Be A Love Generator

My dear friend David Wagner, discovered his life’s purpose while at work one day as a hairdresser. One of his regular clients came in unexpectedly for a blow out. David decided to give her an extra long head massage. As he shampooed her hair and lovingly massaged her scalp, he was, as usual, friendly and kind during their time together.

A few days letter he received a surprising letter from the woman. She wrote that she had come in for a blow out because her plan was to commit suicide and she wanted to look good at her funeral. But, because of David’s attention and love, rather than follow through with her plan, she decided life was worth living and she checked herself into the hospital and sought help.

DW Grammy JuneIn that moment, David had an epiphany. He realized that he was more than a hairdresser, more than a boss to 400 employees at his many Juut Salonspas in Minnesota…..he saw that he was in fact a “Daymaker.”

He now knew his purpose in life was to make someone’s day, to spread love, to be a love generator.

It’s a simple concept with a powerful effect.

If we all commit to be “Daymakers” in our lives, and the lives we touch, the world will quickly become a more loving place.

Below are some of David’s tips on how to be a Daymaker in all areas of life.

Make Your Lover’s Day

  • Write a love letter and send it in the mail. It costs 44 cents.
  • Send your mate’s parents flowers on your mate’s birthday.
  • Rent a tandem bicycle for the weekend.
  • Offer to take over something your mate usually does (like cook dinner).
  • Break out the best china this week, especially with kids. It will create a special night for everyone.
  • Ladies, send him flowers at work today. How rare is it for a guy to get flowers? Very rare! They love it!!

Make A Co-Worker’s Day

  • Offer to pick up lunch for someone you know is swamped.
  • If you have an SUV, offer to pick up others on a snowy day.
  • Pass the bouquet. Give someone special a bouquet and have them pass it on to someone else the following day. It’s a week of Daymaking with one bouquet!
  • Create a Daymaker of the Year award at work.
  • Write a thank you note to the boss. It’s lonely at the top. Everyone needs to know they’re appreciated for their work.
  • Acknowledge promotions; send a card to the employee’s home.
  • Grab coffee for your coworker on the way in!

Make A Stranger’s Day

  • Put a quarter in a gumball machine and walk away.
  • Let people merge in traffic today.
  • Carry thank you notes with you. Write them out to waiters and waitresses. It will surprise them more than a big tip.
  • Plug a parking meter that’s expired.
  • Help a stranger take their luggage off the carousel at the airport.
  • Buy a bike for your local children’s shelter.
  • Buy gift certificates to a car wash and leave them on the windshield of random cars.
  • Buy gift certificates to an ice cream shop and give them out on a hot day.

Make Your Own Day

  • Tonight make your home a spa. Use your favorite soothing music, scented candles, bath salts/oils, calming tea, and favorite robe. Unplug the phone, put the kids to sleep and enjoy two hours of bliss.
  • Buy fresh flowers on your way home tonight.
  • Call someone just to say, “I love you and I’m glad you are in my life.”
  • Watch the sunset.
  • Turn off your cell phone ringer during dinner.
  • Be an optimist today. Look on the bright side of everything that comes your way. Repeat it tomorrow.

To join David and the tens of thousands of Daymakers around the world, please visit: www.daymakermovement.com

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. In the photo above, David is being a Daymaker for his wife Charlie’s Grandmother, June. She will be 99 next month!

Can You Make Someone Fall in Love with You?

People often ask me how to use the Law of Attraction to bring back an ex lover or convince someone new to love them.  I do not believe this is the best use of the Law of Attraction and I am not even sure if it would work.  I don’t believe in impeding on someone else’s free will or destiny.

Couple cupsHowever, I recently came across some fascinating research that seems to have an excellent track record in having people fall in love and also having couples re-ignite their level of intimacy.

In a study published in April 1997 by State University of New York psychology professor Arthur Aron, a team of researchers discovered a method for creating closeness between two strangers. In laboratory setting, the team asked participants to use a catalogue of thirty-six increasingly personal questions and to then conduct an exercise of silently looking into each other’s eyes for four minutes.  The idea was to discover three common traits along with a series of other trust-building measures to quickly create trust and intimacy, the cornerstones of any lasting relationship.

In an article in the New York Times, University of British Columbia in Vancouver writing instructor Mandy Len Catron recounts her experience of re-enacting the experiment with a university colleague.  The intensity of the exercise was overwhelming. After several hours of conversation with her male colleague, she revealed that love is indeed an action. To their surprise, the test worked and they fell in love.

You can get the list of 36 questions here.

When you do this, remember, the most important part of the exercise is this:  after answering all the questions, you and your partner gaze into each other’s eyes, in total silence for four minutes.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,   

Arielle

Let’s meet in person!

It’s wonderful that we can connect online every week, but I would really like to meet you in person!

PINK-Hi-Res-headshot-touched-upIf you would like to spend some time with me, I have four upcoming, life-changing LIVE in-person events. Two events (in Chicago and Bali) are for both couples and singles, and the other two events are for singles that are ready to manifest the love of their life! If you are ready to be inspired to manifest real magic, please join me at one of these locations:

London – One Day Only: The Soulmate Secret Workshop – Saturday, June 6th
This will be a fun and fast-paced intensive one-day workshop to manifest the love of your life. Topics include:

    • Clarify your needs, intentions and desires to bring in a loving partner.How to meet your love “before first sight!”
    • Open your heart through the power of feelingizations – the secret sauce to manifesting successfully.
    • Transformational rituals and other energetic shifting processes that will empower you to create and attract the partner of your dreams.
    • Register here!

Chicago, Celebrate Your Life Conference – June 12-15th
This is amazing weekend event with some of the biggest stars in the personal growth world including: Iyanla Van Zant, Neale Donald Walsch, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Michael Beckwith, James Redfield, Carolyn Myss, Panache Desai, James Twyman, and many others. I will be presenting two 90-minute presentations on June 13th & 14th: The Soulmate Secret and also Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships.  Register here!

Omega Institute, Rhinebeck NEW YORK – July 10-12th
The Soulmate Secret Weekend Workshop
This stunning rural retreat center, two hours north of NYC, is the ideal environment to go deep with the secrets to manifesting the love of your life. This workshop goes beyond the book and includes new transformative feelingizations and a fire-ritual to kick start your love life into high gear!  Register here!

Bali, Indonesia –  August 29 – September 6, 2015
Join Brian and I for a transformational and fun journey: The Manifest Your Biggest Unmet Dream (even if you don’t know what it is) Magical Mystery Tour of Bali. This beautiful and spiritual island allows you to effortlessly “remove” all kinds of energies and beliefs that hold you back from fulfilling your biggest dreams, purpose or destiny. Each day you will experience one – two hour sessions to remove “what’s in the way” and lead you to “what’s next.” Plus there are daily excursions with us to sacred places to deepen the experience via Temples, Waterfalls, Rituals with healers and shamans, Jungle Walks, River Rafting, Yoga, Meditation, healthy food and much more. It’s for singles and couples, seekers, who are ready to discover what’s next for them.  Click here for details!

Looking forward to meeting you soon!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

When Being Right Is SO Wrong!

I am a recovered “need to be right” person.

I grew up in an era and a home where “being right” was highly valued.

From my first days in school, I saw that raising your hand and having the “right” answer meant you were smart.

At home “being right” meant being loved for being smart.

I was brainwashed into believing that when I was “right” I was good enough to be loved.  Quite the ego boost!

Wow, was I wrong.

As I grew up and matured, I found out there is something so much more important than being “right.”

Art by www.sharronkatz.com
Art by www.sharronkatz.com

It’s being “loved.”

I discovered that when I was committed to being “right” it always meant making someone else “wrong.”

So many of us like to assume a rigid stance and “dig in our heels” to fight for our point of view, and prove how “right” we are (often about some pretty stupid stuff).

The cost of needing to be right is hurting, harassing or humiliating the ones we claim to love the most.

Over the years, I have finally learned to manage my mind and my mouth.

I’ve learned that most of the time it’s not necessary to “correct” anyone on what I think is right or wrong unless it’s really pertinent to someone’s well-being.

Now, when I am smart enough to “catch” myself, and I am about to blurt out something in order to be “right,” I slap some imaginary masking tape over my mouth and choose love instead.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Magic of A Bucket List

The Magic of A Bucket List

About one year ago Brian and I were talking about the best concerts we have ever been to. I realized that I had never seen one of my all time favorite singers perform live….the amazing Stevie Wonder! In that moment, I declared that going to a Stevie Wonder concert was the #1 item on my bucket list. Six months later, I was reading the Los Angeles Times and came across a story for his upcoming concerts. We immediately bought 3rd row center seats.

What a night that was.

Best concert I’ve ever seen.

It exceeded all my dreams of seeing Stevie Wonder live in concert.

Having a bucket list is different from daily or yearly goals. It fulfills a big dream and creates an experience and warm memories that will last a lifetime.

Bri & Ari Bali gardenFor many years, visiting Bali was on my bucket list. I had heard about it, seen photos, and of course read about it in Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Eat, Pray, Love.

Three years we ago we went for the first time. Not only is Bali the most beautiful place I’ve ever been, spending time there provided me with unexpected and magical things I never anticipated.

Bali is a very spiritual island in Indonesia that is made up of Hindu’s who pray every day. These are happy, smiling, friendly people who seem to exist to make others happy. The weather is tropical, the food delicious, and the terrain and sites are like eye-candy.

I had expected the trip to be a fun and relaxing vacation, but I was blown away by how just BEING in Bali transformed me.

Energetically, this is a very special place.

The lack of density, the gentleness, the soothing energy and vibes, healthy food, and inherent mysticism of Bali took me to a deep, profound, healing and relaxing space. Prior to arriving there, I knew that I was stressed out, but what I didn’t know was how emotionally, physical and mentally depleted I was.

Bali wdancersBali changed my life.

Being there allowed me to “remove” all kinds of energies and beliefs that were holding me back and transformed my life for the better. Which led to unexpected amounts of creativity, better health and prosperity.

“Creating a transformative workshop in Bali” went to #1 on my bucket list.

Guess what happened next? I received an invitation from two women who have spent the last 20 years producing sacred journeys and workshops in Bali (asking to meet with us about the possibility of creating a workshop there). After learning about their successful experiences and meeting them, seeing and feeling the love they bring to their events, Brian and I agreed to do this!

We have named it: Manifest Your Biggest Unmet Dream (even if you don’t know what it is) Magical Mystery Tour of Bali.

We’d love for you to join us August 29 – September 6, 2015.

We will also be hosting a teleconference to share more details on March 12th at 5pmPT /8pmET. Sign up here for the call.

Or, if you are ready to just say YES TO BALI, go here: www.heartlabtours.com.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Are you really in love? (plus find LOVE on Facebook)

Did you get your heart broken in high school or college?

Or, did you break someone’s heart?

Are you single now?

Are they?

Fascinating new research shows that if you reconnect with someone from your past that you were once in love with and both of you are now single, there is a 70% chance that you can reconnect and have a happy life together!

Helen Fisher heartOne of my favorite TV shows, CBS Sunday Morning, recently did a segment on this topic, featuring Dr. Helen Fisher, and highlighted several couples that found each other again, including one woman who reunited with her Ex via Facebook. In spite of the fact that one of them dumped the other in the long ago past, these couples reconnected and are now happily married.

What happened?

According to Dr. Fisher, anthropologist, love expert, and Rutgers University professor, the brain chemistry and circuitry that first had them fall in love was “re-ignited.”

Why? Because chances are you will still find each other attractive, and you share important history together. There is a built in comfort level:  You already know each other…family, friends, and all kinds of background info. If you re-connect, you could have your brain chemistry triggered and voila, romance re-blossoms!

Dr. Fisher and her research partner, Dr. Lucy Brown, have a new website, where you can learn much more about love and they offer a fantastic quiz where you can discover if you really are “in love.”  They call it a Love Calculator and it measures the Passionate Love Scale. Try it now at www.theAnatomyofLove.com.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Manifesting Paradox: Surrender vs. Action

Manifesting Paradox: Surrender vs. Action

Successful manifesting requires something akin to driving with your foot on the gas and the brake at the same time. On the one hand, we need to be clear about our intentions, and be able to feel in very cell of our body that what we have asked for IS already ours, and be willing to take action towards our goals. Simultaneously, we must stay detached from the outcome and live in a state of surrender.

Now you might be thinking, “Whoa, that doesn’t make any sense!”

But it does.

Think of it this way: When the seeds of a flower have been planted, and the first leaves begin to sprout, the gardener doesn’t tug on the leaves every day to make the plant grow faster. They trust that Mother Nature knows how to grow all on her own, thank you very much.

There are many ways we approach manifesting our desire, whether it’s more money, a soulmate, a new career, or the perfect little black dress.

Some of us take the “if it’s meant to be it will just happen” approach. Others take charge and go into “make it happen” mode. I believe that it’s a combination of the two that is the winning ticket.

I believe that manifesting your heart’s desire has a certain amount of “meant-to-be-ness” to it… AND it requires a big dose of “make-it-happen-ness.”

Practicing intention, surrender, focus, and detachment coupled with trust, belief, knowingness, and patience is the recipe for success.

And I realize that this is a paradox….

surrenderHow does one be both intentional and surrendered?

When I am being intentional, I have a clear feeling and picture of what my desire is AND I also am detached from the outcome.

I know and trust that life will continue to be great whether or not my desire is fulfilled.

I surrender to divine timing and to destiny (knowing this or something better is on the way) and my happiness and well-being isn’t dependent on having my wishes granted.

This is a daily “conscious” practice that requires emotional maturity and awareness. It’s worth the effort to master this practice, as it will give you freedom to be “with what is” while manifesting your deepest desires!

Those who successfully manifest have learned and surrendered to the fact that it’s not our job to know where, when, or how our desire will appear. We don’t have to micromanage every encounter or anticipate every detail. Our job is to simply prepare ourselves in body, mind, and soul and then relax into the knowledge that what we’ve asked for – wherever it may be at this moment – is on the way.

When you notice that you are in fear or doubt or disbelief that your desired outcome is on the way, allow yourself to spend three minutes or less fully feeling the worst of these negative emotions. Set a time and then dive in and exaggerate your fears and doubts. Make it really ugly. No positive thinking allowed! IF you do this you will soon begin to laugh because your rational mind will kick in, reminding you that these thoughts are just not true. Then, having released the pressure of the negativity, fill yourself back up with kind, loving affirmations that your desired outcome IS already yours and remember to be both intentional and surrendered!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

5 Great Ways To Share Love for Valentines Day

Saturday is Valentine’s Day (as I am sure you know) and I want you to give yourself permission to spoil yourself, and your loved ones, completely!

Make a list of the people you most love and appreciate in your life, go buy some beautiful cards and then write them a mini love letter. Give yourself the freedom to express all the things you most love and appreciate about them…really go for it. Gush big-time and be their biggest fan!

redheart&lightsWho has been your greatest “love” teacher? A Parent? Sibling? Child? Friend? Send them flowers with a note thanking them for their wisdom and inspiration.

Make a plan, today, for what you will do on Saturday night. If you enjoy cooking or baking, invite your loved ones over to join you for a delicious meal with fresh flowers, candles and an atmosphere to celebrate!

Give yourself the gift of self-love. Gaze into a mirror, look deep into your own eyes and speak these words out loud: “I really love you. You are a totally wonderful, beautiful, magical person deserving of great love.”

Buy yourself a special gift…. perhaps a piece of jewelry you can wear daily as a reminder of how much you love and admire yourself!

Remember, what we put our attention on grows, so add more love to your inner and outer world on Valentines Day and be a “love generator!”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Play Cupid For A Single Friend

In the Jewish tradition there is a practice called “doing a mitzvah,” otherwise known as a good deed. I’ve always heard that two of the mitzvah’s that will get you big brownie points with the Creator is to:

#1 find someone a job

#2 find someone a soulmate

I was recently interviewed by the Chicago Tribune on the topic of “how to survive a blind date” which got me thinking about this topic of playing “matchmaker” for friends. (In Yiddish, someone who does this is also called a “yenta”, although technically a yenta is someone who gossips and meddles in the affairs of others…)

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, now might be a great time to think about all of your single friends and see if there is anyone you might be able to fix up.

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I did this a few months ago for one of my girlfriends. She told me she was looking for some “fun dates” and they didn’t have to be with “the One,” just someone nice to spend time with.

This took the pressure off me to find her the perfect man.

As I scanned my internal Rolodex of single male friends, I thought of James, who had recently gone through a divorce. So, I fixed them up.

Did they fall in love?

No, but, they have both thanked me for taking the time to connect them because they have now become good friends.

Most singles are really resistant to blind dates, so here’s what I found works best when approaching this subject:

  • First, check with both parties to see if they are open to it.
  • Then tell each of them WHY you think they would enjoy the other.
  • Finally, suggest an easy way for them to connect, perhaps through a brief email introduction.

Then imagine Cupid’s arrow sailing through the heavens to make a love connection as you step away and watch what happens!This is how to make a mitzvah!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

What Plato Knew About Soulmates

Have you ever wondered why we humans seek a soulmate?

What is it about us that craves this deep connection to another?

Are we genetically designed to be mated?

One fascinating and possible answer comes from Aristophanes, a philosopher of ancient Athens. He offers a wild tale, that he shared at Plato’s Symposium, about how the deep desire for Oneness came about.

Long, long ago in primal times people had doubled bodies, four arms, four legs, two heads and they were big and round…. These roly-poly creatures wheeled around earth like clowns doing cartwheels & were very powerful.

There were three sexes: the all male, the all female, and the “androgynous,” who were half male, half female.

The males were said to have descended from the sun, the females from the earth and the androgynous couples from the moon.

The creatures tried to scale the heights of heaven and planned to set upon the gods. Zeus thought about blasting them to death with thunderbolts, but did not want to deprive himself of their devotions and offerings, so he decided to cripple them instead by chopping them in half with his sword, thus, in effect separating the two bodies. . The severed halves were then scattered in opposite directions…

Aristophanes claimed that when two people who were torn apart from each other find each other, they never again want to be separated again from their soulmate.

Roly PolyWhen a half finally does meets its other half, they become deliriously happy and overjoyed with the promise of new love and delight. They believe that they are complete now that they are reunited with their other half, thus obtaining “wholeness.”

When Jean Houston first shared this story with me, I felt the “rightnesss” of it.

Of course we are meant to share our lives with someone!

KWT blue smIf you feel that way too, and you are ready to discover some new ways to be pro-active to making it happen, please join my good friend, licensed psychotherapist and bestselling author Katherine Woodward Thomas, MA, MFT, for a free online seminar designed to support you in the process of uncovering and then releasing your hidden inner-barriers to love, so you can at last “call in” the committed, nurturing partnership of your dreams!

Calling in The One: How to Identify and Release Your Hidden Barriers to Love &
Become Magnetic to Your Soulmate

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle



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