First dates, Food & Your Appetite for Love & Life

Dating, whether you love it or loathe it, is an indispensable part of the soulmate manifestation process. Eventually there will be a “first dinner date.”

What, and maybe more importantly “how” you order, will let him or her know if you have a healthy appetite for love and life, as well as whether or not you are high maintenance, and so much more.

On these early dates we want to let our large appetite for life, our enthusiasm for life, really shine through as much as possible. 

For those of you with gluten or other sensitivities (I fall into this category), it might be best just to order something you know is “safe” for you to eat, rather than engage in a big conversation with the server which will lead to a talk about your various ailments. This isn’t the best “first dinner date” conversation to have.

If you are vegan or vegetarian, no problem, as long as you aren’t sitting in judgment if your date orders a steak. I believe that everyone has to decide for them selves which foods best serve their body type. If you are a strident vegan, and you can’t watch anyone eat meat products, that is something to figure out BEFORE you go out on a dinner date. 

For those of you “foodies” out there…be adventurous and let your date know that you love trying new things. Foodies need to find each other!

One other thought: Judging how someone else eats, even if you believe they are harming themselves, is toxic to you not them.

What got me thinking about all of this was a blog I recently read by Katie Oldenburg at on this topic. Here’s what she thinks your first date food order says about you… you decide for yourself!

Anything With Garlic: I have no self-awareness or foresight … or I don’t like you.

Tacos: I’m impulsive and a short-term thinker. 

Burger And Fries: I want something delicious because I’m hungry. It’s not glamorous and you may judge me for it, so go ahead.

Buffalo Wings: I’m adventurous and not afraid of getting down and dirty.

Pasta: I’m a romantic. There’s something seductive about a savory plate of pasta, as long as sauce isn’t dripping all over the place. 

Steak: I’m dominant and powerful. Anybody who wants to slice into a big filet with a steak knife says “I’m in control” (and maybe that attitude will spill into the bedroom later on).

Chicken: I play it safe. May be perceived as boring.

Pizza: I’m down-to-earth. I’m not too uppity, but I also might not be very adventurous.

Meatloaf: I’m not here to impress you. There’s nothing impressive or sexy about meatloaf, therefore there’s nothing impressive or sexy about this date.

Quesadilla: I’m fun, easy going and playful.

Surf And Turf: I’m fancy, sort of materialistic and don’t care about money, because you’re paying.

Salmon: I like you and consider your feelings. I chose a lean piece of fish that’s not too smelly or hearty, tastes good and is classy.

Chicken Fingers: I am a child trapped in an adult’s body and am unaware that you’re probably judging me.

One last thought. When I was dating, I would generally eat something before going out to dinner, because I didn’t want anyone to see just how ravenous I can become when I get hungry and I am a super sloppy, messy eater. I would generally order something that I liked ”enough” that wouldn’t end up all over me, or them!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Celebrating 16 Blissful Years

This past weekend Brian and I celebrated our 16th wedding anniversary. Wow, does time fly! One of the assumptions I had about marriage was that the longer I knew my partner, eventually I would be a bit bored….so not true!

Brian continues to be most loving and fascinating person I have ever met, and we have so much fun together!

In 1998 we had three weddings. This photo was from our “legal” wedding where we had rock star Kenny Loggins who volunteered to be our officiant and wedding singer!

I was reflecting on what it took for me to become a first-time bride at the age of 44, and thinking about all the years I was certain that I would never find “the One.”

I had such a history of bad relationships, bad choices, that even my own mother had lost hope for me.

I’ll never forget the morning I woke up, at age 43, and made the decision to figure out how to manifest a soulmate. I still get excited remembering how my mind went into overdrive thinking about all the various prayers, processes and rituals I had used to manifest a highly successful career, that I would now transform into a soulmate manifestation process.

What I didn’t know then, is that not only would I manifest to most perfect man in the world (for me), but that I would be reach a level of happiness that I never dreamed possible.

For the past ten years I have been teaching this process, to thousands of men and women around the world, and nearly every day I receive an email, phone call, letter or Facebook message from happy couples who have found each other through the Soulmate Secret process.

I never tire of reading these success stories, they just make my heart sing knowing that more people how found the love of their life.

Here’s what I now know for sure: Finding true love is possible for an one at any age, if you are willing to prepare yourself on all levels to become a magnet for love.

What you may not know is that you might have some “soulmate blockers.” These are unconscious thoughts, beliefs or energies, that are getting in your way.

If you want to clear them, then I invite you to join me for a free teleseminar, that just might make all the difference in the world for you.

It happens this Thursday on August 14th – don’t miss it!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Make Someone As Happy As You Would Like To Be for Epic Love

Strawberry CoupleWhen manifesting a soulmate, it’s so easy to think about what we want from the relationship, focusing on our needs, hopes, wishes and desires for an epic love life.

But, what if, there were another dimension to the process that can help you speed things up? There are thoughts and energies that contribute to the process, many of which you may not be thinking about. Let me give you just one example:

Many years ago my friend Maxine desired to meet and marry her soulmate.
She decided to pray, and her prayer was very simple, but she said it with deep intention and love. This was her prayer:

“I will create my perfect partner for lifelong love in order to make someone as happy as I would like to be.”

Now this may sound hard to believe, but within one hour she met her soulmate. They have now been blissfully married for twenty happy years.

If you spend a lot of time thinking, hoping, wishing, fantasizing about life with a soulmate and you aren’t making a lot of progress, I invite you to join me for a free teleseminar, that just might make all the difference in the world for you.
It happens on August 14th – don’t miss it!

Register Now

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

How To Be The LeBron of LOVE

This morning Brian and I were talking about NBA superstar, LeBron James, and what it took for him to achieve greatness…all the dedicated hours of practice, energy, focus, and most importantly, desire.


I realized that many of the same things apply to manifesting a soulmate, without as much sweat!

Are you ready to get onto the Court of Love and finally win?

Let’s begin with DESIRE.

Ask yourself this question: Why do I desire a soulmate?

Really get in touch with how you most want to feel with him or her.

Loved? Cherished? Adored? Supported?

Blissed out in a partnership with someone who really “gets” you and loves you warts and all?

Take a little time each day to really feel what it feels like to experience this level of love (and use your imagination!).

For those of you who are really BUSY, it’s important to accept that finding love requires you to invest some time. This includes times to do the manifestation steps, the feelingizations, etc. And, this also includes making time to date and going on dates.

So often I hear: “I’ll make time to date when I meet someone.”


That isn’t going to work.

You need to start scheduling time into your calendar now. Nature abhors a vacuum. Create the time in your calendar today to be filled up by dates.

Manifesting love also has a monetary cost involved, an investment. Whether it’s for joining online dating sites, updating your wardrobe, therapy or coaching, create a budget and be prepared to INVEST in your love life.

Last week I watched a TV interview with a 70+ woman who invested $2,000 with a matchmaker, and is now happily married to her new soulmate. The host asked her: “That’s a lot of money…was it worth it?”

“Of course,” she said while glowing and kissing her new guy!

If you spend a lot of time thinking, hoping, wishing, fantasizing about life with a soulmate and you aren’t making a lot of progress, I invite you to join me for my upcoming Soulmate Secret 7 Week Online Course. This is the only time this year this course will be offered. I will take you by the hand, and walk you through the steps in an easy and fun process.

This course goes way beyond my book and includes new processes, new feelingizations, and much more. Plus you will be part of a community of other dedicated love seekers that will support you in your process.

If you are serious about fulfilling your heart’s desire for love and youare willing to make the investment of time, money and energy, sign up NOW for the free teleseminar that happens on August 14th!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Manifesting A Man who LOVES Women

When creating your soulmate wish list of the heart traits and qualities you most want your beloved to possess, one item to keep in mind is this:

A man, who knows how to love a woman.

My experience has been that men, who have a great relationship with their own mother, tend to have skills in this area.

Be sure to think this part through as you continue to manifest the soulmate of your dreams.

Seventeen years ago, when I wrote up my soulmate wish list, this was a key item for me and I even added that my future mother-in-law would be someone that I would enjoy as a friend and family member.

When it comes to mother-in-laws’, I hit the jackpot.

Peggy XmasPeggy Hilliard is a dream come true.

From the moment we met she welcomed me into her family. As I was getting to know Brian, and soon his two older brothers, it was clear that she had reared them to love and respect women….she raised three gentlemen.

A deeply loving, caring and super friendly woman, Peggy is someone you just want to spend time with.

Curious, open and thoughtful, Peggy is a true giver. She loves people and people love her. When you spend time with Peggy you are filled up with her love, warmth and laughter.

As many of you know, Peggy manifested her second soulmate at the age of 80 and spent several years with John before he passed away a few years ago. Now at 88, Peggy, unfortunately has cancer and will soon be making her transition to the other side…where I am certain she will be reunited with both of her soulmates and her many, many friends and family.

True to her Buddha-like nature, she is grateful for her long, happy and fulfilled life. It’s so hard to imagine that I won’t be able to simply pick up the phone and have one of our nice long chats with her.

She will be greatly missed by all of us.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Do You REALLY want a soulmate?

This week I spoke to several women who are driving themselves a bit nutty when it comes to manifesting a soulmate.

On the one hand they say YES, I want to meet my soulmate.

And, then they tell me how slammed they are at work, with overfull schedules and no time for themselves, let alone time to meet and date someone.

This is like trying to drive with one foot on the gas and the other on the brakes.

They are giving the Universe a mixed message.

Here’s what I say:

Stop and seriously think about whether or not NOW is the right time in your life to manifest a soulmate.

If your answer is a definite YES, fabulous!

Now it’s up to you to figure out how to create the time, space, and energy to put your love, attention, and intention into the process.

If the answer is no, then please give yourself a break….

We all put so much pressure on ourselves to try and “have it all, right now.”

And, then we wonder why we are exhausted and frazzled!

So, just for this moment, allow yourself to let go of the idea of finding love and enjoy the life you are leading.  Then, when you are truly open, willing and available to call in the love of your life, you can do it from a place of power and magnetism.

For those of you that are a YES, put a big smile on your face and remember that not only is your soulmate seeking you, you are already connected to them on the unseen dimensions so begin talking to them today.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. For those that are a BIG YES for now, come join me for a workshop – I have two coming up:

Sun Valley Wellness Festival May 23rd, Sun Valley, Idaho  


Omega Institute May 30 – June 1, 2014 Rhinebeck, New York.
Register for the Soulmate Secret Workshop here


Is he the ONE for you?

Ever wonder if your relationship is more good than bad? Or, if it’s right for you?

My dear friend Linda Sivertsen, who has a beautiful relationship with her boyfriend of four years, has created the ultimate tool to finally make sense of your love life.

It’s called The Boyfriend Log, and it’s an iphone/ipad app.

If you’re tired of having your sister, girlfriends, or therapist on speed dial and want to finally be able to trust yourself and be your own eyewitness in love, you’re going to love using this first-ever app for tracking the health of your relationship. It allows you to see your romance at a glance, because seeing is believing, and clarity is queen.

What makes this so different than a normal diary? Color coding.

A little back story: When Linda was married and her man showed her CLEAR signs that he wasn’t happy, she would log it in her diary. Until he’d apologize and get back to being loving, at which point she often feel like she was cheating on him, on them, and would erase her diary. Yep. Codependent, anyone? When he left her for another woman after 19 years, Linda decided that she’d never again stay so attached to a story that she’d erase reality. She vowed that when she got a new boyfriend, she’d FORCE herself to keep a diary every single day.

Sure enough, those first few months of entries were dreamy. But over time, the entries began to change. Some days were beautiful, others awful. Was there more good than bad? She couldn’t tell. She suspected there were patterns, but couldn’t decipher them. Until she thought to color-code her days. Whoa. Then the patterns became crystal clear. In living color.

And, it works the other way, too. Maybe your relationship’s a lot more stable and loving than you’ve been giving it credit for. Maybe you’ve gotten lazy in love and could use a reminder of the little things you used to do, back when your love was new and exciting? If you want romance, you can’t just expect your partner to bring it if you’re not.

I was so excited when Linda and I met for lunch a few months ago and she showed me the prototype. I couldn’t believe how simple and yet revolutionary it was. You can’t change something you can’t see and this is, finally, a way to know what you want and what you need. It puts the power, literally, in the palm of your hand.

Was today Romantic, Happy, Flat, Sad, or Angry? What about last week, or the month before that? Through daily reflection and a personalized, color-coded calendar, The Boyfriend Log illuminates positive and negative patterns and makes having a meaningful relationship-or moving on-easier.

One of my favorite sayings of Linda’s is that in every relationship there are in fact 3 relationships going on: The one you’re having, the one your man is having, and the real one. It’s easy to see why we get so confused. Women, above all, want connection, and often-as Linda did-whitewash reality to try and keep the love alive. But this isn’t just for ladies.

Couples are using The Boyfriend Log to track each other, and meeting once a week to compare notes. Think of the empowering possibilities in your own life and relationships.

And, with unlimited logs, you can track as many people in your life as you’d like-even yourself!

In short, the BFL is a relationship-changing tool. A beautiful, fun, healing, awareness technology like nothing else out I’ve ever seen.

The visuals are stunning. The app is gorgeous ($1.99), and I believe that the new question on everyone’s lips will be:

What color is your relationship?

Get your own copy today here:

The FUN video that shows how The Boyfriend Log also SAVES relationships:

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Soulmate Bucket List – new!

Walking hand-in-hand along the banks of the river Seine in Paris, long, slow kisses in the shadow of the Eiffel Tower, romantic candle-lit dinners in cozy french cafes, visiting the magnificent cathedrals and art museums… these were all items on the soulmate bucket list I created long before I manifested Brian.

Last week we finally made it to Paris….nearly 17 years after we met.

Was it worth waiting for?  Absolutely.

The experience was even better than anything I ever dreamed of.

Paris, the city of light and love, just oozes romance.

Lovers gather on the Lock Bridge, a special place where you bring a lock and key.  After you write your names on the lock, you attach the lock to the links on the bridge and then throw the key into the river, promising that your hearts are “locked” together forever.

Creating a soulmate wish list, listing the heart traits and qualitiesyou desire your beloved to possess, is a big part of the manifestation process. This new, Soulmate Bucket List, is a companion piece where you envision future activities that you will do together someday.  Begin dreaming into existence the “bucket list” experiences you will share with your soulmate.

I would love to know what is on your list.  Please post at

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Your Way or God’s Way?

katzkiss1-1When it comes to manifesting a soulmate the single most important thing to have total clarity on is how you desire to feel when you are with your beloved.

For those of you who are hyper focused on the “form” of the coming relationship, I am inviting you to shift into the “feeling space” and for just now, let go of your wish list regarding the physical form (on all levels) you think you need.  (the Divine may have something in mind for you that is beyond your ability to conceive of right now)

Here’s a little exercise to try every morning for the next week that will assist you in having laser-like clarity on this:

When you begin to wake up, before you even open your eyes, imagine that your beloved in lying in bed, sleeping quietly and peacefully.

You can sense the warmth and weight of their presence but they are not touching you.

In this moment, how are you feeling?  Loved? Happy? Safe? Serene? Excited? Relieved? Filled with gratitude? Content?

Allow yourself to experience the depth of your positive emotions for your love connection with your soulmate.

In your mind, whisper to them words of love, appreciation and gratitude for all the ways they enrich your life.

You do not to know how or when this reality came to be.

It’s not important to know their height, weight, income level or job description, just feel the deliciousness of their divine presence and breathe it in.

Thank them for the gift of sharing a life with you.

Tell them that you now know and trust that they are on the way to you.

Put a big smile on your face, swallow the smile and let it land in every organ of your body, and when you are ready, gently open your eyes and begin your day.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. The beautiful painting of the lovers is by  The original hangs in my office!


Tired of Being Single? Time to Unlock Your Heart!

Other worldsSMALLMy friend and healer, Dr. Bradley Nelson, is an internationally recognized expert in energy medicine and is the author of The Emotion Code. I’ve asked him to share with you today some very enlightening and important information about healing and unlocking your heart:

Ancient peoples believed that the heart was the seat of the soul and the source of love and romance. What if they were correct? Could your heart possibly be more than just a pump? Were the ancient ones right about this? And if they were, what might it have to do with your ability to find your soulmate?

New research has revealed that your heart is your most powerful organ, generating a magnetic field up to 12 feet in diameter that surrounds your body. It’s actually been proven in the laboratory that if you focus feelings of love and affection on another, your heartbeats will rapidly synchronize, and your heartbeat will become measurable in their brainwaves!

It’s rapidly becoming an accepted fact that our intense emotional experiences can leave us with “baggage.” I have discovered that this emotional baggage actually consists of discrete energies that disrupt our bodies, contributing to pain and disease of all types and varieties, as well as depression, phobias, panic attacks, eating disorders and all sorts of self-sabotage. But where your emotional baggage may really be short-circuiting your life is your heart.

The human heart is a second brain that stores our deepest affinities and our most precious memories. One of the most important discoveries in the field of energy medicine is that the heart will often try to protect itself from emotional injury and heartache by forming an invisible wall of energy around itself, a “Heart-Wall,” made from the energy of our trapped emotions. Listen to the experience of a woman named Elizabeth from Massachusetts:

After having my heart-wall cleared by a certified Emotion Code practitioner, I am just amazed with the results! It took about 5 sessions to completely remove all the trapped emotions (and completely clear the heart-wall). I have struggled with depression and anxiety all my life and after my heart-wall was removed, these two issues I’ve dealt with for over 20 years have virtually disappeared! I also find I am much more open and feel an overall sense of well-being that I have not felt in a very long time. I also find that other people (including total strangers) are talking to me and opening up to me – almost like I am projecting a whole different, more approachable energy. I wish more people knew about the Emotion Code and would give it a try – it will be life changing, I can promise that much.- Elizabeth,  Massachusetts

Can you think back to a time in your life when you felt like your heart was going to break? When you felt so grief-stricken or hurt that you didn’t think you could stand it? Do you remember the physical sensation that you felt during that experience? You may have felt as if an elephant were sitting on your chest, or that you couldn’t breathe. Unfortunately, I think these feelings that we often refer to as “heartache” or “heartbreak” are quite universal, as there seem to be words that describe these physical sensations in every language around the world.

When you are experiencing deep grief, hurt or loss, it can actually be an assault on the deepest part of your being, on your heart. These feelings of heartbreak can be so uncomfortable, so foreign and so difficult to deal with, that they often result in the formation of that energetic “wall,” designed to protect your heart from these profoundly negative emotions.

Is a wall around your heart contributing to physical illness or disease for you? Is your Heart-Wall hampering your ability to give and receive love? Is it interfering with your ability to feel good emotions, or contributing to your feelings of isolation? Is it creating depression, anxiety or self-sabotage for you? Is that wall of energy around your heart interfering with your ability to find your soulmate?

If you are at all frustrated with your love life, your social life, your health issues, or the level of financial abundance that you’ve been able to attain, a Heart-Wall may be a big piece of the puzzle for you. We have found through our testing that approximately 93% of people suffer from this phenomenon, so you are not alone. Isn’t it time to tear down that wall around your own heart, and start living the life you have always known you could live?

I encourage you to check out Dr. Nelson’s free videos and learn to release your own emotional baggage at And, to find an Emotion Code Practitioner, visit www.

Wishing you love AND courage,


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