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Dear
Soulmate Manifesters,
My friend Bob Grant, has been a therapist and relationship coach for
the past 17 years. Recently we were talking about the misconception by
so many women (and some men) that they have to be
“perfect” before they can attract a mate. Bob has a
LOT to say about this and I thought I would share it with you:
You Don't
Have to Be Perfect to Attract a Man...
Perfect Is Overrated...I promise. Men don't need a woman to be flawless
to be attracted to her.
 After years of
listening to women in my private practice, many women
seem to think that men expect nothing less than perfection. If you were
to visit some popular men’s websites such as;
(www.askmen.com) or (www.maximum.com) you would certainly think that
unless a woman is both highly attractive and incredibly accommodating,
that men have no interest. This is not really accurate. At least not in
the way you might think.
I often illustrate this to women by asking this question:
“If you had a choice between two men and everything about
them was exactly the same, with the exception of one being worth
millions and one being poor, who would you prefer? Would you select the
wealthy one, or the one who was poor?”
Answer: If they were equal in all other aspects, most women state that
they would choose the wealthy gentleman. I mean, why not if everything
else is equal?
Now when men hear this some are likely to say,
“That’s right, all a woman cares about is a guy who
makes a lot of money.” In fact, that conclusion would be
incorrect. A man would be wrong to assume that just because a woman
likes the characteristic of a man with money that she cannot love a man
unless he is wealthy. In fact, most women I speak with tell me this,
“It isn’t that he has to make a certain amount, but
I would like to know that he has the potential to make enough for me to
feel comfortable.” In fact, most women are willing and/or
expect to help out financially.
This same standard applies to men. If given the choice between a woman
whom they believe is very attractive, or one who appears to take no
interest in her appearance, they will choose the attractive one. This
doesn’t mean that they will only consider a woman who is
striking. Take a look at most married men and you will see that plenty
of women who would not be considered “perfect” have
husbands who choose to marry them.
Why would this be? The answer is that the quality of being authentic is
actually more potent in the arena of love than perfection. Being
authentic causes a woman to act in such a manner that is enchanting.
This woman is well aware that she has issues (don’t we all)
and yet, she understands the balance between improving herself and
being comfortable with where she is currently in her life. She
doesn’t work hard at convincing others (i.e. men) that she is
perfect. Rather she is very attune to the needs of her heart, and takes
full responsibility for meeting those needs. Men find such a woman
adorable.
Here’s an exercise that will illustrate my point. The next
time you are in a crowded area take a moment and casually look around
at the men. Take at least 5 minutes and you will find that the men are
all looking at the women. ALL OF THE WOMEN!
They will be looking at the tall ones, short ones, skinny ones, curvy
ones and on and on and on…. Don’t take my word for
it. Try it and see for yourself.
You will discover that as a woman, you have exactly what men are
looking for. .
To learn more about Bob Grant and to access a free chapter from his
book, “The Women Men Adore and Never Want to Leave”
Click
Here!
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle
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