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Dear
Soulmate Manifesters,
Over the weekend we attended a holiday party and the big topic of
conversation was the Tiger Woods fiasco. I noticed that the happily
married men were very sympathetic towards Elin Woods and thought Tiger
deserves whatever nightmare he has created for himself. A few of the
guys (two who were over 45 and never married and one married guy who is
a player) expressed a lot of sympathy for Tiger and thought that he
shouldn’t be held responsible because “everyone
knows that women always throw themselves at famous athletes and of
course they can’t be expected to resist the
temptation.” Without intending to, these men revealed their
personal position on fidelity. If you are dating someone, discussing
the Tiger situation provides a relevant opportunity to find out your
partner’s beliefs on this very important topic and opens the
door to ask questions that might generally be uncomfortable to broach.
(Better to find out sooner than later if your thoughts about fidelity
are aligned!)
My brilliant sister, Debbie Ford, wrote a powerful blog for the
Huffington Post. I thought you would find it fascinating so I have
included here for you:
The
Mask of
Tiger Woods
 Well, here we are in
another media frenzy about our latest fallen angel
– the one and only Tiger Woods. As yet another legend bites
the dust by exposing his bad behavior, many of us are shocked and
appalled while others are falling deeper into resignation about the
imaginary faithful husband. And then for some others, there is a bit of
glee. There are those who are just plain grateful that Tiger Woods
isn’t the superhuman that he has been made out to be. For
some, Tiger's imperfections become a gigantic exhale of relief. Those
who seek to find their happiness in the fantasy that one day they will
become the perfect person can now see they are finally off the
proverbial hook. As the women continue to come forward for their few
minutes of fame and glory in this tabloid-frenzied society that would
rather focus on the another person’s flaws rather than do
anything about their own, we are once again trapped in a conversation
that judges another's behavior rather than working diligently to clean
up our own. And even though we’re in an era when most people
don't have the time to focus on what's important to them, they do
somehow find the time to focus on what will be meaningless in just a
few days or months.
I could go on and on about why Tiger’s
behavior was predictable. If you take the time to read Why
Good People
Do Bad Things: How to Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy
and study the
masks of the human being, you will indeed understand why Tiger could
not maintain his "I'm
the proverbial Nice Guy Overachiever”
act for his entire life. How could he or anyone continually push down
all of his unmet needs and ordinary human impulses that are built into
our everyday human wiring? Can you imagine being that good? Can you
imagine having to win at everything, to perform perfectly every day for
the rest of your life? How stressful it would be for a mere mortal to
carry this burden.
So now Tiger joins the ranks of Bill Clinton, David
Letterman and other infamous cheaters. Tiger will never be the same.
Tiger's life as we have all known it before that fateful car crash is
dead, something for the archives. And now a new life can emerge --
hopefully a life where he can live a more authentic expression, where
he can experience more intimacy with his family, friends, and peers so
that he doesn't have to seek false connections with women he hardly
knows and surely can't trust. As most cheaters will admit, it's a quick
fix, a temporary high, that they could have just as easily gotten from
a shot of heroin or a couple of martinis mixed with the newest edition
of Playboy.
Hopefully, as Tiger gets over the shock of being exposed,
he will find a safe guide to support him in going inside himself to
find out who he really is and what he really wants now that he no
longer has the right to don the mask of the Nice Guy Overachiever.
And it’s not just Tiger’s life that has changed. So
has ours. Tiger has now shown all those who still believe in the prince
on the white horse that the prince is flawed, imperfect, and human and
that when the mask of our human persona gets too tight, when there is
no more room to grow or breathe, it blows itself up so that it can
recreate itself anew. We can no longer look at Tiger with the same awe
of his divine perfection. Our jealousy can melt away. For all of us who
are caught up in the Tiger drama, my hope is that we will take back all
that we have projected on to him all these years. It is useful to
remember the old Buddhist trick. Imagine Tiger standing in front of you
and now point your finger out at him and say aloud "You are
stupid” or “careless” or “an
idiot” or “__________” -- whatever
quality you are seeing in him, fill in the blank. Now look down at your
hand. One finger is pointing out at him. Where are the other three
fingers pointing? That's right. Back at you. And as we were continually
reminded by our friends growing up, "You spot it, you got it!
For more information on the masks and Why
Good People Do Bad Things, go
to www.debbieford.com
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle
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