blossoms!

Dr. Fisher and her research partner, Dr. Lucy Brown, have a new website, where you can learn much more about love and they offer a fantastic quiz where you can discover if you really are “in love.”  They call it a Love Calculator and it measures the Passionate Love Scale. Try it now at www.theAnatomyofLove.com.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Manifesting Paradox: Surrender vs. Action

Manifesting Paradox: Surrender vs. Action

Successful manifesting requires something akin to driving with your foot on the gas and the brake at the same time. On the one hand, we need to be clear about our intentions, and be able to feel in very cell of our body that what we have asked for IS already ours, and be willing to take action towards our goals. Simultaneously, we must stay detached from the outcome and live in a state of surrender.

Now you might be thinking, “Whoa, that doesn’t make any sense!”

But it does.

Think of it this way: When the seeds of a flower have been planted, and the first leaves begin to sprout, the gardener doesn’t tug on the leaves every day to make the plant grow faster. They trust that Mother Nature knows how to grow all on her own, thank you very much.

There are many ways we approach manifesting our desire, whether it’s more money, a soulmate, a new career, or the perfect little black dress.

Some of us take the “if it’s meant to be it will just happen” approach. Others take charge and go into “make it happen” mode. I believe that it’s a combination of the two that is the winning ticket.

I believe that manifesting your heart’s desire has a certain amount of “meant-to-be-ness” to it… AND it requires a big dose of “make-it-happen-ness.”

Practicing intention, surrender, focus, and detachment coupled with trust, belief, knowingness, and patience is the recipe for success.

And I realize that this is a paradox….

surrenderHow does one be both intentional and surrendered?

When I am being intentional, I have a clear feeling and picture of what my desire is AND I also am detached from the outcome.

I know and trust that life will continue to be great whether or not my desire is fulfilled.

I surrender to divine timing and to destiny (knowing this or something better is on the way) and my happiness and well-being isn’t dependent on having my wishes granted.

This is a daily “conscious” practice that requires emotional maturity and awareness. It’s worth the effort to master this practice, as it will give you freedom to be “with what is” while manifesting your deepest desires!

Those who successfully manifest have learned and surrendered to the fact that it’s not our job to know where, when, or how our desire will appear. We don’t have to micromanage every encounter or anticipate every detail. Our job is to simply prepare ourselves in body, mind, and soul and then relax into the knowledge that what we’ve asked for – wherever it may be at this moment – is on the way.

When you notice that you are in fear or doubt or disbelief that your desired outcome is on the way, allow yourself to spend three minutes or less fully feeling the worst of these negative emotions. Set a time and then dive in and exaggerate your fears and doubts. Make it really ugly. No positive thinking allowed! IF you do this you will soon begin to laugh because your rational mind will kick in, reminding you that these thoughts are just not true. Then, having released the pressure of the negativity, fill yourself back up with kind, loving affirmations that your desired outcome IS already yours and remember to be both intentional and surrendered!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

5 Great Ways To Share Love for Valentines Day

Saturday is Valentine’s Day (as I am sure you know) and I want you to give yourself permission to spoil yourself, and your loved ones, completely!

Make a list of the people you most love and appreciate in your life, go buy some beautiful cards and then write them a mini love letter. Give yourself the freedom to express all the things you most love and appreciate about them…really go for it. Gush big-time and be their biggest fan!

redheart&lightsWho has been your greatest “love” teacher? A Parent? Sibling? Child? Friend? Send them flowers with a note thanking them for their wisdom and inspiration.

Make a plan, today, for what you will do on Saturday night. If you enjoy cooking or baking, invite your loved ones over to join you for a delicious meal with fresh flowers, candles and an atmosphere to celebrate!

Give yourself the gift of self-love. Gaze into a mirror, look deep into your own eyes and speak these words out loud: “I really love you. You are a totally wonderful, beautiful, magical person deserving of great love.”

Buy yourself a special gift…. perhaps a piece of jewelry you can wear daily as a reminder of how much you love and admire yourself!

Remember, what we put our attention on grows, so add more love to your inner and outer world on Valentines Day and be a “love generator!”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Play Cupid For A Single Friend

In the Jewish tradition there is a practice called “doing a mitzvah,” otherwise known as a good deed. I’ve always heard that two of the mitzvah’s that will get you big brownie points with the Creator is to:

#1 find someone a job

#2 find someone a soulmate

I was recently interviewed by the Chicago Tribune on the topic of “how to survive a blind date” which got me thinking about this topic of playing “matchmaker” for friends. (In Yiddish, someone who does this is also called a “yenta”, although technically a yenta is someone who gossips and meddles in the affairs of others…)

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, now might be a great time to think about all of your single friends and see if there is anyone you might be able to fix up.

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I did this a few months ago for one of my girlfriends. She told me she was looking for some “fun dates” and they didn’t have to be with “the One,” just someone nice to spend time with.

This took the pressure off me to find her the perfect man.

As I scanned my internal Rolodex of single male friends, I thought of James, who had recently gone through a divorce. So, I fixed them up.

Did they fall in love?

No, but, they have both thanked me for taking the time to connect them because they have now become good friends.

Most singles are really resistant to blind dates, so here’s what I found works best when approaching this subject:

  • First, check with both parties to see if they are open to it.
  • Then tell each of them WHY you think they would enjoy the other.
  • Finally, suggest an easy way for them to connect, perhaps through a brief email introduction.

Then imagine Cupid’s arrow sailing through the heavens to make a love connection as you step away and watch what happens!This is how to make a mitzvah!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

What Plato Knew About Soulmates

Have you ever wondered why we humans seek a soulmate?

What is it about us that craves this deep connection to another?

Are we genetically designed to be mated?

One fascinating and possible answer comes from Aristophanes, a philosopher of ancient Athens. He offers a wild tale, that he shared at Plato’s Symposium, about how the deep desire for Oneness came about.

Long, long ago in primal times people had doubled bodies, four arms, four legs, two heads and they were big and round…. These roly-poly creatures wheeled around earth like clowns doing cartwheels & were very powerful.

There were three sexes: the all male, the all female, and the “androgynous,” who were half male, half female.

The males were said to have descended from the sun, the females from the earth and the androgynous couples from the moon.

The creatures tried to scale the heights of heaven and planned to set upon the gods. Zeus thought about blasting them to death with thunderbolts, but did not want to deprive himself of their devotions and offerings, so he decided to cripple them instead by chopping them in half with his sword, thus, in effect separating the two bodies. . The severed halves were then scattered in opposite directions…

Aristophanes claimed that when two people who were torn apart from each other find each other, they never again want to be separated again from their soulmate.

Roly PolyWhen a half finally does meets its other half, they become deliriously happy and overjoyed with the promise of new love and delight. They believe that they are complete now that they are reunited with their other half, thus obtaining “wholeness.”

When Jean Houston first shared this story with me, I felt the “rightnesss” of it.

Of course we are meant to share our lives with someone!

KWT blue smIf you feel that way too, and you are ready to discover some new ways to be pro-active to making it happen, please join my good friend, licensed psychotherapist and bestselling author Katherine Woodward Thomas, MA, MFT, for a free online seminar designed to support you in the process of uncovering and then releasing your hidden inner-barriers to love, so you can at last “call in” the committed, nurturing partnership of your dreams!

Calling in The One: How to Identify and Release Your Hidden Barriers to Love &
Become Magnetic to Your Soulmate

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Agony & Ecstasy of Soulmate Love

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Artwork by www.sharronkatz.com

Soulmate couples have a secret they rarely speak about: they feel fortunate to no longer have to search for true love because they are living it every day. They realize how blessed they are to be spending their days in the embrace of their best friend, lover, and sacred partner. Rather than brag, or shout it from the rooftops, they quietly relish their relationship and give thanks, from a deep place of gratitude, that they have another day to spend together. Soulmate love heals people while it stamps out loneliness and brings so much more happiness.

How do I know this? During the past 17 years with my soulmate, Brian, we often talk about how blessed we are to be together and experience a relationship that exceeds our wildest dreams.   I also began quietly asking the other soulmate couples we know what life is like for them. The answers I’ve heard are remarkably similar. In whispered and hushed tones, they have shared with me the wonders and beauty of their marriages. Why have we been whispering? For two reasons: we are in awe of the sacredness of the union and because as my friend Monte Farber (co-author of The Soulmate Path) says “it’s not polite to rub in other people’s faces how wonderful life can be when you are sharing it with your soulmate.”

Soulmate relationships can be compelling, intense, loving communions that have a divine quality to them. They are about connecting on a deep “soul” level as much as every other dimension of human interaction. The soulmate couples we’ve met choose to live with honesty, transparency, deeper love, devotion, openness, vulnerability and trust. My husband, Brian Hilliard, explains it this way: “In a soulmate relationship one plus one does not equal two, it equals eleven. The love generated in this equation is a gift to the soulmate couple and to the world at large.”

“The level of trust between soulmates is profound– and being able to trust another being on so many levels makes life so much easier.  You soulmate will mirror your best parts and your shadow self, giving you a chance to heal,” explains Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway, author of Your Interfaith Wedding.

This is why the world needs soulmate couples to find each other—as many as possible, and as soon as possible. It is a surefire way to fill our planet with more love.

I asked some soulmates I know to share their bliss:

“I am experiencing a “full contentment” I have never known. A relationship such as this does not happen TO someone, it happens WITH someone who is truly willing to cross the terror barrier of self-disclosure again and again to find that place of true connection.” –Mary Morrissey, author of Building Your Field of Dreams

“There is a total and utter richness that exists in being with ones’ soulmate. It is utopia.” –Carla Picardi

“Being a soulmate couple is a divine dance of both witnessing and being witnessed, celebrating and being celebrated. It’s that deep spiritual connection, unwavering acceptance and knowing that someone is always there to cover your back and will be with you no matter how bad a day you’re having.” –Jay Vogt and Stephanie Bennett Vogt, author of Your Spacious Self: Clear Your Clutter and Discover Who You Are

“Even when Vic and I are apart, I am totally relaxed in knowing that his love and devotion surround me and protect me. That kinds of love instills great confidence and it truly is a blessing.” –Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway, wedding officiant and author of Your Interfaith Wedding

“Everything tastes better when you share it with your soulmate.” –Carlos Santana

“The soulmate relationship is both the most gratifying and the most challenging of all relationships. It’s all good and for the highest good.  It’s the evolution of the individual and collective soul of lovers once separated and now united.  It’s cosmic completion! –Rev. Victor Fuhrman, co-author of Pet Prayers and Blessings

Are soulmate relationships always blissful? No, of course not. Soulmates have work to do in the world and it begins in their own relationships. Like all relationships, soulmate unions require time, energy, and attention. As Otto and Susie Collins so eloquently put it, “they require conscious effort to keep the relationship vibrant, alive and juicy.”

Despite the occasional upset, argument or breakdown, soulmates are committed to working through the issues with honesty and transparency, knowing that the foundation for their love is strong enough to weather the storm. Perhaps Stephanie Bennett Vogt explains it best, “Having a soulmate is a beautiful dance towards wholeness if you’re willing to allow and learn from the inevitable messy bumps that go with the territory of being in a relationship.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

7 Steps to have MORE LOVE in your life in 2015

Love is quite simply the most precious possession in existence. And my mission is to share the best insights I know to bring more love into each of your lives. Today, dear reader, I want to share the most powerful way to create MORE LOVE in your life in 2015.

This beautiful insight comes from my friend Ken Page’s game-changing new best seller Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy

If you want more love in 2015, try this life-changing exercise from Ken:

Think about all the people you know, from your nearest and dearest to people you may not have thought about for years. And just ask yourself these three questions:

  • Who truly loves me?
  • Who sees and treasures me for who I really am?
  • Whom do I trust to have my best interests at heart?

Each of the people you picked is gold. They are your personal dream-team in life. The very wisest path to love is to nurture these relationships–by doing three things:

Practice giving more to each one of these precious people.

Practice asking for more from each of them as well (yes, it’s true, asking for more is an act of intimacy!)

And most of all: enjoy them. This last suggestion is perhaps the greatest act of life wisdom that I know.

Follow these 3 steps and watch 2015 blossom into the most love-filled year of your life.

In Deeper Dating, Ken teaches “micro-meditations;” small practices that take less than three minutes but have the power to enrich your entire intimacy journey. This micro-meditation can be your foundation for a love-filled 2015.

Micro-Meditation: The Love that’s Already Yours

Pick the person who stood out for you most as you reflected on your relationships.  Now try the following:

Think about what you love most about this person.

Think about the quality of this person’s love for you.

Remember one time that you deeply felt the bond between the two of you.

Hold this person to your heart for a moment, and say “Thank you.”

And now, just let your love quietly ripple through you.

Practice this micro-meditation as many times as you wish, and just watch as your reservoir of love deepens and widens, day after day.

And I promise you, it will. Your heart will become warmer, your life will become richer, and you’ll start meeting new people who also love you for who you are.

 

Deeper Dating is a life-changing book, written for single people but deeply relevant to absolutely everyone who wants more love in his or her life. You can  order it here, and when you do you’ll also get a whole collection of free gifts, including a very special bonus from me.

Here’s what I have to say about Deeper Dating-right on its back cover:

“If you are ready for big, heart-opening, lasting romantic love, this workshop in a book offers the proven step-by-step process. Highly recommended.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Heaven Can Help You!

I have a FREE teleseminar coming up that I can’t wait to tell you about….especially if you have you ever wondered what really happens once we leave our physical body and our soul enters the world beyond this one!

Many books describe the near-death experience; our spirits go through as a “tunnel of light,” and they feel an unconditional love beautiful beyond description, and then a higher being or angel tells the soul it’s not your time, you must go back.

What if we could hear from a soul who didn’t come back?

What if we could take a journey into the deepest realms of the afterlife? Who are we with? What are we doing?  What is love like on the other side?

My friend, Annie Kagan, is the author of the international bestselling book, The Afterlife of Billy Fingers: How My Bad Boy Brother Proved To Me There’s Life After Death.

This book tells the true story of how Annie’s brother Billy took her on a real-time journey into the mysteries of life after death and the nature of Divine Love.

I recently wrote a new book, Love On The Other Side: Heavenly Help for Love and Life (get it for free at www.loveontheotherside.com ). After my sister’s transition, she began communicating with me about how to ask your departed loves one for assistance and also shared what love in heaven is all about. In this book I reveal what I’ve learned from Debbie and it also contains compelling true stories about what happens when one half of a soulmate couple dies and how the love connection continues in the afterlife.

Annie and I are teaming up for a one-time only free hour-long teleseminar to discuss these juicy topics and answer your questions.

Please join us on Saturday, January 3rd at 9:00amPT/Noon ET by registering here.

If you can’t make the LIVE call, we will be sending everyone who registers the replay link within 48 hours.

(We have room for 1,000 participants, if you don’t make it onto the live call, don’t worry, you will get the replay link.)

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Feel More Love, Have More Pleasure NOW

Whether your single or blissfully in a relationship, or somewhere in between, there is always room in life for more love and more pleasure. Activating and creating more loving and pleasurable feelings is something we can take steps to create.

Here’s how:

When you want to feel more love you can consciously do it by actively releasing the hormone oxytocin into your brain. Known as the “bonding” chemical, oxytocin is really good for you. According to love master Dr. John Gray, women need to constantly rebuild their “oxytocin” levels. Oxytocin is the bonding hormone essential for women in their ability to give and receive love.

Taking time for mani-pedi’s, getting your hair done, receiving massages, taking long, warm bubble baths, listening to music, dancing, walking in nature, a quiet cup of tea, a perfect piece of chocolate (or your favorite treat)….these are a few ways to add pleasure to your daily life that also rebuild oxytocin.

Oxytocin can be generated lots of ways and the more you have the better you will feel. Not surprisingly, it plays a big role in producing orgasms.

Stress is one of the main reasons we become depleted in oxytocin so taking simple steps to rebuild it is necessary to maintain a happy, healthy lifestyle.

It’s well known that a simple hug, gazing into the eyes of someone you care about or petting your dog or cat will also boost your oxytocin level. And, going shopping also does the trick. Even if you don’t buy anything, just looking and touching beautiful items makes a difference.

There is a tremendous amount of new research out that proves the importance of having pleasure in our lives. When we are relaxed and in the flow, it’s a zillion times easier to access (and send out) our positive emotions.

Another benefit of high oxytocin levels includes keeping your weight down.
Researchers have observed that oxytocin and oxytocin rec

eptor-deficient mice become obese later in life – and with normal food intake. Scientists who have given oxytocin-deficient obese mice oxytocin infusions, saw their weight return back to normal levels. The mice also showed a reduced glucose intolerance and insulin resistance. This clearly suggests an alternative option for those struggling to keep the weight off.

My personal “pleasure recipe” includes a daily bath with aromatherapy, an early morning walk with my husband, and one-on-one time with my cat Felix. If I have a particularly stressful day, I have a special CD of favorite dance tunes that I crank up in my office and I dance and sing (all by myself) until I feel the endorphins surging through me.

If consciously adding pleasure to your daily life doesn’t come naturally to you, I would suggest a little experiment: For the next 7 days, decide to add at least 15-20 minutes of pleasure…all for you. By taking the time to add pleasure to your life you will be calmer, happier, and more receptive to enjoying and attracting love at every level.

And, as you create your To-Do list, put YOU on the top of that list, then let me know what happens!

Remember what you put your attention on grows. Add more pleasure and oxytocin to your brain and your life to add more love on every level.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

Proof that there is LOVE for you!

The #1 key to success when manifesting anything is knowing and trusting that what you desire is really possible for you!

And…sometimes we need to really search for signs, symbols or proof that what we desire is in our realm of possibility.

For those of you stuck in “doubt” that big, juicy, awesome soulmate love can be yours, let me rock your world!

We recently went to see the film, The Theory of Everything about the life of physicist Stephen Hawking who is a former Professor of Mathematics at the University of Cambridge and the mega bestselling author of A Brief History of Time.

In 1963, Hawking contracted motor neurone disease and was given two years to live. Despite all odds, he went on to become regarded as one of the most brilliant theoretical physicists since Albert Einstein.

For the past 50 years he has lived in a wheelchair as a quadriplegic. He cannot do anything for himself except think brilliant thoughts and speak through a computerized system.

In spite of what most people would consider insurmountable challenges and limitations, Hawking has had not one but two great loves in his life.

What belief, myth, or story are you holding onto that says you can’t have great love?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle



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