The Wabi Sabi of Dying

Finding joy was never a challenge until my sister Debbie Ford got cancer.

Several weeks ago I was recording an interview for my Art of Love Series on the topic of Serenity Now. I asked one of the experts, Michael Neill, what he does to add more pleasure to his daily life.

His answer surprised me. He said: “I find pleasure in everything.”

I decided I would do the same. Most days this was not a challenge.

I have a pretty amazing life: A wonderful husband. Work that I love. A home with great cats and an ocean view. Excellent health.

Finding pleasure in everything didn’t require much effort. Until, one day, it did.

For the past five years my sister, Debbie, has had an incurable form of cancer. We were always hopeful that somehow, someway, she would live to a ripe old age in spite of her condition. We hoped, and prayed, she would find a miracle.

Her doctors, in fact, called her a miracle because she was already outliving their predictions by nearly three years. She had gone through many scary episodes over time, only to rally. We thought it would go that way again.

Then very recently it became clear that her time on earth was coming to a close. I was heartbroken.

She was hospitalized for more than a week, getting weaker every day. Then she was sent home for hospice care. And each day I would ask myself, how can I, how should I, find pleasure in this? Is it right? Is this even possible?

The simple answer is yes.

While there were many moments of soul-wrenching grief, sadness, and tears, there were equal moments of lightness and laughter. I discovered that while a part of me ached to see my sister fading, another part of me rejoiced in being able to spend this precious time with her–to love her, and hold her, and be there during this extraordinary moment in her life. And I knew, so, well, that she would want us to be find moments of joy and laughter, for her sake.

The mere conscious act of seeking pleasure in the moment often revealed moments of grace.

There were so many tender moments in which our sisterly bond was celebrated in such a profound way that it brought us both joy.

*She would be in pain–pain that was almost unbearable. And, then, finally the pain meds would kick in and a smile would return to her face. Ah…the pleasure of relief.

*She would awaken from a nightmare, and together we would rewrite the story of her dream and turn it into something funny or profound.

*She would be happy to discuss her journey to the other side and five minutes later insist that a miracle was about to happen and she was going to live.

The pleasure there was all about watching Debbie be “oh-so-Debbie”… always changing her mind, always wanting to take command of her universe.

Or while she slept, I would become aware of the sweet stillness in her room with the humming of the oxygen machine as a bass line and I would find gratitude for this piece of machinery which helped her breathe. And I would feel grateful for all the extra breathes she seized, living way beyond the time so many doctors expected her to.

While we will all miss Debbie being oh-so-Debbie, what a gift it is to be able find moments of joy and peace at the end of her time here. What a gift it was to share those moments with her. I know that she felt this joy, too, despite all she was going through.

I discovered that seeking pleasure is so very Wabi Sabi….and that finding the beauty and perfection during this time provided me so much comfort in her final days.

P.S. Debbie was a giver. Her generosity is legendary and one of her proudest accomplishments was assisting Beau with his Bar Mitzvah project to build a school in rural Uganda via Just Like My Child. Through her Collective Heart Foundation several important programs to help women and children are now thriving including a Girl Power project. You can support this by visiting www.thecollectiveheart.org

If you would like to post your memories, stories and prayers about Debbie, please visit RememberingDebbieFord.com

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191 Responses to The Wabi Sabi of Dying

  1. Bronwen says:

    I well know that pleasure from pain having been with my husband as he passed from here to beyond -

    • Elaine says:

      Arielle,
      I am so sorry to hear of the recent sad passing of your dear sister Debbie. Even though I never met her I felt I knew her on some level as you always mentioned her in your seminars, audio clips etc
      May she rest in peace.
      Please know that she will be with you all everyday helping you & guiding you.
      God Bless you.

  2. Diane says:

    Thank you for who you and your sister are, and for your commitment that LOVE be present in every moment.

  3. Thank you, Arielle, for sharing your beautiful story and love for sister Debbie! I have always been touched by your open hearted e-mail messages. This one is profoundly beautiful and brave and heart opening. Thank you.

    Much love and continued moments of JOY – Anne Heartsong

  4. Debbie says:

    I am weeping for your sadness and loss of your dear sister~ I am so sorry but I know as you she is in heaven and now your angle.. Life is such a gift:) My mother had many years of dealing with this disease and I still have not gotten over it.. I just know she is with me.Take care of your heart.

  5. Carmen says:

    My deepest sympathy for the loss of your beautiful sister. She was a great inspiration to me with her books. May she be in pease as she continues her journey.
    Namaste,
    C

  6. Paula Stanfield says:

    Rest in peace, Debbie. Thanks for everything you gave, shared and taught me. With deep felt grief, Paula

  7. Helen says:

    I am so sad to hear of Debbie’s passing but
    grateful she is no longer suffering.
    My heart goes out to her family & friends.
    I never met Debbie in person but knew
    her well through her work.
    Debbie’s book Spiritual Divorce was the key
    in my moving forward in life after my
    divorce, and changing my life for the better.
    I will be eternally grateful.
    Rest in peace dear Debbie.
    Love & Light, Helen

  8. e says:

    I can’t seem to post on the remembering debbie ford page. But want to offer my condolences! I did not know her but have heard her speak on your series. I can tell what an amazing soul she was and still is. My heart goes out to your family right now. I’m here with you.

  9. Camila Pearl Farlov-Qvist says:

    I cry for our loss of Debbie who was a great gift to the world. I am so sory for your loss, Arielle. It most have been so painful to see her fade away the big light she was. I sending you love and thoughts.

  10. lynne michalek says:

    Dear Arielle,

    I took your workshop at Kripalu a few years ago and have looked forward to your e-mails. I was so saddened and touched by this one that I just had to write to send my deepest condolences and thank you for sharing your story about your journey with your sister.

    In a way, I lost mine a long time ago. While she is alive, she suffers from mental illness.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    Warm memories.

    Sincerely,
    Lynne

  11. Carol says:

    My condolences on the loss of Debbie. May you be comforted with all the wonderful memories your shared. Carol

  12. fran says:

    so sorry for your loss. your story about finding love that took you so long has always been a big inspiration to me. thank you for that! know you and your sister were very close. if it was a kind of cancer that is very genetic, please get to a large C center. God bless

    • donna says:

      ??? Are you serious, “please get to a large C center” ???!!!

      • Heather says:

        Dear Donna,

        I feel called to respond to your response and would like to share with the following guidelines I use when responding to posts online:

        1. Is it necessary? 2. Is it helpful? 3. Is it true? 4. Is it kind? 5. Does it improve upon the silence? (thread/conversation) 6. Is it coming from my heart and from love?

        The words we speak and the way we write carries energy that is sent out to the world, rippling out to reach the person we are writing/responding to and then to everyone else who reads it, and even they can then carry that energy into their conversations and interactions, not even knowing that it had anything to do with the message they read…

        When we read something that triggers an emotionally charged response it is always an opportunity to heal. It is an opportunity to practice loving kindness, forgiveness and compassion… When we choose instead to judge the person outside of ourselves and react with aggression, hate or even disgust, we are merely projecting our own fears and inadequacies out into the world. We are not only doing ourselves an injustice but also all of the people our message reaches.

        I believe her comment came from a place of genuine care and compassion, and whether or not I agree with her comment to check her risk at at “C Center” is irrelevant. I can choose to simply let it be, to bless her for her care and perhaps forgive myself if I have judged her for suggesting something I personally would not have suggested… I can choose to let it go and instead practice forgiveness and compassion, sending only love and blessings to all involved… All the while knowing that the world will be a better place for it…

  13. elizabeth mars says:

    Dear Arielle,

    I only today listened to Debbie’s talk in your series. I had no idea she was ill. I have only peripherally known of her and her work, but…somehow getting this news today, having listened to you two beautiful sisters sharing just an hour ago….this is poignant for me….

    I am wishing you blessing in your grief, and happiness in knowing she is free for a new adventure, and sending Big hugs to you, her, and all who have known and will miss her,

    e

  14. Denise Barbi says:

    Rip Debbie you will be dancing with the angels. I worked with you when you came to London and I released something within me that never again caused confusion in my life with your shadow work thank you you beautiful being of truth xxxx

  15. elizabeth says:

    My heart is heavy.I’m so sorry for your loss even though I know this isn’t the end of Debbie’s journey. It just takes on a different form. What a beautiful human being..my thoughts and prayers are with you and yours

  16. Barry Selby says:

    it’s all about love. Arielle, thank you. Thank you for sharing your journey, your heart, your pain, and for trusting us with your experience. Thank you for being such a beacon and leader of love, of light, and of authenticity. I appreciate your journey and your road, I also appreciate what Debbie shared, who she will always be to all of us. Thank you.

  17. Natasha Gill says:

    Dear Arielle,

    This is so timely. I lost my father to cancer four days ago. He fought a hard battle for a year and a half.

    I am the only sibling near to my parents so I had to shoulder a lot in the time that he was ill. But I saw that time as a gift in which we could come to terms with what was an often difficult relationship.

    I made every effort to help and support my parents through his illness. It was hard, but to be of service to them was to show them my love. It was a privilege, and he was grateful and very proud of my efforts.

    My father passed in peace. We had made our amends and said what we needed to say. I believe I was extremely well prepared for his passing. Now I know it is time to rest, and when I am recovered, life will resume it’s pace.

    My father’s illness gave my family the ability to see me in a new light. It taught me many things about myself that I did not know. It showed me that I would do whatever I could for the people that I loved. That I could work hard, tirelessly, endlessly. That I was a nurturer and a healer. That I knew how to give comfort. That I was much, much stronger than I ever knew. And that in the midst of it all, I could carry myself with grace.

    I made my father proud. That was the greatest gift of all. I looked upon the time of his illness as an opportunity. I saw the beauty in the gift of that time together. I can say that I am at peace in my heart with both myself and with him. I am ready to move on.

    There is beauty everywhere. Every moment holds an opportunity for grace. We simply have to see it.

    Thank you for sharing your story.

    God bless,

    Natasha

  18. Fay says:

    Return to Love was the first book of hers that I raed..and it transformed my life. While reading it I found that a lot of her teaching also came from”A Course in Miracle….i also was fortunate enought to obtain on of the courses book. There I practically kept my eye out for the the next book..Her books reached out to me in every aspect of my life…… I am floored and sadden…yet knowthat what she taught she now is able to touch,,,,,WOW,,,WOW,,,WOW

    • Arielle Ford says:

      Dear Fay,
      Marianne Williamson wrote A Return to Love. My sister wrote The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, Spiritual Divorce, Courage and 6 other books.
      Many blessings.
      arielle

      • Nyna Nelson says:

        I had the honor of seeing your sister lecture at Christ Unity Church many years ago.I was well into my spiritual journey of what is now 25 years in the making.I own her book and have recommended to many of my clients.(I am a holistic provider;a self employed nurse practitioner) I honor her work and will send prayers to you and family.What an amazing legacy!

      • Betsy Jordan says:

        Tears to express gratitude, love, memories and terrific teachings are falling all over the world tonight. I’ve spent 18 years loving you “Ford girls” from afar. Both you and Debbie served as empowered women role models at a time when I needed that. We met when you assisted David Simon, dear soul, and Deepak as I learned how to be a mind/body educator(I was the pregnant one). Debbie’s death feels like a gaping hole at first, and later like a gossamer bridge just showing us the way, as always.

        Love and light to you, Arielle. And peace blessed peace to sister Debbie.

  19. Judy Newman says:

    What a beautiful soul she is….. always present in our lives —- Forever and Now.
    How gifted to give you the blessing of her humor and love in “those last moments” that are Just Debbie, just a beginning,
    She leaves a trail of good works that effected so many lives
    Yes, Debbie will always be present tense.
    So much love, so much sharing in the prayers she always asked from prayer teams for olhers never for herself. And so she was doubly blessed as you, Arielle, also blessed her life.
    Sending angels.

  20. Laura says:

    I’m very sorry for your loss. I pray for peace and comfort for you and your family.

  21. Sharon Intilli says:

    I am so very sorry for your loss, Arielle. Your words are a wonderful tribute to your relationship with Debbie, as well as to life in general. Wishing you peace.

  22. Mary says:

    Sending sympathy and love to your family and to all those who knew Ms. Ford in life, and to all the lives she touched in any way. This email came in just as I was writing an article about death. S y n c h r o n i c i t y is truly unstoppable, just as is the soul.

  23. marjorie says:

    Debbie was a gift and blessing to all–even to those that did not know her personally, but we touched and affected by her writing and her work. She will be missed. Sending prayers of Light-ness and Love to you and your family.

  24. Arielle ~ I am so saddened by the news of Debbie Fords passing. My heart and love goes out to you and your family. I knew Debbie had been very ill, though I thought she had been on the path back to wellness. My heart hurts for the loss of Debbie, this wonderful, inspiring, wise woman. While I did not know her personally, I have been reading her books, listened to her conference calls and online workshops, and attended some of her speaking engagements, for the past 10 years. Her work has taught me so much and added to my quality of life.

    She was a force to be reckoned with, a mentor, a guide, a pure soul with an amazing heart and strong passion for helping others. Debbie will be missed deeply. We are so fortunate that we are left with her work and her wisdom, if she can no longer be with us.

    My deepest sympathy and love,
    Monique Bichard

  25. kcbobbie says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this story. Powerful testimony to the love you shared and indeed how to seek pleasure. I read this right before working with a client who was struggling with seeing more shadow than light in her life, so this inspired me with additional words to give to her. Thank you and your sister for being an inspiration of what pleasure really means.

  26. Galit says:

    I was so moved by your words, Arielle, by the bigness of your heart, your generous endless love for Debbie and for Life.
    And I FELT Debbie – I felt the tears of sadness over loosing her being such a precious gift to this world, mixed with the deeper understanding you and her were trying to let us, in human form, see.
    I’m not sure I can see yet, but I’m getting glimpses of it in between the wet screen of tears.
    Sending you and your family warmth, strength and all the giving you are offering so many.
    With deep gratitude and appreciation,
    Galit
    (Sydney, originally from Tel-Aviv).

  27. Patti Peregrine says:

    My heart goes out to you and your family with this great loss. I have been aware of Debbie and her tremendous work for nearly 20 years. Her books, programs and website have been inspiring and so very helpful. She touched so many lives and through her work she will continue to make the world a lighter more wondrous place. My thoughts and prayers go with you.
    Patti Peregrine

  28. A brilliant life so brilliantly lived. Well done Debbie! The angels are certainly rejoicing, the heavens erupting in sublime jubilee to have you home. How well you’ve illustrated with your life that the human journey is a continuous act of transfiguration. Although we will miss you, we celebrate the eternity of your most beautiful, radiant soul. Thank you for embodying graciousness and for continuously bridging the gap that separates the visible from the invisible, time from eternity and the human from the divine. You live on in our hearts forever.

  29. Lyndra Hearn Antonson says:

    Thank you for modeling how even the loss of one’s precious sister can contain moments of profound blessings and joy! Thinking of you and your family as you get used to life without Debbie’s physical presence!

  30. Carlene Brown, MA. Ed. says:

    Such a beautifully written tribute to such a beautiful sister! I wept throughout it. I see a book forthcoming with the title, “The Wabi Sabi of Dying”!

  31. Levera says:

    My prayers are with and your family. You and Debbie were blessed to have each other. May God continue to bless you with peace, love and happiness.

  32. Georgina says:

    Hi Ariel
    Thank you so much for sharing your experience. The death of a loved one is never easy but how amazing was your beautiful sister .. You have been a great inspiration to me , reading Debbie’s experience of the other side reminded me of my visit to the other side.
    Take comfort in knowing her spirit will never die and this may sound weird but how lucky you are to be given a warning that Debbie’s time here was coming to an end and you could love her , share good times , hug, say those words ” I love you” so many of our loved ones are snatch from us with out warning .. Feeling us with regrets and “if only ” that’s why I never let a day go but with out telling the people I love how I feel ..
    My heartfelt condolences
    Georgy xx

  33. Denice Sealy says:

    Sending you and your family my deepest condolences and prayers. Debbie’s spirit will remain an inspiring, loving, and transformational force in our lives. Thank you for being a truly inspiring force yourself, Arielle, during this time of great loss, and sharing your love of life and commitment to joy and love for your sister. God Bless.

  34. I’m so sorry to hear about your sister’s passing. I met her at the beginning of her career at the Chopra Center in San Diego. I regret that I never got to get to know her better, especially after reading her book, Spiritual Divorce, and seeing how much we had in common. My thoughts and prayers go out to your and your family.

  35. Alexandra says:

    I am in tears, my heart goes out to you Arielle and everyone who knew Debbie. She was extraordinary.

    “When I can love all of me, then I am able to love all of you.” – Debbie

  36. Sherri says:

    Arielle,
    May you be comforted among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.
    May you always access the beautiful love you and your sister shared – it is eternal.
    xo,
    Sherri

  37. Samantha says:

    Many Blessings to you and your family during this time of transition Arielle, you are an amazing family and an inspiration to all of us in so many ways, for this we are grateful. Wishing you much love and peace always.

  38. Dale Bach says:

    I am so sorry for your loss Arielle. I always felt the love that you had for each other. That special bond that only sisters have. Seeing you and Debbie at Cynthia Kersey’s events together was always a special hi-light for me. I enjoyed her spark, spunk, and humor. She has left us with amazing work with her courage, love, and depth.
    Peace & Blessings..Dale

  39. Susan says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family on this sad day. Debbie will be greatly missed by all who learned from her words and teachings. The story you shared is incredibly touching and heartfelt, how blessed you both were to have each other. Sending healing prayers to all x

  40. Kari says:

    Your sister’s book “Spiritual Divorce” was an absolute lifesaver for me as I went through my own divorce. I would have never conceived that it could be a blessing in disguise if not for her sharing of her own experience and perspective. I started to follow her, and then discovered you and your Soulmate Summit when I was open once again to receiving love. The two of you have been such a blessing in my life in all matters heart-related, as well as an inspiration to live life to its fullest, richest depths. Much love to you and your sweet sister as she continues on her soul’s journey!

  41. Tia says:

    Ms. Arielle I would like to send my condolences to you and your family. Debbie was called home and she is with friends and family that were called home as well. She will join with them and become angel and will always watch over you:)

  42. Allison Stillman says:

    Blessings you and your family during this time of loss, may love and light surround you all!!! Thank you for sharing such beauty in your writing~!

  43. Mo Bailey says:

    What an inspiration you and Debbie are and always will live on to be in books and teachings. My condolences to you and your family, as well as my admiration for the bravery of Debbie and the love in your heart and soul for spotlighting her journey, as well as yours. Much admiration for your attitude among your loss.

  44. Hi Arielle,
    My heartfelt condolences regarding your loss, I can relate to the passing of a great sis!!
    Being with my sis through the highs & lows of this process that covered years. Sitting in her hospital room reminded to be grateful for the present time we had.
    You like me, had a sister that contributed to this world in such a positive way. Debra also left so many wonderful ways to remember her yet to also see her all around.
    You are such a great sister to help Debra get her message out to all of us. As a therapist/coach I know this is the hardest part to get your message out, you helped her in such a powerful way, in turn helping so many.
    I had brief meetings with your sis through our work, yet her message & personality made a strong positive impression.
    Much love & a big hug to you Arielle, know she is always with you. Jeannine

  45. Elba Rego says:

    Dear Arielle,
    I am so sorry for the Debbie’s transition. Thanks for sharing with us your very touching words in this tough moment.
    Blessings.

  46. Patty Soffer says:

    Courage runs through the Ford girls like blood through veins. It’s genetic, along with love, prayer, gratitude and service.

    I celebrate Debbie’s transition into the joy of the spirit world, and send Arielle and Brian love and support in this earthbound world. Letting go with the grace you are showing is almost super-human.

    You are all extraordinary people and I am grateful for knowing you.

    • Carlene Brown, MA. Ed. says:

      “Courage runs through the Ford girls like blood through veins. It’s genetic, along with love, prayer, gratituide and service.” I agree with Patty Soffer 100% on this assessment. You have both blessed my life immensely with your writings and public appearances. I look forward to a magnificent book from Arielle, sharing the story of Debbie’s transition. Of course, I will look for the title, THE WABI SABI OF DYING!

  47. Nancy Vittum says:

    Dear Arielle: Having gone through these experiences with both of my parents, I recognize the love and beauty that you and Debbie must’ve shared. It is an incomparable gift. The other great gift they gave me is that they have not left my life. Their Spirits are in constant communication with me. My mother came to me in a dream and said, “Don’t remember me as that old, sick lady. Look at me (she appeared to be about 35 and was beautiful). She gave me a bouquet of flowers and thanked me for taking such good care of her.
    Debbie brought so much love and light while in her earthly form and I know this will continue at an even purer level now. I love you both, Nancy

  48. Betsy says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Debbie was my first teacher on my journey to awareness and she has continued to inpsire me since her first visit to the Oprah show. Her light on earth was extinguised to quickly, but the light of her soul and her teachings will continue. I’m sending all my love to you and her family and close friends.

  49. Your news has reached me here in New Zealand & has touched me the way Debbie did when I saw her on stage in 2009 on Bob Proctors cruise. She had a lovely energy & she will be missed, not the least by you. My thoughts are with you at this time!

  50. Dani says:

    I was shocked to read that Debbie has passed and know she touched many lives, including my own, on her way home. Her words live on with us in joyful knowing.

  51. Belina Villanueva says:

    That was most beautiful story, Arielle on the love of your sister. I have enoyed all your books and am most enthralled with “The Soulmate Secret.”

  52. Shashi says:

    Condolences and blessings to you and your family, Arielle. I’ve learned many important lessons from both your and your sister’s books. I am so sorry to hear of her illness and passing and so happy that her time, in her body, has touched so many people in so many profound and beautiful ways. Blessed Be.

  53. Denise Olsen says:

    Dearest Arielle
    Debbie was My FIRST foray into my spiritual life way back when Chopra Center was in LaJolla
    I was petrified to do her Shadow work but with her encouragement I continued and completed it leaving a different person and the start of my Spiritual path.
    Eventually my daughter did it also
    Thank you also for the great work you are doing

    Denise

  54. Chris says:

    I am sending lots of love and Light, Arielle…..although Debbie is in the arms of the angels now, there is pain mixed with that graceful relief. I send heartfelt hugs and love….

  55. Holly Myers says:

    Thank you Arielle, for sharing the joy, love and laughter – and the deep sadness – of saying goodbye to the earthly form of your dear sister, Debbie Ford. I’ve been deeply touched by both of you and your powerful, inspired writings. Forever grateful, Holly Myers.

  56. Bridget Harrington says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. I know that there is an entrance point and an exit point for all of us here on earth, but when we love someone whose time it is to “exit”, we are left with the pain. I am happy to have known both you and Debbie through your various works and feel blessed by that.
    It helped me to find a special belonging of my loved one and keep it in a special place so I could connect with this person when I wanted. You will feel her presence and her love which helps your healing.

    Take good care of yourself and your relationships too. Bridget

  57. Jane says:

    Thank you for sharing this Arielle. Much love to you, Beau and all of Debbie’s family and friends. She has given us all so much and her work will continue to change lives for many generations to come.

  58. martha says:

    Dear Arielle, Thank you so much for your gracious words of your sisters passing. I have always believed the dying are our teachers. God has blessed you both. Please continue to share the journey, it is far from over for you both. I hope you can feel the many arms reaching out to you in your time of grief. Big hug and hearts to you and your family.

  59. Lynn says:

    You said so eloquently what I have felt for so long. I have dealt with so much loss in the last several years. I lost both my parents in 2005 only six weeks apart and then everry time I turned around there was another death in my life. Even among all that grief and pain there was so much joy and laughter. My sisters and I became so much closer. We were going through this horrible time together. I would not change a thing about how I lived through one of the worst times of life, the loss of my parents. Death can be bitter sweet.

  60. Nancy says:

    Dear Arielle,

    It is my sincerest wish that the love and peace that you have brought to the hearts of many, will be returned to you over the coming days. I know that you and Debbie were not only kindred spirits as Sisters but also through your shared mission in life. Her voice will continue to be heard through your loving words and wisdom.

    God Bless,
    Nancy

  61. Max Simon says:

    I love you guys… and I continue to celebrate the fact that Debbie and my dad are now together again. They are laughing up a storm… now free to celebrate with no restrictions. All my love… Max

  62. Barbara Foster says:

    Thank you so much for helping us understand what had happened. Peace be with all of you, we know she is already there. Love Light and Peace Barbara

  63. Cindie Davis says:

    Lets all rejoice in her life, her accomplishments, the love she gave so freely. Lets all go outside tonight and marvel in the wonderment of the bright new beautiful star in the heavens.

  64. Lara says:

    I didn’t know Debbie’s work very well but heard of her though your work Arielle. I have lost my mum to a brain tumour and was also by her side as she passed away. I am so sorry to hear that this has happened. We also tried to keep positive. Every day is a blessing and I wish you all the best in dealing with this grief. RIP Debbie. I am sure she was just as amazing as you and this has really choked me up. Lots of love at this time. xxxx

  65. helene says:

    Dear Arielle,
    I was deeply touched by your article on your sister Debbie. I love her voice (the meditation on the soulmate secret) and will keep her in my prayers. At least you are surrounded by people who love you so you are blessed.
    I have tears in my eyes as I write to you because I am alone in this world and looking for my soulmate. God is the only one who is with me at all times and I am grateful for that.
    Love and Light,
    Helene

  66. Marion says:

    Arielle,
    Deepest heartfelt sympathies to you and your family. Thank you for showing us a way to celebrate with positivity a most difficult occasion in life …. the loss of a loved one.
    Namaste,
    Marion

  67. Louise says:

    Dear Arielle

    I am so very sorry to hear of the death of your sister Debbie and so touched and uplifted by your courage in finding the beauty in this difficult time. You are both such wonderful and inspirational women and while I never met you or Debbie, I, along with so many others, owe you both so much.

    Wishing you peace, comfort and serenity and very happy memories of your beautiful sister.

    Louise

  68. Gina Toal says:

    Arielle……I am so sorry for your loss. Debbie did such a good job in reaching out and influencing the community of people she loved so much. I remember taking the 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse on line with her and I will never forget how happy her voice was to hear all those involved with the course….she would put everyone on speaker and ask all to say hello! She influenced me a lot and even though I never had the opportunity to meet her, I feel a loss as well. I admired her strength and resilience. My prayers are with you and your family.

  69. Anne Jackson says:

    Beautiful piece. I came to know Debbie through her FB postings and comments in return. I feel that I knew her soul, although I never studied with her in person, and I am grateful to you for sharing this little bit of story regarding the last few weeks of her life…. My grief is profound, and so I can imagine how you must be grieving also – my condolences to your family. Debbie was a beautiful person and will be sorely missed.

  70. Pam says:

    There by the Grace of God go we. I have been in your shoes Arielle and will be forever changed by the profound experience being a part of my husband and fathers journey through cancer and death. You and Debbie are such shining examples of Grace. The world lost a bright light with her passing, and the heavens now have a new shining star to share with us all.
    May you be comforted with peace, with grace, with strength.
    Rest in peace Debbie.

  71. Lucia says:

    I am not doing a good job of finding pleasure right now – Debbie was the only spiritual author I read that helped me make the most profound changes in my life when I read The Dark Side of the Light Chasers and I feel like one of the brightest lights of our planet just went somewhere else. I am hoping you are in the happiest place ever, Debbie, as you so deserve! Arielle, I am sending lots of love to you and your family to keep the joy of Debbie alive in your hearts!

  72. Theresa Skelly says:

    Dear Arielle,

    My sincerest love to you and your family. Someone else mentioned “radiant soul” and I so agree. Whenever I thought of Debbie, radiance came to mind. What a beautiful, bright, shining star she has always been and continues to be! For so many, she was a beacon, a North Star, pointing the way home, the way to a better life, a life filled with love, respect and acceptance. She was incredibly lucky to have you as a soul-sister and friend. You are a beautiful soul yourself and I am incredibly thankful for the stories you have shared, your teachings and genuine helpfulness and the light and love you bring to every situation and each encounter. May you find peace and comfort in the coming days and may love give you strength.

    With Much Love and Blessings,
    Theresa

  73. Lorri Coburn says:

    Arielle, Thank you for sharing so openly and giving permission to feel joy in the midst of sorrow. May your heart continue to expand in ways you never dreamed possible. I hope to hear more from you about Debbie, perhaps stories from the other side. My deepest sympathy for your loss. Debbie’s presence has been, and will continue to be, powerful.

  74. Angela Wong says:

    Thank you very much for you gifts, Debbie!

    Thank you very much for modeling Wabi Sabi love in life, Arielle!

    My deepest sympathy, love, gratitute and appreciation,
    Angela

  75. Lynne says:

    My heart is with you during this most difficult time. Thank you for your beautiful sisterly bond. It is truly an inspiration for my sister and me. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Lynne

  76. Thank you, Arielle, for sharing your story. Much Love, Light and comfort to you. I pray that Debbie has a wonderful journey on her new path. She will always be with you.

  77. Angela Langner says:

    Dear Arielle,
    I have tried several times today and have been unable to post a comment on the Remembering Debbie page so thank you for this opportunity.

    My heart aches while my spirit soars imagining the exquisiteness of joy and love that Debbie is experiencing, a just reward for a life so very well lived. Debbie was my mentor, I spent two years with her in the Integrative Coaching program, I told her then that she had saved my life, I wish I could have saved hers, but that would have been selfish for she now gets to experience the life of her dreams.

    Peace, Love and many blessings to you and your family.

  78. Carol says:

    To me, Debbie was-is truly a shining light of love, generosity, wisdom and a living example of Service for the highest good of All…She has “walked into another world”, this is All…..

  79. Mari says:

    My deepest condolence to you and your family. There is another angel in Heaven.
    There are so many who were/are inspired by her legacy. She touched so many lives….
    As have you, Arielle.
    Keeping you and yours in my prayers and meditations. May you feel all the love being sent to envelope you.

  80. Terrie says:

    Debbie clearly deserves her wings! She was and is still (through her work) an inspiration to all of us. A friend and I attended one of her workshops and have fond memories of screaming until we were hoarse; taking the salt shakers off the tables so we could have ‘detoxifying’ salt baths – necessary for all the energy we were moving; and rocking out to her most awesome music. Her most important words of wisdom, which I still use and live by to this day: “You can’t put ice cream on poop.” Debbie, thank you for sharing your life with us, for showing us our shadows and for encouraging us all to live authentically. Your spirit lives on in our hearts forever.

  81. Remembering your passion and reaching out to meet your courage + radiance as you go into the light Debbie — for all that you have done in uniting inner consiousness and divine wholeness amongst people, your enlivened life was an example to many. Return to love here and now …your message shines onward.

  82. Birgit says:

    A woman to be thoroughly missed! So powerful, so enriching, so wise beyond everything imaginable- so honest, so beautiful! You touched my soul and always inspired me to be a warrior!
    In deep thankfulness and loving memory,

    Birgit Schwarz
    Mexico City

  83. Julie Holley says:

    Dear Arielle,

    I send you much love and deep gratitude for the work your beautiful sister Debbie gifted all of us with!
    My older brother Jeff and I spent an important weekend with Debbie a few years ago at her Shadow Process workshop at Shelter Island. We were able to heal a lot of childhood occurrences around our rageful alcoholic stepfather that had impacted our lives for decades.
    We’ve both enjoyed additional work as well including her advance courses and coach training, all of great value.
    She had great courage in so many ways, especially her courage to be transparent and use the difficulties of her own life for the good of all of humanity.
    Her spirit lives on with great joy and definition of a life well lived. She resides inside your heart as you recount many important moments of your lives.
    I send you and your family much love and comfort as you heal the broken heartedness of loss. May the joys of beautiful memories hold you ever so close to your own sacred journey of life.
    Love & Healing Blessings! Julie Holley

  84. Arielle…sending you, Brian and your family much love. I can’t imagine my sister leaving this earth as the sister bond is so extraordinary. And yet I know that your bond will always bring you joy.

    Debbie was one of my first spiritual mentors and her work profoundly liberated me from the pain of my past. I’ll always be grateful for her wisdom, her light and her deep connection to truth.

    Much love, Melanie

  85. Barb says:

    I am so sad to read of Debbie’s passing!
    What a gift she brought to the world!
    I have followed her for years, always inspiring, her amazing personaliry and smile!
    My deepest sympathies to you and your family and to Beau!
    She is living in the light, with God and at peace!

  86. Dyann Driggers says:

    I read “The Dark Side of the Light Chasers” about 8 years ago. I had just lost a child, lost my fiance, lost my house, lost my job and I was dying of grief. I was hospitalized 10 times that year, admitted to rehab for eating disorders, and had become an alcoholic. Debby’s book was a catalyst for self-realization for me. I attended the Landmark Forum when I learned she had done it. I started attending a metaphysical church that encouraged a concious contact with a power greater than myself. I acknowledged my dark side as part of me, no more or less. I cannot say life instantly got easier. It was a journey started when I found a woman who was willing to accept herself as she was. It started my journey from self loathing to self love. I am eternally grateful to Debby, and I know she has now embarked on a new adventure, at another level, and the pain of this life is gone. Bless you, Arielle, and Bless Debby, wherever she may be! Love, Dyann

  87. Marisol says:

    This was beautiful. I’m very sorry for your loss, I did not know she had passed away. You are so brave, and so blessed to have been able to share so many beautiful moments with your sister. I know how it is to lose a friend to cancer, could not imagine a sister. I was heartbroken for so many years and still today wish so much I could hear my friend laugh.

    I’m not sure if you are religious, but would like to share with you this beautiful paragraph I just read on the book ” A purpose driven life” by Rick Warren: “What is going to be like in eternity with God? Frankly, the capacity of our brains cannot handle the wonder and greatness of heaven. It would be like trying to describe the Internet to an aunt.”

    I can see your sister was a wonderful amazing people, she must be so so so happy now. She is living a even more brilliant life.

    Thank you for sharing, God bless you. Thank you for touching the lives of so many people.

  88. Karen says:

    I am very sorry to hear about your sister, Debbie.
    Although I have never met either of you,
    I have enjoyed reading both of your works
    and learning about your wonderful
    connection!

    I pray for her soul to be at peace and for this
    transition to be as easy as possible for those
    loved ones here.

    With love and concern,

    Karen

  89. Heather says:

    Arielle I am so very sorry for your loss. While I don’t know either of you personally I have been listening to you lately via an interview with Christy Whitman and thru your Art of Love Series. I am saddened to hear of the news and never like to hear of another’s suffering and send much love and light to you. I just finished reading The Right Questions not too long ago and it made a huge impact on me as I am journeying on this amazing path. Know that many peaceful and heartfelt thoughts are being sent out there for you and your family.
    With love, Heather

  90. Arielle,

    I am heartbroken over Debbie’s passing. I had the honor of attending her workshops at Omega, and grew to unimaginable heights through her trainings. I have watched the two of you together through pictures, videos, or listening to your stories through the Soulmates workshop at Omega. I identifed so strongly having a sister of my own. I could go on about the gift Debbie was on a global level. She was so blessed to have fullfilled her life’s purpose. She was a beautiful soul. Tonite I will think of you. May the memories you hold so dear sustain you.Sending you love, light , and the biggest hug.

  91. Debbie will continue to transform the lives of many as her work lives on. Arielle you so beautifully remind us of being present and in the oh so wonderful moment that is now. Thank you this beautiful testimony to the loving heart of your sister.

  92. Arielle,
    Arielle,
    I am heartbroken over Debbie’s passing. I had the honor of attending her workshops at Omega, and grew to unimaginable heights through her trainings. I have watched the two of you together through pictures, videos, or listening to your stories through the Soulmates workshop at Omega. I identifed so strongly having a sister of my own. I could go on about the gift Debbie was on a global level. She was so blessed to have fullfilled her life’s purpose. She was a beautiful soul. Tonite I will think of you. May the memories you hold so dear sustain you.Sending you love, light , and the biggest hug.

  93. Nancy Shields says:

    I had no idea that Debbie had cancer – I remember listening to her a few years ago during your Soulmate Secret Series and thought – WOW I really like this woman! I am so sorry to hear of your loss Arielle.

    Thank you for sharing a bit of her last days with us,

    In love and light,
    Nancy

  94. Jason says:

    Debbie, whenever I needed comfort or felt lost I would tune into your radio show and listen to your healing words. It didn’t matter what the topic was, by the time the show was over I always felt confident and on the path again. You always managed to lift me up during days when I wasn’t feeling my best. Your newsletter was equally a source of inspiration for me. I always looked forward to receiving them because they always provided me with gifts of love. I have many of them saved on my computer and will continue to go back to them whenever I need healing and guidance. I am saddened to hear that you have passed, but I will do my best to focus on the positive. You were a great blessing to many people including myself. You made the world so much better with your presence. I know you are not gone. There is no such thing as pain for you anymore; it is pure bliss from here on out. Lucky you! Thank you for everything you have given me and will continue to give me. I love you.

  95. Nancy Shields says:

    I had no idea that Debbie had cancer – I remember listening to her a few years ago during your Soulmate Secret Series and thought – WOW I really like this woman! I am so sorry to hear of your loss Arielle. My condolenses to you and your family.

    Thank you for sharing a bit of her last days with us,

    In love and light,
    Nancy

  96. Beatrice says:

    Blessings to both of you. I know that your sister continues to live through so many other lives and hearts. Yet, knowing that, with all the joy that she has experienced and allowed for others does not suppress the pain and the difficulties of any transition… Much Love Light to you for those more difficult moments…

  97. Diane Clermont says:

    Arielle ~ Sending you much love and compassion to you and your family. Debbie was a very loving and gifted lady, who gave all of herself in the most authentic ways. Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful story about your sister, in such an intimate way. She will be greatly missed, but left an eternal love-filled indelible mark in this world – not soon forgotten.

    Sending you many Blessings and Angel Wings of Love ~

    Diane

  98. Rene C. says:

    Beautifully written. I am sad to hear of Debbie’s transition. I’ve seen her speak and her story was very inspirational and transformative. She is truly an angel. I wish peace and love for you and your family.

  99. Jackie Kalmring says:

    Dear Arielle, Brian and Beau
    I am very sad to hear of Debbie’s passing. The world has lost a great teacher and author. I am grateful for her many books and her courses. My life is much better for having met her many years ago and listening to her speak.
    My thoughts are with you at this time, Jackie

  100. Mike Robbins says:

    Thanks for sharing this Arielle. There is often so much magic and even pleasure in the death experience by all of us who are honored to be so close to it like you were with Debbie. My heart aches for your pain and your loss…and my heart is warmed knowing that you both got to share the intimate experience of her death together. Blessings!

  101. Mary says:

    Dear Arielle,
    Thank you for sharing this journey of finding meaning and happiness through this bittersweet time. I and so many others have been touched by Debbie’s work, by her Light, by her willingness to share her journey that others may find peace within themselves. It seems ironic, at the surface level, that a woman of Debbie’s consciousness would develop cancer and pass so young. Yet we know that our Souls have chosen for us missions, and in Debbie’s illness and transition as well as in her other spiritual work there are many who will find healing. And you are so instrumental in helping Debbie to reach others with these lessons. From her current plane of existence, she is so potent in her capacity to be of even greater service. She has laid the groundwork here onEarth, and now she has the attuned attention of so many Lightworkers around the world. She has entered a new frequency to orchestrate those energies and support even greater transformations at a time when we are striving to shift the balance of energies upon the planet to Love. I know that she will quickly make her ongoing presence known to you, and share with you the joy of her new state of Being. She will hold your heart and fill in the cracks with golden Light, giving you strength and rallying you forward. And we who are so grateful to you both for all that you have shared with us hold you and your family in our hearts as well, even as we raise our hearts in joy for Debbie.
    With Much Love,
    Mary Law

  102. Deb Moran says:

    So sorry for your loss, I love Emmett Fox writing about life after death which is very comforting. ” Where their is a great love their is sure to be a meeting”
    Debbie was so lucky to have a big sister like you! Thank you for your beautiful post.

  103. Catherine says:

    Debbie Ford had a profound influence on me when was deciding to start 8 Women Dream. My mother was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease and the doctors gave her 6 months. I changed my work schedule to work from her home so that I could walk this journey by her side. I am so very sorry that you lost your sister. She helped so many. May you find peace in the fact that she lived an amazing life and obviously loved you very much. Bless your heart.

    Catherine

  104. I am so sorry with your loss, yesterday I was listen both of you with your Art of Love relationship series. I read two of her books so far that saved me from my last divorce…All my condoleances to you Arielle and family…

  105. Wendy B. says:

    I was with my Mom (Mug) the last 3 days of her life here. She died in my arms. It was an unspeakably painful gift. It was an honor to be her daughter and whisper in her ear when she died. I am so happy that you got to be with your beautiful Sister and she with you. My best thoughts are with you and your family. All my love, Wendy Branchfield.

  106. Cynthia says:

    My sincere condolences. Debbie was a light. She may be gone but not forgotten.
    How lucky to have had such a wonderful sister. :)

  107. Rosemary Wright says:

    Beau – Arielle and Family – may you feel at peace – and Debbie – rest well.

  108. Karla Kay says:

    Dear Arielle,
    My heart goes out to you and your family at this time of loss.
    Debbie has been an inspiration for many of us and her legacy will live on in our hearts.
    As a Grief Advisor and Coach I know there can be those beautiful moments of grace that we all need to hold on to, especially when we feel as though the waves of sorrow are crashing down upon us.

    I would encourage you to allow yourself over the next several days, weeks, months and years to know that it is OK to allow yourself to have those sad days; to have compassion for yourself and know that you are not alone. I remember times when I was on my knees in pain, sorrow and tears after my husband and daughter died, and somehow, someway, God’s grace guided me through. I wouldn’t say I found pleasure in all of those dark moments and I do know that there are those moments of pleasure when we know our loved ones are free from pain and in heavenly peace; however it has made me truly grateful for how precious life is, and knowing how to be present with every step.
    My heart to yours,
    Karla Kay

  109. I had the HONOR of sharing the stage with Debbie when Dr. Phil did his appearance in Toronto. Her presence on stage was Gentle – yet Strong. Visionary and articulate. Get ‘er done yet – allow for mistakes.
    Hr presence back stage was a blessing! She was hilarious. As we all kibitzed about what a wonderful day it was and how much fun we were all having back stage.
    Making her laugh brought a smile to my heart. Seeing her smile permanently etched the smile into my soul.
    Beautiful person…inside and out. Her physical presence will be missed. Her legacy will be felt FOREVER!
    CYBER HUGZ Debbie

  110. Annette says:

    I am so sorry to hear of Debbie’s passing. I thank you for sharing your pain and your joy with us, and the lessons you learned, that others may also learn from this. Every death teaches me anew just how precious life is, to embrace life with both arms, to choose love. I hope you can feel the love and community and support going out to you and yours. Thank you for all the contributions both you and Debbie do to make this world a more loving place. Sending you love, laughter and warm hugs.

  111. Annette says:

    I am so sorry to hear of Debbie’s passing. I thank you for sharing your pain and your joy with us, and the lessons you learned, that others may also learn from this. Every death teaches me anew just how precious life is, to embrace life with both arms, to choose love. I hope you can feel the love and community and support going out to you and yours. Thank you for all the contributions both you and Debbie do to make this world a more loving place. Sending you love, laughter and warm hugs.

  112. Vivian Wang says:

    Dear Arielle,

    Thank you for sharing such a beautiful message about Debbie and her life. It touches my heart. Debbie has been an inspiration and light in my life when I needed the most back in 2007. Her love and shadow work has transformed my life beyond my imagination. Because of her, I get to share her love and wisdom to people here in Taiwan and Greater China area. I am forever grateful to her. Her spirit will carry on on this earth and thank you for being a great sister. Love to Debbie and her loved ones, Vivian

  113. Barbara says:

    Sending my condolences to you and your family Arielle. We must need a lot of angles on earth because so many good people have left recently and Debbie was one of them…

  114. Holly Royce says:

    Debbie definitely left her footprint across my heart. I did the Shadow Process in Miami one year and had the joy of meeting Debbie many times.
    Her voice was mesmerizing, calming and of course her words life changing.
    I know she will be missed here on earth but a lot of beings in the beyond have just become very very lucky.
    Debbie, your light will follow you wherever you go. Rest in peace.

  115. Noreen Kelty says:

    Heart to heart hug to you Arielle at this sacred time. I am so grateful I had the opportunity to attend your workshop at Omega in Aug and participate and share the special Sacred Fire Ceremony you and Debbie shared with us Saturday night. Blessings to you and your family

  116. Maria says:

    I am listening to your art of love series and 2 days ago I had the fortune to listen to Debbie Ford …I was blown away by her wisdom and knowledge . I consider those few moments a true gift ….I can only imagine how fortunate her loved ones must feel to share their lives with such an amazing women . RIP

  117. Jana Connell says:

    OH Arielle!! I am so sorry to hear this news. I lost my sister in April of 2012 and worse, we hadn’t spoken to each other in 8 years.

    MY heart goes out to you and your family in this very trying time of grief. I know that your journey through the grieving period might be shorter since you were at her side and were able to hold the experience, as well as her, in your arms and heart.
    This helps lessen our grieving time it seems. It’s a closure.
    Debbie was such an amazing person. I have her book Courage and I love how she wrote it. I will be getting more of her books as I am able to afford them.

    I hope that you find some small comfort in knowing that we all love you and Debbie and are holding you both close in our collective wabi-sabi arms as well..
    Namaste Arielle.
    Farewell Debbie!!
    <3

  118. I am vey sorry for your loss, Arielle. Debbie has left a wonderful legacy and will be remembered by many for her wonderful contribution. I LOVED Dark Side of the Light Chasers, still have it and occasionally refer back to it. She will be sadly missed.

  119. Arielle,
    I am so sad to hear the news of the loss of your darling brilliant sister.
    Although I did not know her, I have read several of her books.
    What a light she brought to the world. She inspired so many of us.
    This post is so exquisitely beautiful
    and heart wrenching.
    I wish you much healing and send my deepest condolences to you and
    your family.
    with much love,
    Pamela Morgan

  120. Marie says:

    Thank you for sharing with us Arielle. May your sister rest in peace and may you continue to find peace and acceptance in the knowing that she is for ever with you watching from above and smiling.

  121. Heike Lorenz says:

    Thank you for sharing with us your moments of deepest joy as well as deepest grief, Arielle. Our hearts are forming a circle around you and your loved ones in which you are held and comforted, while your sister has taken off on her oh-so-Debbie wings. Much love to you, Heike

  122. Ashis B. says:

    Arielle, I’m very sad to know about the loss of your sister. May her soul rest in peace.
    God bless you and your family. Take care.

  123. Thank you so very much for your generosity and tender words about Debbie’s passing.
    She used her time here so well as do you.

    When I discovered this week that you are sisters, it was the most natural connection
    that could have been! You both radiate wisdom and love, guidance and compassion.
    Many of us are filled with gratitude for the deep changes in our own lives through her
    and your deeply spiritual (yet earthly!) inspiration.

    I speak of your dear sister in the present tense; she is no longer here, but she is now there. (I have some direct experience with this myself.) Please let your faith comfort
    & give you solace ~ she went at such a time of vibrancy that it’s painful to witness.

    Thank you again for your testament to sisterly love & dedication to the rest of us!

    Solange Milan

  124. For so many that have been touched and lifted by her books yet never met, heard or saw your sister it’s so much easier to know that see is still as present as ever and that her gifts transcended her physical presence. For you, who loved and knew her, the canyon of grief may hide her continued presence. Her published works will continue to echo through time..instead of communicating with the twinkle of an eye, it will be the glistening of a leaf and instead of the touch of a hand, it may be the purr of a kitten. Her laughter may be heard in the sound of life and the joy of her family and friends. May your loss be softened by your love and may you be carried by the joy of new discovery of her so many new ways. Blessings to you and your family.
    (I’ve been listening to your series, no relation to your guest of the same name. Oddly he and I have several friends in common)

  125. Gita says:

    Rest in peace Dear Debbie . May your family find strength to cope with their loss.

  126. Brenda says:

    Dear Arielle,
    Debbie has been one of the most inspiring authors in my life since I first read her “Dark Side of the Light Chasers” many years ago. Her work in the Shadow Effect helped me through a very difficult time. Her light shone so brightly in this world.

    Thank you for sharing your insights on finding pleasure in the pain. It takes courage to follow that route. But it makes life more bearable somehow.

    We can only trust that Debbie has found her wings of pure pleasure now.

    Take care of your grieving heart. may you continue to find the gifts in her loss… although that always sounds so cliched and impossible. But they are there. Sending love to you and your family.

  127. Karen Shaw says:

    Arielle,

    Thank you so much for writing so beautifully and generously about your amazing sister Debbie.

    I was introduced to her through Dark Side of the Light Chasers and fell in love with her then. I always wanted to meet her and I know I will some way, some day!

    My thoughts are with you and Beau and all the family at a difficult time and one where it is so important to find pleasure in everything Debbie gave to you and the world. She definitely followed her dreams and her heart and fulfilled her wonderful purpose here.

    Thank you Debbie.

    Love to you all.

  128. Manuela Mazza says:

    Dear Arielle,

    I had no idea that Debbie was ill. She continued spreading her love and wisdom until the end!

    My most heartfelt condolences to you and the whole family. I pray that God gices you the strength and serenity to accept this. Debbie will always be apart of you and all of us. I am very grateful for having encountered you both in my life.

    A big hug,

    Manuela

  129. Ingrid says:

    Love to all of you. How inspirational both your journeys are, beautifull Ford Angels Thank you for sharing… My heart is with you.

  130. princy says:

    Thank u so much for ur sharing. Often, i used to listen to Debbi’s self love meditation. Amazing, i am sure, she will be living through her contribution. It reminded my mother who had the same problem. I was with her during her last journey…..

  131. Thinking of you Arielle and your family during this time of transformation. Debbie’s philosophy, shadow talk radio show and books, and her straight-talking attitude made me get real honest with myself … I am grateful she touched my life across the waves in the UK.

  132. angela damelio says:

    Im so sorry for your loss. Debbie Ford was such an inspiration to me. Her books have changed my life and i will always be grateful! She will not Be forgotten may her legacy live on. Thankyou for your emails ariel, I love receiving them. xox

  133. Anette Schou Frandsen says:

    Dear Arielle,
    thank you so much for sharing this – so very eloquently put!

    My heart fels saddened and relieved at the same time. Sad that Debbie is no longer in this physical realm and relief, because she is now free of pain and suffering and free to share even more light and magic.

    Sending my love and comfort to you and your family!

    Much love
    Anette

  134. Carol Ann Stewart says:

    Thank your for sharing snipets of such a poignant time with your beloved sister, Debbie. It is evident that the sisterly bond goes deeper the the oceans of Earth. The respect, admiration, loyality you share remains a huge legacy, as a treasured keepsake.
    I know for certain, from my own personal experience of near death many years ago, that Debbie is still very much alive throughout this Universe. You will feel her loving presence whenever your hearts desires — all you have to do is ask. Our Devine Creator rejoices in our yearnings for connection between Earth and Heavenly Home. Debbie will continiously link you with these two realms — for her heart remains bigger than our conprehension.
    Sending many warm hugs, pure love and appreciation for all that you do.

  135. Mona says:

    I will cherish Debbie’s voice and wisdom that, thanks to the digital age, will stay with us all for a very long time. I loved her voice! And fell asleep to her talking to me in those soothing tones many, many a night when I was struggling with my own grief. She may be gone, but she lives on. Thank you for your beautiful post.

  136. Arielle…
    My heart goes out to you and to the whole family. Debbie’s book Spiritual Divorce was a life line for me many years ago. I am honored by and grateful for Debbie’s (and yours) gift to the world.
    With much love,
    Sandy
    “Death is not the end of the journey…it’s the end of the journey with a body. “

  137. Diana says:

    This article is very beautiful and I have to say that THANK YOU to the Shadow Work that Debbie Ford created I learn to embrace my shadows, and to accept myself as I am. She leaves an incredible legacy to the world of spirituatlity, personal growth and therapy. She will be always in my heart. Fly like a beautiful Butterfly Mrs Debbie Ford.

  138. Linda Feigenbaum says:

    I’m saddened to read this article about you losing your sister. I’m so glad you had a close relationship and were there for each other throughout your lives. May your happy moments bring you comfort as you go on thru life without her.

  139. Alys says:

    Dear Arielle,
    Thank you for reaching out to me and sending me this inspiring way of being.
    To find joy in death takes a positive attitude and spirit. This is the way I want
    To live. You embody the spirit of Deb for me in your reaching out to connect.
    You are very dear to me. I want to express my condolences that you have lost
    The body of your beloved sister but not her spirit. I hope we continue our
    journey together always. Peace be with you.
    Sending you heaps of love, Alys

  140. Rob says:

    Thank you Arielle for sharing this. Thank you Debbie for everything. *Love*

  141. Jacqui says:

    RIP Debbie Ford.You have left behind a legacy of beautiful memories.

  142. Susan Burson says:

    On November 18, 2010, I laid snuggled up to my daughter as she was finally able to find her wings and let go of this life. She would have been 21 on December 14th. From the time she was born her life had been a struggle, but throughout her life I was blessed with the ability to see the footprints in the sand…those paths that said “this is why this is happening,” Dylan was one of those rare souls that was filled with such a bright light. As I stayed with her 24/7 during those last couple of years as her body slowly shut down I marveled at her bravery. While the hum of the machines filled the bedroom there was a peace and quietness that filled the room as well. While I am still saddened by her loss, I am grateful for our time together, for knowing her, being blessed to be her mother, and knowing I was there when she found her strength to fly.

  143. Cathy C says:

    Although I have never met Debbie, I considered Debbie to be a friend. She was more than an inspiration to me. I have and will always cherish her books, movie, and her legacy.

  144. Debbie says:

    Sail on Debbie. Sail on.

  145. Ellen says:

    I’m very sorry for your sister passing yet in gratitude for your courage and wisdom; my deepest condolences to you and family!

  146. maura says:

    Bless you, precious one, for finding the love in each moment, for sharing this, i humbly bow to you for your graciousness , blessings dear one, blessings..

  147. DC says:

    I am deeply saddened to learn of your loss. Debbie is truly an angel and was a blessing to so many here on earth. I wish you and your whole family peace, comfort and strength at this very difficult time.
    Sending love and light.
    DC

  148. meghan says:

    My first thought when I read the news was…”You are truly in the light dear sister….” A blessed life is one in which we pass the baton of wisdom and light forward. Debbie was truly an example of sharing and passing the light. We are all brighter for it. Thank you Debbie for being YOU.

  149. gina dantorio says:

    Debbie was our angel amongst us on this earth, Now she has a new assignment : ANGEL IN HEAVEN.

  150. Chris says:

    I am so shocked and saddened to read that your sister has died.
    Every day I see a beautiful photo of her in my Daily Om course on her Best Year Of Your Life
    practices. I am so sorry for your loss. I have five beloved sisters and can’t begin to imagine going through what you’ve gone through.
    May you be uplifted and surrounded by love,
    Chris

  151. Mari Smith says:

    Debbie was an incredible angel of light. She’s now an angel on the other side and we’ll always feel her beautiful presence. She was a courageous soul, and an amazing leader and spiritual teacher. Her Shadow work touched millions of people around the world. I’ve read so many of her life changing books. I will always have immense gratitude for her teachings and immense respect for her and how she lived her life full out. May her precious Soul rest in peace. My prayers are with her family. ❤

  152. Catherine says:

    You truly have the most amazingly, beautiful soul! Your message completely moved me. I am so sorry for your loss. You and your entire family are in my prayers! Your sister’s great work will carry on forever. Both of you have been such a big part of my life…my transformation.

    Thank YOU for finding the strength to share such a personal message with all of us.

  153. Heidi Acosta says:

    I saw her once speak she was like an angel, so serene. What insight she brought to this world and what love. You are fortunate to have had her. I know she continues to be with you, however may your heart be comforted at this time of sadness. My condolences to yourfamily and to Beau. Thank you for sharing.

  154. Adele says:

    Many people who show us the path to Light seem to be leaving the physical during this time of transition. Debbie continues shining her light albeit from a different realm. I envision her showering you with golden daffodils, a symbol of spring and rebirth after a winter of rest and rejuvenation.

    Much love to both of you.

  155. Rosslyn Picton says:

    Hello Ariel,
    I was so shocked and saddened to receive this email regarding the passing of your dear sister, Debbie. I’d seen Debbie on Oprah and knew of her work with the ‘shadow’ side, having purchased her DVD. I’ve also downloaded several of her meditations and found her voice soothing and comforting. I had no idea Debbie was ill and send my deepest sympathy to you and your family. She is soaring with the Angels now.

    Sincerely,
    Rosslyn Picton

  156. Barb Manley says:

    Dear Arielle,
    I am feeling sadness upon hearing of the loss of your sister, Debby. I knew you both many years ago and still feel the connection to both of you. We were such a small family at the Chopra Center. I did not know of her diagnosis or her passing until today. I am sending Debby and you and family Light and Love and know Debby is soaring high in the Light right now. I know she will be missed on this earth plane by many and especially you.
    I am glad her suffering is over and she can help us all to heal and transform from another place. I will hold you all in my thoughts and prayer.
    Barb Manley

  157. Kathleen Ginn says:

    Arielle … love the way you write positively about transitioning and your sister. It is highly refreshing to read positive and optimistic ‘story’ about life on earth and moving into a higher plane.

    I just want you to know … that I started the Shadow Group in April 2009 after reading The Dark Side of the Light Chasers and seeing Debbie in London, UK. Four years on the group continues to meet and embrace their shadow. We meet to apply the work rather than just talk about it.

    I also signed up for your attract soul mate course … and it was 3 years after that and doing Calling in the One, that I attracted a man who I feel extremely comfortable with. We love talking and sharing … he as the scientist-philosopher and me as the philosopher-healing facilitator.

    Thanks to you both … I have found some really interesting ways of bringing up that which is hidden within my psyche so that I may become more whole. And in that embracing I am able to facilitate and offer the space to others.

    Best wishes and may Debbie find ways to inspire despite being on a different plane

    Kate

  158. Maria says:

    I am so sadden by the loss of your beautiful sister. She was such an inspiration. Her book ‘Courage’ is one of my favorites and most inspirational. I am sad for the loved ones she left behind, but I know she went ‘back home’ where she is happy and where her Light shines even brighter than it did in this physical realm. Like you Arielle, I celebrate your sister’s life not linger in the pain of her death. Debbie, thank you for sharing your heart with the world. Kudos to a job well done here in this mortal place!!

  159. Libby says:

    Debbie’s book Spiritual Divorce was the first book I read as I was going through my divorce. I will be forever grateful for her words and wisdom! This started my journey of healing, acceptance and moving forward! Thank you for your dedication to helping so many lost souls and teaching us how to live for the first time no matter what our age!! Rest in peace Debbie

  160. Christine in Costa Rica says:

    My prayers and love are with you all who have been touched by this great soul. When my world fell apart the first book I read was Debbie’s “The Dark Side of the Light Chasers”. It was a painful, wonderful and finally freeing journey into myself. My life is expanding and exciting now and Debbie will be with me always. I am greatly saddened by her passing.

  161. Melinda Mason says:

    Sorry to hear about the lost of your sister. My prayers go out to you and your family.

  162. Pam Drinnon says:

    Dear Ariel, I to lost my wonderful sister to cancer in 2010, she was everything to me, my best friend, mentor, she was a master teacher in metaphysics and meditation. She like your Deb was greatly loved and missed by many. I feel her loving energy all the time, I know she is working with me from the other side, I miss her and know she is doing her Angelwork on the side of HEAVEN, just as Deb is doing that for all of you now. The best thinG to know is that true LOVE
    NEVER DIES! SHE WILL BE WAITING FOR YOU THE DAY YOU TAKE YOUR LEAVE OF HERE. BLESSINGS Pam/Angelworks

  163. Mariama Williams says:

    Ahh! Arielle,
    Beloved andh powerful teacher, Debbie’s spirit with the Angels…always and forever taking us through into the light.

  164. UrbanAngel says:

    Sending you much love and light as I offer my deepest condolences. Your sister Debbie was such a beautiful light and she touched the lives of so many. I had the pleasure of meeting her a few times as well as hearing her speak and have many of her books. What a sacred honour to have been with her as she moved on from this world into the next. Yet I also understand your sadness and grief for she was so loved and you were not just blood sisters but soul sisters. Where there is great grief there is great love and where there is great love there is great grief. It is said that when someone leaves this world, there is someone here helping them leave while the angels and loved ones greet them with open arms to help them over on to the other side. Again sending you and all your loved ones love and light and healing for you broken hearts. Namaste! <3 O:)

  165. Heather says:

    Dear Arielle,

    I am so very sorry for your loss… I was so deeply touched by her lecture on the Art of Love series and couldn’t believe that she passed away that night…it came as such a shock.

    These are the times I wish I could reach the world with healing powers and transform sickness, casting it back from where it came… I’m sure she had a strong support team and was surrounded by love from yourself, family, friends and so many people who’s lives she has touched… She left us having fulfilled her soul contract here on earth. Her work will continue to bless the lives of so many through her books, her lectures and through you… Her work with the shadow parts of ourselves is truly transformational and such a gift to this world. She has made a huge contribution and will continue to be loved and missed from now onto eternity.

    Both you and your sister have touched my life with your presence and your work… It seemed to me that Debbie was part of a soul-family of spiritual seekers who went through the darkness to find the Light, I recognize this light in her because it is a Light I too carry… She was shining the way for others to follow… She was a Light-house, as you are a Heart-house <3

    Thank you for your commitment and willingness to share your gifts with the world… Thank you for shining your Light and opening your Heart for others to follow…

    Sending you Love and Light to guide you and to help you heal from this loss…

  166. Nancy says:

    Its so tough! I understand having lost my sister and best friend to cancer two years ago. She was a beautiful giver, like your sister. Wishing you continued strength through this time and into the future. I like to think they are in a better more peaceful place than us. I know they are in less pain for sure!

    With love,

    Nancy

  167. Mj says:

    Sweet family. As my son Ryan reminded me last year, thinking of a sister held in your heart for a lifetime, is a joyous respectful memory and celebration. A sister had, rather than a sister lost. Love is forever. Mj

  168. Ann Ritter says:

    Loved listening to Deb on Hayhouse Radio. Was surprised and
    saddened by her passing. Sending lots of loving energy your way.
    Ann R.

  169. Rebecca Kieler says:

    Thank you for your wonderful words about your sister. Having lost 2 brothers I have some idea but each is it’s own story. I loved your perspective and it is again love put out into the world, love for your sister!

  170. Leila says:

    My prayers are with you and your family. I been reading your books and I listen to your tapes every day. They give me hope and lots of love. thank you.

  171. Leila says:

    I cried this afternoon when I read about your sister. You both had shared so much love. I know you will always have beautiful memories of her. God Bless

  172. Mika Holubec says:

    Dear Arielle,
    I am so sad to hear about your sister. I never met her but I always felt I knew her through her work. She was a wonderful human being and a beautiful soul. She helped and inspired so many, including me.
    She’ll be missed but she’ll be always with us.
    Thank you for sharing the story with us
    With lots of love,
    Mika

  173. Arielle says:

    Thank you all for your out pouring of love for Debbie and our family.

  174. Bennie Soto says:

    Dear Arielle,

    My very best to your whole family as everyone shares in beautiful soul of your sister. Your personal sharing her with the rest of us is an additional gift we are benefiting from her life.

    God bless

  175. Reverend Abigail Peazer says:

    It was a joy to work with you, Debbie. I miss you already. Your work is so important to the planet, I trust that it continues to grow and flourish.

    Reverend Abby

  176. Kathy says:

    I am so very sorry for your loss, Arielle and thank you so much for your loving posts.

  177. Carmela says:

    Sorry to hear about this.

  178. Ann says:

    Ariel, thanks so very much for reaching out to all of us in your own time of loss. It is truly a gift to experience joy in the presence of sadness. You and Debbie have been a light to our consciousness, and I know you will continue to inspire and enchant us.
    May peace be with you and your loved ones.

  179. Patricia A. Kelly says:

    Dear Arielle,
    My heart goes out to you and your whole family at this time. Debbie brought some amazing gifts to the world, and I am forever a fan of her work – and of the courage it took her to share her work with the world. For the record – I am a fan of yours too for the same reason.

    My book club has discussed many a book written by either Debbie or Arielle Ford, and the insights shared have been invaluable. Thinking back on one meeting in particular, a member of the group recently reflected on our discussion, closed her book, smiled softly, and said, “these Ford girls ‘get’ us…”

    Thank you for having a place to post our thoughts and memories of Debbie. I am forever grateful for her body of work.

    Yours in sympathy,
    Patty Kelly

  180. Marcia Reece says:

    Arielle, I was in Hawaii when I learned of Debbie’s passing. Your sister was a treasure ~ just like you!! I know she must have learned many of life’s lessons from you. How blessed you both were to have such a special sister. I can only imagine how fun your times together must have been.

    I wrote a few thoughts about my experiences with Debbie. I hope you will find comfort and a few smiles as you read my thoughts.

    I send you my love and my blessings. Carry on the bright light…

    Love to you from Marcia

    Lessons from Debbie

    Some of the sweetness goes out of life, when a friend passes. And what a dear friend and shining life Debbie Ford was. Debbie Ford has in some way, in her special way, touched me deeply. How lucky I was to have walked with an angel.

    Debbie would have thanked all for being her support and life line during these tough past months. She would have thanked her doctors and her caretakers. And her precious family who helped with even the tough decisions, in those moments she must have questioned her path and the steps she would take. That’s just how she was.

    Debbie’s humor and happy outlook on life always made those around her laugh and feel lighter. She was a rudder in the life of so many. I have learned from the foot of a master and have inherited a precious legacy. It will be joy to now pass her work along.

    Debbie is so very rich; rich in the things which mattered in this world. She was rich in wisdom, honesty, honor and integrity, in love, in kindness and selflessness. If Debbie Ford ever gave you a compliment, you knew it was deserved. If she gave you an admonition, you knew it was deserved. If she gave you a blessing, you knew it was deserved. She was rich in family and rich in friends. It was an unspoken truth that Debbie cherished in her family and friends a certain spirituality. She didn’t care if her friends were fancy or famous, but she did seek and find their spiritual core.

    Debbie was what she seemed to be…..simplicity and spirituality. She could find the rainbow in a torrential downpour.

    Emerson said that “A friend is a masterpiece of nature.” Debbie was indeed that masterpiece.

    With Debbie, there were many transforming moments when you felt like you had touched the face of God. They were not spectacular eruptions, but quiet moments that held a quality of the HOLY. She knew that every day was important.

    Debbie’s spirit was huge. She showed me how to live in love, in simplicity and spirituality. She now has shown me with her strength, her grace and her enormous dignity how to fly with angels.

    Good-bye, dear friend. You have been a role model and a source of strength to me. I was honored to be your friend. I will carry you in my hearts forever and my life will never be the same without you. Thank you for your patience with me and thank you for letting me walk with an angel.

  181. Jeffrey Post says:

    This story has so many great emotions within… We find love courage strength gratitude happiness joy and of course grace…. The story also showed us feelings of pain loss and despair… ultimately there is an understanding of fortune greatness and integrity with sharing in the great moments of this life with someone we love… dying is a moment and not sad

  182. TropicalSoul says:

    Arielle – sending my deepest condolences, lots of light, limitless love, prayers & huge hugs on the passing of your beloved sister Debbie. I’m grateful that you have Brian at your side during this challenging time as well as the love you’ve and Debbie have put out into the world coming back your way!

  183. Michelle Mitchell says:

    Thank you, Thank you. Your sister~ship is much like mine and my sweet sister’s without illness, tho. And I can only image what it is to lose her and give her back to the angels that obviously flew with her on a daily basis. I am so pleased to have met Ms. Debbie at the Jackson Hole Wellness festival, she led the morning meditiation to open our heart chakra’s for the day of awesome speakers an knowledge. Strange as this may seem, I had a feeling of clairessence that she wasn’t up to par. Ms. Debbie still was vibrant as the shining star of the day anyway. I will always remember how beautiful her smile an strong voice boomed thru the Hall at Snow King Resort. Thank you, Thank you for being in my 100 year tour on this planet! Peace My Ladys~Michelle Mitchell

  184. Joanne Bryant says:

    Debbie’s book changed my life forever, she taught me how to know, love and embrace the dark sides of myself. Once you can truly love your dark side you are more able to balance with the light of your soul! I recommend her books daily to people who are on personal growth missions and wanting to find that deeper place within themselves. Thank you Debbie for not only shedding Light in your life but also for shedding your radiant Light in your passing!! See you on the other side of the veil! ♥ Love and Light ♥